Teenage daughter non-believer

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Beesy

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My 15 year old daughter seems to be turning into more and more of a non-believer, maybe even fully atheist. She rolls her eyes when we pray, scoffs at people who are charitable to others or who pray for others and she seems to have very little empathy for others. She is very well-behaved at school, but very disrespectful at home. When I try to talk with her, she rebuffs me. I find myself awake at night worrying and praying over her immortal soul. Has anyone else dealt with this?
 
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I raised three daughters, and yes I let them all live to be adults....barely but we survived. I do have one daughter who, like yours, rolls her eyes when I try to incorporate God into her daily life or into our conversations. She's 22 now, and while I KNOW she believes, I can only trust God to move her heart the way He needs it to be moved. I realized that just because she shows me one thing doesn't mean that's how she really believes. Teens CAN BE testy, snarly, inexcusable creatures, and then turn around in the same breath and be the sweetest most loving creatures on creation....They are simply trying to figure out where they fit into the world, and if they never test their boundaries they will never truly know what those boundaries are. Keep praying for your daughter, and with her. Keep her boundaries clear. Most of all...trust God with her heart. It's all we can really do.
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Beesy said:
My 15 year old daughter seems to be turning into more and more of a non-believer, maybe even fully atheist. She rolls her eyes when we pray, scoffs at people who are charitable to others or who pray for others and she seems to have very little empathy for others. She is very well-behaved at school, but very disrespectful at home. When I try to talk with her, she rebuffs me. I find myself awake at night worrying and praying over her immortal soul. Has anyone else dealt with this?
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I have no kids, so I can't say I've ever dealt with it. What comes to mind is maybe you should first make sure you are not putting too much pressure on her "to be religious." She might be doing just fine. All she needs to do is obey the commandments. If she's not obeying the commandments, then you should address that.
 
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Pr 22:6 Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it.

I cannot say what God will do but I know God is faithful to His word. God may take a child out to the woodshed and chastise them before they see the wisdom of obedience to Gods word.

Keep her in a good environment and continue to honor God with your life. God will honor His word in her life. She just might be the kind that is only able to learn through pain and suffering.

Heb 12:6 For whom the Lord loveth he chasteneth, and scourgeth every son whom he receiveth.


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I used to have a friend who would roll her eyes and make innapropriate jokes while her family prayed, she would also be on her phone paying no attention to church.
This was because she was an athiest, but God did reach out to her and she believes again.
I hope He reaches out to your daughter!
 
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Beesy, Just some encouragement in the Lord for you...At the age of 15, there is a lot of growing pains that teen's will go through, from wanting to me independent, to being the boss, not wanting to conform to family rules & the list goes on...Your probably thinking that doesn't sound like encouragement to me...I raised a daughter & she was really an overall well balanced teenager, but I think a lot of the "attitudes etc.. are area of growth & maturity that is developing. Being a good role model & walking in Love always towards your children. Jesus promises to help us "instill" all of the Godly characteristics in our children. Lifting up our children in prayer daily is crucial & then simply trust that your 15 year old daughter will recognize the sweetness of Gods love for her. Entrust her to the Lord daily, and you will sense the Lords peace for her life & future...
 
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I am a teenager and I know what your daughter is going through. She is living in the moment. How can I explain it? Hmm. Well, let's just say when the time comes, she will know that she isn't a mom believer. Believe me, I was not a religious person before... Now, look at me. Blessed with great people in my life and the Holy Spirit to guide me.
 
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Well there is nothing worse than growing up in a religious home and not having a relationship with God. Just pray that God lets his will be done. Dont force her to stay when you pray, dont force her to church, take a step back and let God take over. I was a satanist. My mom took a step back and prayed for me when I wasnt around and took a step back and just let God take over. It took over a year but now *waves here I am standing strong in the spirit of the Lord. Pray to have enough patience and watch God work
 
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Thank you all for the kind words of encouragement. I am continuing to pray and am also looking more closely at what example I am setting. Also, I am trying to see beyond the teenage attitude for times when her heart does shine through. God Bless all of you
 
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Beesy said:
My 15 year old daughter seems to be turning into more and more of a non-believer, maybe even fully atheist. She rolls her eyes when we pray, scoffs at people who are charitable to others or who pray for others and she seems to have very little empathy for others. She is very well-behaved at school, but very disrespectful at home. When I try to talk with her, she rebuffs me. I find myself awake at night worrying and praying over her immortal soul. Has anyone else dealt with this?
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Purposefully take her out to help the less fortunate. Take her to some run down old trailer shacks, knock on the door, and see if the people could use any help. Mowed lawns, clean kitchen, pets, anything. I don't care how much their poverty or their lack of social skills scares you. God says do not fear man (Matthew 10:28).

Also, compel her to read Proverbs. It's Wisdom and it will stick in her heart at her young age. You're the mom, you still have authority. I wouldn't be forceful about it, but in a loving way let her know you would love and appreciate if she read Proverbs all the way through, even several times. Just ask her to read a few chapters sometimes, and maybe even discuss what she read with her.

Might help a whole lot.
 
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I can't relate to the experience of raising a teenager, but I decided to become a Dianic Wiccan (pagan) around the age of 15. My parents didn't raise me Christian, but a significant portion of my family are devout Christians so I wasn't totally in the dark about Christianity. Still, I was determined to follow the path of Wicca. Long story short, at age 30, I was saved by Christ. My heart would not have been in a position to accept Christ had I not been through those experiences, so sometimes I wonder if God does work through people who aren't believers.

Keep praying! You daughter may just come around but in her own time.
 
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Beesy said:
My 15 year old daughter seems to be turning into more and more of a non-believer, maybe even fully atheist. She rolls her eyes when we pray, scoffs at people who are charitable to others or who pray for others and she seems to have very little empathy for others. She is very well-behaved at school, but very disrespectful at home. When I try to talk with her, she rebuffs me. I find myself awake at night worrying and praying over her immortal soul. Has anyone else dealt with this?
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Why do you allow her to be so disrespectful at home? She needs to be taught. No offense intended, but she sounds like a spoiled brat. You deal with it by changing how she's acting... jmo
 
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Beesy said:
My 15 year old daughter seems to be turning into more and more of a non-believer, maybe even fully atheist. She rolls her eyes when we pray, scoffs at people who are charitable to others or who pray for others and she seems to have very little empathy for others. She is very well-behaved at school, but very disrespectful at home. When I try to talk with her, she rebuffs me. I find myself awake at night worrying and praying over her immortal soul. Has anyone else dealt with this?
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Guide her to read the Bible. You could write down verses from Proverbs which is wisdom to live life, or elsewhere, and give them to her often. She'll probably read them. Do you have a facebook? FILL IT with Scripture.
 
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