SON'S FATHER IS TORN, NEED PRAYER

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Rosie030

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I have been with my son's father for 12 years on and off. we are not married, which I pray about often. He deals with his ex, but crosses the line. He seems torn between both families. She has often told me, she will destroy our relationship at all cost. She is recently asking him to move to texas with her. I struggle and push him because of my insecurities. I need prayer in order to know what and how to deal with this situation. I feel lost. I am trying to trust in the Lord and know he will guide us in the right direction. I am not working and have too much time on my mind and I'll be honest it wonders, but he does not make the situation any better by dealing with her more than he should. I have no problem when it has to do with their son, but the past haunts me as he has left me before.

Help.
 
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eavila

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hey Rosie, i am happy that you are willing to share the troubles you are facing because its not easy to trust people you do not know. i Praise you for being strong. through my readings through the bible i have read alittle into matthews and in it he says he wants you to put all worry onto him for will you gain one hour through worry (out of memory i may have messed it up.) and even jesus calls onto disciples as "the of little faith" i know it may be hard but maybe the lord is trying to reach to you to bring you closer to him and to not worry about the sons father because we cannot change the people in our lives we can only give them the tools and pray they will strive to live for a better purpose. if he wants to follow texas girl let him go and do not burden yourself with his worrys because god hears your prayers and he wants to answer them but sometimes we have to sit in the "Waiting Room" while he works on us and to us it feels like nothing is happening, we get lost but this is the time we need to praise and know that he is working for us. God has heard you and and wants to work on you, sometimes the people we love the most we have to let go and just pray they find there way to god and if not then they will learn for themselves but right now that little boy looks up to you, he learns from the parents and now can be the time where you can show him what it means to have faith and to believe when all odds are against, i know i ramble alot but i hope i was able to help in some sort of way, God works in mysterious ways :)
 
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hattiebod

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Rosie030 said:
I have been with my son's father for 12 years on and off. we are not married, which I pray about often. He deals with his ex, but crosses the line. He seems torn between both families. She has often told me, she will destroy our relationship at all cost. She is recently asking him to move to texas with her. I struggle and push him because of my insecurities. I need prayer in order to know what and how to deal with this situation. I feel lost. I am trying to trust in the Lord and know he will guide us in the right direction. I am not working and have too much time on my mind and I'll be honest it wonders, but he does not make the situation any better by dealing with her more than he should. I have no problem when it has to do with their son, but the past haunts me as he has left me before.

Help.
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Focus your eyes on Jesus. We will never have peace as long as we live against His Word, His blessings will not flow over our lives, there will be conflict and sorrow. There is no easy solution...I am sure you love him, but you need to follow what God wants for you, not what you want for you...thats tough and the only way is through prayer. Communication and devotion to Him. But...your prayers will not be answered if what you pray for, is in opposition to His teachings and plans for your life. Get yourself into a strong church, get some Godly women who will be gentle yet strong and will walk with you...Allow God to lead, submit to Him and your path will become straight, your mountains lowered. He longs to Bless you, He is calling you. God Bless you! in His name, Hattie <><
 
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I would recommend you get some counseling from your pastor.

If you don't go to church regularly... this would be a very good time to start.
 
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Lucy68

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It may be time to find a job :). Working can really give you a sense of independence and self-satisfaction...and keep you busy. When we have too much unproductive time on our hands that's when Satan (and our fallen nature) will send us into places we shouldn't go...physically and mentally.

Do you attend church? Having a social group of 'nice' people will change your outlook. Not that Christians are perfect, but sincere Christians are very encouraging to be around. Do you have a Bible? Spending lots of time with God (by reading His Word) will do A LOT in helping you to not only cope in this world, but to THRIVE in it. Our time on earth should be good and full of spiritual growth. Accepting Christ is not only good for our eternal salvation, but it will also make our lives FULL of the most important things.

As we grow in the truth, we also need to follow Jesus' teachings. We receive more blessings when that happens. Not as a 'reward' but because as we become like-minded with Him, the Holy Spirit becomes able to work in our lives. It is a partnership. Salvation is a gift but the sanctification process is a joint effort :).

If this man is not willing to marry you, then you shouldn't be living with him. It may be time to become financially independent. If you can't afford a place to live by yourself, then finding a female roommate and sharing expenses may be the answer. Everyone needs to be able to support themselves by good means.

Praying for you....courage (you can be independent!), strength, wisdom and guidance from the Holy Spirit. May He work mightily in your life beginning right now :).
 
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hootowl

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Hi

Hey you do not want to share, I would love to see how he would feel if the shoe was on the other foot.
Your child deserves better than that, you deserve better than that.
You do not have a man there you have a loser. Get smart lose him

Hootowl
 
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