Separation

[honeybunny678]

Hi All,

I am a new member.

I just have a question. I am 24 going on 25 and am married to a non-believer. As I learn more about God and get into this walk and build a relationship with God, I know that I am going to be forced to separate from my husband.

My husband is a vet and diagnosed with PTSD. He says he hears voices, talks to himself quietly, and when he is in the presence of the Lord he can't sit still, and he's always up at night (he's very restless). I am concerned that he has a few demons in him.

Every-time we get into an argument I always just think about divorce, something just tells me to let go.

I feel like the Lord is telling me just go go ahead and let go...

 

[sandtigeress]

Sorry hun, the bible says, you have to let the unbeliever go, if he wants to go.
No one is forcing you to seperate.

You can think about seperation, if you want and think that even with gods help
you might not be able, to be a good helpmate and partner to your husband.
But there is no religious cause for it.

Talk to god, bring the situation to him. Pray for strength and for the holy spirit to guard you
against all you percieve in your husband.

 

[Nautilus]

Or instead of demons its just ptsd. Besides you said it yourself he is an unbeliever, why wouldnt he get bored and fidgety while people around him are doing believer things, he wouldnt recognize the presence of the lord anyways...i fail to see how this equates to demons.

 

[HoldingOn2013]

Hi Honeybunny welcome to CC.

I am also married to someone who's standing with God is a mystery to me. I used to not be, but that's a confusing subject and not for this thread. I have to say that you and I should model what a Christian is to our husbands. We can reach them through our walk with God more so than anything anyone can say to them. Divorce is not what God wants us to look forward to. We need to focus on why we fell in love with this person and who they are. Get back to those feelings and pray to God to work with them and guide them in their journey. Please remember that anything that does not come from peace and love is not from God. Your husband may have his struggles, but it sounds like you do too. (i'm talking to myself here too) When you have those thoughts of just "letting go"... quote scripture to yourself out loud. Find the scriptures about marriage and what a woman of God should be like. And what love and peace is in Christ. Don't let your mind, your thought life go in a dark direction because that is not from God.

It helps to let things out too. Just vent!!! Once it's out you tend to realize what you are feeling and can look at things differently. At least that works for me. Doing this with the right people is key because Christians should always uplift each other and encourage one another to get back to God. Venting to someone with an agenda will only get you in trouble.

God Bless...

 

[SeanS]

I feel like the Lord is telling me just go go ahead and let go...

NO HE ISN'T​

1 Corinthians 7:12 'But to the rest I say, not the Lord, that if any brother has a wife who is an unbeliever, and she consents to live with him, he must not divorce her'

GOD HATES DIVORCE

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Malachi 2:16 'For I hate divorce,” says the Lord, the God of Israel'

 

[yac11]

Hi All,

I am a new member.

I just have a question. I am 24 going on 25 and am married to a non-believer. As I learn more about God and get into this walk and build a relationship with God, I know that I am going to be forced to separate from my husband.

My husband is a vet and diagnosed with PTSD. He says he hears voices, talks to himself quietly, and when he is in the presence of the Lord he can't sit still, and he's always up at night (he's very restless). I am concerned that he has a few demons in him.

Every-time we get into an argument I always just think about divorce, something just tells me to let go.

I feel like the Lord is telling me just go go ahead and let go...

I feel like you need to get counsel regarding your husbands' diagnosis. Meaning.....I feel you need to put safe guards in place starting today if you haven't already done so. The men who have served our country are being let down and not cared for when they return. The wives....you are also being let down and possibly could be in arms way. I am giving this link for you just in case your not a researcher and don't self advocate for yourself.

NIMH

 

[isaria]

secret service
Nice.
I may also be in the secret service then


Your husband may need lots of support and understanding.
PTSD is very awful to live with.
It can be torturous for the who suffers from it.
Difficulty sleeping, voices, body pulling in billions directions at née, list goes on and often 24/7.


Maybe he needs space to heal.
Maybe you should live separate until he has healed more?
Maybe the church can help him heal and maybe you ask your church to pray for him?



Maybe you can encourage him to go to church or maybe pray in a open way without attending church but develop a relationship with God and maybe he will become christian.
Maybe he needs time.
Maybe he will never be christian.
Maybe you can accept that , as he is now or how he may be if he becomes christian.
Maybe someone from your church can help him heal his ptsd?
Maybe introduce him to a good christian you know who you beleive he would respect and truly like and listen to.

You can pray he will be and open up to it at least.


Only you and God are the one know truly when it time to let go.

Not knowing your situation or how you are living now.
If there is a true reason like abuse, adultery, misery and bad for eachother and sometimes non christians ridecule christians and abuse the religion and being married to someone ridecule you in what you hold sacred .


I do not beleive in the drugs they prescribe those with ptsd.
That does not heal.

What truly heals is so much more......