My wife's aunt (a TOTAL control freak b!tch) took her mom (who has had a stroke and cannot speak) to her hometown 2 years ago, but returned early. For those 2 years she has blamed the early return on her mom, saying as soon as she got there mom wanted to come home. I found out from those in town that was a lie. The control freak was mistreating her mom (as she does with everyone), and when she was called out on it by her cousin (who never goes off on anyone) the control freak left.
My wife's sister (who recently died of ovarian cancer) was married to an absolute abuser. This father continued to abuse his son until his son told his teacher. the teacher called child services who took the boy from him. The father told child service that he never touched his son, that it was his dead wife (who was a total pacifist) who beat on him.
The whole family, except for my wife and I and her brother and his wife have rallied around the dad, blaming my wife for everything. One niece even went onto facebook and threatened her. Funny thing is, child services placed the kid with us. With us, he went from a defiant wild child to a good and pleasurable kid. He was put back with his father yesterday and it's meltdown city once again.
What do you do with a family who places blame for their actions on people who can't speak up and defend themselves with the truth? Who think this kid and his father should be left alone to duke it out in a last man standing format? The control freak is absolutely psychotic and needs serious help and medication. But she rules the roost and no one but us will challenge her - and of course to all of them WE are the problem.
What do you do with people like this? Especially when they are family? I'm washing my hands of all of them. They are family no more.
My wife's sister (who recently died of ovarian cancer) was married to an absolute abuser. This father continued to abuse his son until his son told his teacher. the teacher called child services who took the boy from him. The father told child service that he never touched his son, that it was his dead wife (who was a total pacifist) who beat on him.
The whole family, except for my wife and I and her brother and his wife have rallied around the dad, blaming my wife for everything. One niece even went onto facebook and threatened her. Funny thing is, child services placed the kid with us. With us, he went from a defiant wild child to a good and pleasurable kid. He was put back with his father yesterday and it's meltdown city once again.
What do you do with a family who places blame for their actions on people who can't speak up and defend themselves with the truth? Who think this kid and his father should be left alone to duke it out in a last man standing format? The control freak is absolutely psychotic and needs serious help and medication. But she rules the roost and no one but us will challenge her - and of course to all of them WE are the problem.
What do you do with people like this? Especially when they are family? I'm washing my hands of all of them. They are family no more.