Seasons of life

[Sirk]

I'm 42 and in a season of my life where all the old wounds from my upbringing are bleeding and I just can't seem to get my footing. I feel lost and confused and as tho God has left me stranded out here all alone. I'm seeing a great counseler and I have many friends but I still feel so alone and defeated. I really hope that this is a period of renewal and newfound strength because I really don't know how much more my little ole heart can take.

If any of you have had similar feelings and subsequent victories....please share them with me cuz I need a little hope right now.

 

[J-Kay-2]

I'm 42 and in a season of my life where all the old wounds from my upbringing are bleeding and I just can't seem to get my footing. I feel lost and confused and as tho God has left me stranded out here all alone. I'm seeing a great counseler and I have many friends but I still feel so alone and defeated. I really hope that this is a period of renewal and newfound strength because I really don't know how much more my little ole heart can take.

If any of you have had similar feelings and subsequent victories....please share them with me cuz I need a little hope right now.

"Is any sick among you? let him call for the elders of the church; and let them pray over him, anointing him with oil in the name of the Lord: and the prayer of faith shall save the sick, and the Lord shall raise him up; and if he have committed sins, they shall be forgiven him" (James 5:14,15).
Sirk, the above scripture IMO is good for more than a physical sickness. I believe
in anointing of oil for healing. I do not know what you are having issues with, and
I am a female, but a Mother of a grown son. I have watched him go through his own
issues, such as being a Christian raised in Christian home. I discovered he was having
to go to group therapy to talk out the issues being raised in Church 3x's a week, plus
going to Christian school, 5 days a week. Not to speak of my being a Christian
Mother. So, I will pray for you and ask God to walk you through the steps you must
take to begin to feel healed in your bleeding wounds.

I think whether we are male or female, we all have wounds that for some reason
begin to creep up on us. I have in past year asked, why now ? Why am I now dealing
with things that happened to me when I was young ?

Sir...I will certainly ask Jesus to walk with you and pray you get wise advice and
help you be healed.
With Love in Christ ~ J~ K~ 2

 

[ji]

I'm 42 and in a season of my life where all the old wounds from my upbringing are bleeding and I just can't seem to get my footing. I feel lost and confused and as tho God has left me stranded out here all alone. I'm seeing a great counseler and I have many friends but I still feel so alone and defeated. I really hope that this is a period of renewal and newfound strength because I really don't know how much more my little ole heart can take.

If any of you have had similar feelings and subsequent victories....please share them with me cuz I need a little hope right now.

Jesus felt the same when He was on the Cross,does people lesser than Him matter..?
When i went through situations where i could not move forward,'Jesus on the Cross'' was my Solution..He took the Greater Fall for me to Breathe and come into this world..

 

[ji]

"Is any sick among you? let him call for the elders of the church; and let them pray over him, anointing him with oil in the name of the Lord: and the prayer of faith shall save the sick, and the Lord shall raise him up; and if he have committed sins, they shall be forgiven him" (James 5:14,15).
Sirk, the above scripture IMO is good for more than a physical sickness. I believe
in anointing of oil for healing. I do not know what you are having issues with, and
I am a female, but a Mother of a grown son. I have watched him go through his own
issues, such as being a Christian raised in Christian home. I discovered he was having
to go to group therapy to talk out the issues being raised in Church 3x's a week, plus
going to Christian school, 5 days a week. Not to speak of my being a Christian
Mother. So, I will pray for you and ask God to walk you through the steps you must
take to begin to feel healed in your bleeding wounds.

I think whether we are male or female, we all have wounds that for some reason
begin to creep up on us. I have in past year asked, why now ? Why am I now dealing
with things that happened to me when I was young ?

Sir...I will certainly ask Jesus to walk with you and pray you get wise advice and
help you be healed.
With Love in Christ ~ J~ K~ 2

Love your profile pic....puts a smile on other's face..
God Bless..

 

[jogoldie]

If I had a dollar for everytime I hit brick walls ....but you know what I discovered....that when I think all hope is at the
end....I thank God for being at work in it......and sure as I am typing.....some big miraculous thing happens to me...
thats His promise...ive read it...ive even told others about it....but to actualy try it .....well come on.....its too easy..there
must be something else....nope...works everytime and im quite certain I over use its power.....I never like to hear of
a brother or sister struggle...but God says if we are fasting..not to mope around and be looking like we are suffering...
get up wash your face and get dressed...so we can show Him our faith....and be an example to others......you know as
well as I He is a loving and caring Father and never has He failed to do what is best for us....keep the faith my friend..
I am thanking God for you...cause we love your posts and miss your wit...
Father God I thank you for my brother sirk...thankyou for keeping him strong and faithful....I know you are already
at work in my brothers life rearranging things getting him ready for a miracle...I thank you in Jesus,s name.....amen
We are here for you my brother........peace and joy ...jo

 

[Sirk]

If I had a dollar for everytime I hit brick walls ....but you know what I discovered....that when I think all hope is at the
end....I thank God for being at work in it......and sure as I am typing.....some big miraculous thing happens to me...
thats His promise...ive read it...ive even told others about it....but to actualy try it .....well come on.....its too easy..there
must be something else....nope...works everytime and im quite certain I over use its power.....I never like to hear of
a brother or sister struggle...but God says if we are fasting..not to mope around and be looking like we are suffering...
get up wash your face and get dressed...so we can show Him our faith....and be an example to others......you know as
well as I He is a loving and caring Father and never has He failed to do what is best for us....keep the faith my friend..
I am thanking God for you...cause we love your posts and miss your wit...
Father God I thank you for my brother sirk...thankyou for keeping him strong and faithful....I know you are already
at work in my brothers life rearranging things getting him ready for a miracle...I thank you in Jesus,s name.....amen
We are here for you my brother........peace and joy ...jo

. Thank you for this heartwarming post.

 

[Billyd]

Read 2 Corinthians 12:9. It is my guiding light during my periods of depression.

 

[Lizathrose]

I'm 42 and in a season of my life where all the old wounds from my upbringing are bleeding and I just can't seem to get my footing. I feel lost and confused and as tho God has left me stranded out here all alone. I'm seeing a great counseler and I have many friends but I still feel so alone and defeated. I really hope that this is a period of renewal and newfound strength because I really don't know how much more my little ole heart can take.

If any of you have had similar feelings and subsequent victories....please share them with me cuz I need a little hope right now.

Sounds like a relatively common mid-life crisis, to me. It'll probably naturally pass as long as you receive enough support to reliably fall back on. If it doesn't, it could be a symptom of clinical depression, although that's rather unlikely. In either case, you'll probably cheer up soon enough.

 

[secularhermit]

Hi Sirk!

The hope is YOU. If you were unimportant you won´t feel it or won´t regret it. Yes! this is not the last, not the 1st, so life is like an ocean with too many waves going up and down.

Just learn to surf on them!

Joh 16:33 I've told you this so that my peace will be with you. In the world you'll have trouble. But cheer up! I have overcome the world."

 

[Sirk]

Thought I'd share a little update.....It seems that the disease to please has been a factor in bringing on this season of my life.....that the "Christian Nice Guy" is neither nice nor very Christian.

Having gone thru a marriage and subsequent divorce from an abusive emotional tyrant who took full advantage of my non assertive persona and mindset...essentially allowing other people to define me because I didn't want to offend anyone or cause discomfort in another by acting in any other way than the tamed, polite, self loathing person I was taught to be in the "Christian" upbringing I received.

I suppose it is time to break the chains of the CNG I have become and step back into life as the fearless Christian man that God wants me to be. Passivity and fear is the most damaging weapon in the devils arsenal against Jesus' example of manhood and both of those things hinder ones ability to truly love others. Modern interpretation of Jesus' paints him as a dove when in reality he was a fearless warrior against spiritual strongholds.

I feel better today and I am going to stop being a man fearing people pleaser and be bold and stop apologizing for who I am.

 

[jogoldie]

Aint revelation grand.....im so happy for you my brother....you have gotten your miracle....what a testimony
you have...may you stay focused and strong......now get out there and kick some devil butt......

 

[RedTent]

Thought I'd share a little update.....It seems that the disease to please has been a factor in bringing on this season of my life.....that the "Christian Nice Guy" is neither nice nor very Christian.

Having gone thru a marriage and subsequent divorce from an abusive emotional tyrant who took full advantage of my non assertive persona and mindset...essentially allowing other people to define me because I didn't want to offend anyone or cause discomfort in another by acting in any other way than the tamed, polite, self loathing person I was taught to be in the "Christian" upbringing I received.

I suppose it is time to break the chains of the CNG I have become and step back into life as the fearless Christian man that God wants me to be. Passivity and fear is the most damaging weapon in the devils arsenal against Jesus' example of manhood and both of those things hinder ones ability to truly love others. Modern interpretation of Jesus' paints him as a dove when in reality he was a fearless warrior against spiritual strongholds.

I feel better today and I am going to stop being a man fearing people pleaser and be bold and stop apologizing for who I am.

That is the key! You have been created by God for a work in the world that is unique to just you. Our growing up years are to help shape us for that work, but your responsibility is to God first. You owe respect to those who God used for you especially the people God used to create you, but you are to look at that training in the light of your talents and your purpose in life. After that, it is forgetting what is behind and going forward to what is ahead, as Paul pointed out.

I'm not much for reading any man's idea of what scripture says but there is a book I recommend to you about what the bible says about prayer, it seems to fit your place in your walk with the Lord so well. It is "Prayer Can Change Your Life" by Parker. It has a lot to say about fear.

 

[sassylady]

My ex husband molested our daughters, one has accepted help and is doing well. Her sister refused help and now 9 years later it has all come crashing down on her from the wounds and abuse. She is so confused and everything is now being exposed like an open would with salt rubbed in. But she has been holding onto God with everything she's got and getting help with a great counselor (also a Christian) and even though she has a long way to go. she is on her way. You have to take off the scab to get at the infection.

 

[PANCAKES]

I'm 42 and in a season of my life where all the old wounds from my upbringing are bleeding and I just can't seem to get my footing. I feel lost and confused and as tho God has left me stranded out here all alone. I'm seeing a great counseler and I have many friends but I still feel so alone and defeated. I really hope that this is a period of renewal and newfound strength because I really don't know how much more my little ole heart can take.

If any of you have had similar feelings and subsequent victories....please share them with me cuz I need a little hope right now.

You know it's funny, everytime I have issue going on spiritually, usually a lot of people on CC have them at the same time too. Not everyone, but I always seem to come across someone going through the same thing too. I'm right there with ya, let's hold fast to the truth we KNOW, but don't feel at the moment. Sometimes I think he's teaching us to not rely so much on our feelings/emotions, but the knowledge of truth. We'll be out of that pit in no time.

I know it feels icky though right now, I feel it too.