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J-Kay

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I am searching for a private support group for wives who
have mates who are beginning to have memory lapses or
possible beginning of dementia type symptoms.

Thanks and God Bless. J-Kay
 
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Nancyer

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I'm so sorry, I'll keep you in my prayers. 2 church members are dealing with this, one is in the last stages (her husband is already in a home) and one is just getting there. I am so grateful I never had to deal with this with my parents, and my x husband is only 48. I can only imagine the difficulties. Hugs to you.

Good that you are noticing signs, if that is indeed what they are and not just regular forgetfulness. Please get dr. check ups asap, don't wait. Medications can do wonders, if given early; at the very least they can postpone symptoms. One friend said a week after the last adjustment to her husband's medications she went to see him and he was in the common area talking with another gentleman, and before he never left his room.

Lord help J-Kay to stay strong, give her wisdom and understanding and hold her in Your arms tightly when she needs that extra hug. I pray she finds the people and resources she may need. I also ask for You to heal as only You can, if that is Your will. With gratitude for all You have done and all You will do, Amen.
 
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J-Kay

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@Thank you Nancy. I hoped there could be a private group where
one could share various emotions we, as wife feel as we start down
a new unknown path. We do have a physician. She is treating him
for borderline diabetes. How does a wife tell her husband she sees
changes without coming out as sounding mean. I think he knows
something is amiss. But, I needed your prayers because I do indeed
have been asking God... what do I do ? I don't want to burden my
two online friends I have by sharing all the details. They are great
support as far as listening, and praying for us, but I know with a group
it is understood we aren't burdening one another, but supporting,
Just like you did. I thank you so much for catching this and understanding.
When a wife has been accustomed to having a strong, hard working,
intelligent husband for nearly 50 yrs. and these changes begin to show
up, I am like, what do I do? He has always kept our home updated and
it still is. But there are some things needing to be done and he sort of
gets like a blank look and honestly does not feel like doing it. WE have
hired some things done. He isn't quite there..... by that I mean he is
not totally mentally off balance, and it could be his carotid arteries are
blocked, however, they do keep him checked. Oxygen to the brain due
to apnea ? We will see our cardiologist in August. In mean time I will
try to convince him to see our family doctor and maybe give her a heads
up before he sees her. I think she thinks I am the one with the problem
by sharing things I see going downward with him, and he tells her he is
fine.
I am sorry, I didn't mean to ramble on. Again thank you for the prayer
and I am going to take that to heart and believe God has heard it and
His will be done, and He will guide me every step of the way. In mean
time we need to pray my nerves can withstand what I can't not change.
God bless you.
 
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BishopSEH

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J-Kay, is he able to teach? What i mean is if he has skills that can be passed on to a young man that act of teaching might slow the memory loss by making him use his memory. Signing him up to read to kids will also help. The key is to keep him using all he has. What your facing is not easy so while you can get a mini tape recorder and talk to him about favorite memories from your life together. This will help later when he can't remember anymore. If you have young grandkids these tapes will also serve for them to learn from their grandpa. Most of all spend as much time with him as you can. As he goes through this he is going to need you like never before. Also as you notice him forgetting thing around the house that he needs to know, label them. He might get annoyed at first but that will pass.

If you private message my your city and state I would be happy to assist you in finding a support group in your area.

In Christ,

Bishop SEH
 
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psalm6819

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Hi J-Kay,

My husband Tom got the diagnosis three years ago (along with many other issues) He's a little forgetful and a little cranky sometimes but the Dr's gave his prognosis for survival very poor and said the dementia would wipe out what brain he had left. So like no hope. Pretty cold. I read alot about it. God can help you and him. Keeping active is the key. Wheel of Fortune, Jeopardy, Password help make them think, if your husband likes crosswords or number puzzles. (Whoops, fragment) We used to play Scrabble alot but not as much the last couple months. Routine is very important, a schedule gives structure to the day. I watch the (groan) military channel with Tom sometimes so he can talk about the service. Get out his Mom's albums, those things give them comfort. Tom's doing well, mowed the grass today and I'm beliving God's going to sustain him. If you would like you can message me anytime. God bless you Sister

2 Tim 1:7 For God hath not given us a spirit of fear, but of power, and of love and of a SOUND mind.
 
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J-Kay

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Thanks to all who have shared helpful tips. I am sorry to make this
sound like he is as bad as it sounded. He simply has spells like this.
He is a loner. He does do crosswords. He likes game shows. He really
is intelligent man, and having the issue with bordering sugar diabetes,
it is possible we are just needing a change in medication. If it is something
creeping up like Parkinson, then we will know. I am the one who has had
problem watching him go through these odd times. I may be at fault
and need to stay off computer and try spending more time with him.
Nevertheless, the prayers said have been helpful for me. I did not
intend to make it sound so bad. We will get through this with Gods
help. God bless all.
 
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Nancyer

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I wanted to say hi, hope you are doing ok. Sunday at church one of our members, a very active, involved woman who's father-in-law has dementia is becoming very involved with the home he is in. I saw your last post that your husband is no where near that point but I thought you would like this.

She is helping to organize a Senior Prom for the residents. I have agreed to help in anyway that I can. This might be a good idea for you, to get involved in your local organization where you can find resources, information, etc., and have a better idea of what you MIGHT be need to expect.

I do think you should be able to talk to him about this, though. Maybe he doesn't see it as you do. Like a skinny person looking in a mirror and thinking she's fat. A lot of us don't see our quirks until someone points them out. Do it kindly, lovingly, not like your accusing or pointing fingers.

Also there are games you can play that help train the brain - workout for the brain. I've heard they are a lot of fun but very good for us, keeping our brains in shape, so to speak.

Ok, that's it. Hope this helps,
God Bless,

 
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J-Kay

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Nancyer said:
I wanted to say hi, hope you are doing ok. Sunday at church one of our members, a very active, involved woman who's father-in-law has dementia is becoming very involved with the home he is in. I saw your last post that your husband is no where near that point but I thought you would like this.

She is helping to organize a Senior Prom for the residents. I have agreed to help in anyway that I can. This might be a good idea for you, to get involved in your local organization where you can find resources, information, etc., and have a better idea of what you MIGHT be need to expect.

I do think you should be able to talk to him about this, though. Maybe he doesn't see it as you do. Like a skinny person looking in a mirror and thinking she's fat. A lot of us don't see our quirks until someone points them out. Do it kindly, lovingly, not like your accusing or pointing fingers.

Also there are games you can play that help train the brain - workout for the brain. I've heard they are a lot of fun but very good for us, keeping our brains in shape, so to speak.

Ok, that's it. Hope this helps,
God Bless,
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Thank you for the tip. I am afraid I have made this sound more
than it should have been. He does know he is making mistakes
at times. But he is a fighter. He really does work to keep himself
active, mentally and physically. If he is headed in that direction,
it comes and goes. That is what is confusing to me. Nevertheless,
as I said I am the one who was having issues with the changes
and dreaded bogging down my few sisters in Christ with my fears.
It is good to know IF this really becomes an issue, I will seek out
group to help me. In the meantime, the Lord is my helper and so
far we are doing well. Thank you so much.
 
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