I was married for 18 years to a very abusive womaniser had 3 amazing kids but it ended in div . I was div for 16 years and got married a year ago but now i want out again. My husband is obsessed with my ex boy friend and compares everything to him. I dont talk mention or discuss any thing related to him or our past. I have moved on but he is stuck. He will pick a fight and scream and shout. Well if this is a happy marriage i dont want it. I am ready to bail. Any hope?
Second marriages any help out there?
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I used to be in a relationship with my husband years ago like that, thankfully due to the Lord He lead me through it. it was hard but I realised God was using the arguements and fights to examine ourselves, mainly y part, I couldnt control his relationship with the Lord, I just had to focus on my relationship with the Lord, I would constantly search your heart for known and unknown sin God will draw out, search your heart with what went on with your ex, and the marraige youve suffered, Let God sort your new husband out, with the arguements resolve in your self you will not let a man change who you are, the real you. reeber that person with Gods help he willo give you scriptures to live by, God gave me [h=3]Proverbs 15:1[/h]King James Version (KJV)
15 A soft answer turneth away wrath: but grievous words stir up anger.
when he is shouting and carrying on like a pork chop dont let your flesh rise, speak softly, kindly, gently, whisper if you have to, its very hard to have a shouting match with someone who it whispering back, itl take alot of self control, show him your maturity as a born again Christian, a child of God,speak from the wisdom God gives you from your heart, not loose lips with swearing and charactor assasinations to him, learn not to defend yourself because it puts you under their power like they are God and your judge, the Lord will defend you, it may take time but he will eventually soften and he will be shown up by his own calamities, let the Lord refine you, sins to let go, memories to heal from your previous marraige, Let the Lord be your safety not anything else you tend to lean on, keep reading and praying in Gods Word
My husband has soften quite emensely. i couldnt go through it again, I got to the spider of the web of his source of anger, Il be in prayer for you
15 A soft answer turneth away wrath: but grievous words stir up anger.
when he is shouting and carrying on like a pork chop dont let your flesh rise, speak softly, kindly, gently, whisper if you have to, its very hard to have a shouting match with someone who it whispering back, itl take alot of self control, show him your maturity as a born again Christian, a child of God,speak from the wisdom God gives you from your heart, not loose lips with swearing and charactor assasinations to him, learn not to defend yourself because it puts you under their power like they are God and your judge, the Lord will defend you, it may take time but he will eventually soften and he will be shown up by his own calamities, let the Lord refine you, sins to let go, memories to heal from your previous marraige, Let the Lord be your safety not anything else you tend to lean on, keep reading and praying in Gods Word
My husband has soften quite emensely. i couldnt go through it again, I got to the spider of the web of his source of anger, Il be in prayer for you
Hi lady..I think what saved said was right on the target.....jealously is one of the devils tools ....you cant fight a spiritual fight in the natural relm..
If this man was like the first husband I would say run like your hairs on fire.... but something tells me that you are baseing this on one issue...
Get that jealous spirit out of there....I dont know if your husband is a christian man...if he is than this is a somewhat easy fix...cast out the jealous
Dart the devil is hitting you with...sit down and write all the possitive things of your husband ...then maybe you might feel different...
Dont let them rob your joy.........peace and comfort come to you at Gods speed....
If this man was like the first husband I would say run like your hairs on fire.... but something tells me that you are baseing this on one issue...
Get that jealous spirit out of there....I dont know if your husband is a christian man...if he is than this is a somewhat easy fix...cast out the jealous
Dart the devil is hitting you with...sit down and write all the possitive things of your husband ...then maybe you might feel different...
Dont let them rob your joy.........peace and comfort come to you at Gods speed....