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I realize that when a man chooses to marry a widow with children, it is easier to accept those children as your own.
Since you both committed adultery you have no basis for an issue with her adultery.
The mess is NOT THE CHILD'S FAULT; and your relationship with your wife; if you are man enough to continue in it, will make the child yours in every way that matters.
Since you both committed adultery you have no basis for an issue with her adultery.
The mess is NOT THE CHILD'S FAULT; and your relationship with your wife; if you are man enough to continue in it, will make the child yours in every way that matters.
WOW..all the makings here of a realistic soap opera for sure! However, how deep is your spiritual walk, together? Keep in mind, the future child that is on the way. Only through the eyes of JESUS can this be worked out. IF all parties are on board, and the focus is on the newborn child who came from this, the answers will be worked out daily..in HIS plan. That means NO temper tantrums, NO blaming, no telling the child all the old baggage and hatred. Imagine only love and respect, balanced in this situation..It can be done, but only by allowing the Holy SPIRIT to move upon this. The full responsibility does land on the adults here, not the children. DO not let them suffer from past mistakes..and keep in mind that this future child is NOT a mistake in GOD's world.
Dear Heavenly Father, I have sinned against you and my Wife. Father, I am frustrated and angry with my wife over her extra curricular activities and I am now crushed emotionally, after finding out she has, not only been with another man, but has become pregnant by him. Father I don't feel I can take this, yet I do, underneath it all, want to love her... 'till death do us part.
Father I have been confused because I have sinned and fallen from going to you directly, I have cheated on my wife, I have put myself before her many different times over different ways, Father I have been looking at this from my sight. I thought to rationalize my affair because an eye for an eye, but As I have been in your Word lately in prayer trying to seek out your answers, I now understand, as the Holy Spirit has been whispering the scriptures clearly through impressions, that you want ME to change first.
I need to live my life not needing advice from others. I need advice from you. But I see scripture tells me that you don't respond to people who need you...You respond to people that Heed You!, So, Father I come prone before you , a clean slate as you speak to me....God, help me specifically in my faithfulness to my wife. Father I pray you will help me lead her to you as well, thru the Holy Spirits guide, in a deeper way that will have us both in your arms day by day. But Father it will take a miracle.
I need forgiveness, of lost trust, I need to give forgiveness for lost trust, I believe you can give us that, and I claim that. Father, I need to stop using my human considerations and subjective thinking as a way of life and begin to plant my roots deep, or the sun will come up and scorch and wither our marriage away and it will die.
Father I have decided without hesitation to go after my wife, and to be faithful to my love that you have ordained. You say if you have put us together let no man put asunder. I claim that as well. You say let your yes be yes and your no be no, and I claim responsibility for that oath as well.
Help me Father see the wisdom in your views on marriage. Even tho I have cause to divorce based on adultery, Yet, I know your character...I know you prefer forgiveness and so do I. I want my wife , God help us stay together whatever that may cost me..I surrender! Father this will be tough now that we both have sinned. I also know that the consequences to sin won't leave, yet you can be our refuge, and you will forgive if I but confess and live my life now faithfully toward you. And Father I ask for the protection and authority found on my placement of myself in you, to keep the flame darts of Satan away from devouring us, I claim victory thru you over his influence, and believe in that without doubt!
Be with my wife and help her, be with the newborn child and help me love it, be with the father to be and help me even love him in time, as you heal me..I praise you for what you are about to do, and I return to daily prayer and reading of your Word Father, thank you and may you receive the glory from answered prayer...Amen!!
That's all that came to my mind today to say in response...God bless!
Father I have been confused because I have sinned and fallen from going to you directly, I have cheated on my wife, I have put myself before her many different times over different ways, Father I have been looking at this from my sight. I thought to rationalize my affair because an eye for an eye, but As I have been in your Word lately in prayer trying to seek out your answers, I now understand, as the Holy Spirit has been whispering the scriptures clearly through impressions, that you want ME to change first.
I need to live my life not needing advice from others. I need advice from you. But I see scripture tells me that you don't respond to people who need you...You respond to people that Heed You!, So, Father I come prone before you , a clean slate as you speak to me....God, help me specifically in my faithfulness to my wife. Father I pray you will help me lead her to you as well, thru the Holy Spirits guide, in a deeper way that will have us both in your arms day by day. But Father it will take a miracle.
I need forgiveness, of lost trust, I need to give forgiveness for lost trust, I believe you can give us that, and I claim that. Father, I need to stop using my human considerations and subjective thinking as a way of life and begin to plant my roots deep, or the sun will come up and scorch and wither our marriage away and it will die.
Father I have decided without hesitation to go after my wife, and to be faithful to my love that you have ordained. You say if you have put us together let no man put asunder. I claim that as well. You say let your yes be yes and your no be no, and I claim responsibility for that oath as well.
Help me Father see the wisdom in your views on marriage. Even tho I have cause to divorce based on adultery, Yet, I know your character...I know you prefer forgiveness and so do I. I want my wife , God help us stay together whatever that may cost me..I surrender! Father this will be tough now that we both have sinned. I also know that the consequences to sin won't leave, yet you can be our refuge, and you will forgive if I but confess and live my life now faithfully toward you. And Father I ask for the protection and authority found on my placement of myself in you, to keep the flame darts of Satan away from devouring us, I claim victory thru you over his influence, and believe in that without doubt!
Be with my wife and help her, be with the newborn child and help me love it, be with the father to be and help me even love him in time, as you heal me..I praise you for what you are about to do, and I return to daily prayer and reading of your Word Father, thank you and may you receive the glory from answered prayer...Amen!!
That's all that came to my mind today to say in response...God bless!
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I recommend you seek Godly counseling. And seek the Lord. Also remember the child is innocent. God knew this child was being made before you guys reconciled. If He led you to accept her back, well there you go. Doing what God wants is not always easy. A great book to read: Redeeming Hope by Francine Rivers. Also, the Bait of Satan by John Bevere. And might I be as bold to recommend two web sites: ihopkc.org go to live prayer room 24/7 anytime... Add the app and listen anytime. Also, go to BethYeshuaInternational and the preaching is phenomenal... Although like any teaching only the Word is infaible. I agree, do not make this decison hastily. Go get prayer from Holy Spilled sincere belivers that you know are full of Gods Word. And trust that when you ask God for wisdom He will indeed give it to those who believe. ((((Hugs from Georgia)))) I say all this in a place of understanding. My husband who is a believer has been using drugs, lying, and in havy rebellion. I stay and I wait on the Lord. However I did leave for less than a week recently and once for a few months in 2006. Yes, I have waited 14 years for Him to repent and follow Jesus. Of course there is more to this story. Right now God is showing me my bitterness towards him, and how I need to live him and to pray more, and to forgive as Jesus forgave me while on the cross. Is it hard? You bet. But when I get in that sweet spot of prayer and His presence none of it matters. As long as I do what God wants, and I'm in His will. Then my circumstances, like Daniel in the Lions Den, or King David in the caves, or Ester, or ll the great men and women of the Bible... Even Jonah who fought the call on His life, and had to find out the hard way being in digestive juices of a fish... Not a child's story, but a real event. So heed the Word, but also I realize that nobody's situation is cookie cut out the same, so I pray that God shows you exactly what you are to do. I'm adding you as a friend to continue to pray for you as long as we are friends.
One ne last thing: Get very Godly men around you that hear from the Lord. You really need that right now!
A song ing for you: http://youtu.be/2JsRER353cs
One ne last thing: Get very Godly men around you that hear from the Lord. You really need that right now!
A song ing for you: http://youtu.be/2JsRER353cs
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And can I add that maybe your and ER the child remind you that God forgives us daily of so much against Him... As well as a pivotal time in your life to turn fully to Him, to His will, and for you to become more like Him. As well as if you decide to take this child in, that God took us in although Gentiles as well as the lost being adopted into His Kingdom... What a treasure every single life is... And this is your babies sibling. You can become a loving example this child will cherish for all eternity. But again, no condemnation in Christ. You do exactly what God tells you... As long as you do that, you will be blessed even through the waves and circumstances of this short time on this Earth. Shalom~ Godly Soul Peace
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And can I add that maybe your and ER the child remind you that God forgives us daily of so much against Him... As well as a pivotal time in your life to turn fully to Him, to His will, and for you to become more like Him. As well as if you decide to take this child in, that God took us in although Gentiles as well as the lost being adopted into His Kingdom... What a treasure every single life is... And this is your babies sibling. You can become a loving example this child will cherish for all eternity. But again, no condemnation in Christ. You do exactly what God tells you... As long as you do that, you will be blessed even through the waves and circumstances of this short time on this Earth. Shalom~ Godly Soul Peace
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I read your prayer after my comments. Also, I think we are friends? Sorry I'm still new here and some how posted twice too. I Am agreeing with you in your request in your above prayer. And praising God for your faith as you walk this out. Another song:
http://youtu.be/QVLsetJxlKU
http://youtu.be/QVLsetJxlKU
Either you raise his kid or he raises yours.
What's more important to you, your son or your pride. You are going to have to give one of them up, that's the only decision you have to make.
Your decision will confirm whether you are a man walking in Christ, or a man walking in the flesh.
I will pray for your son and the unborn child.
Good luck brother
God bless
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First i want say i am sorry about your situation.What do you think what would Jesus do on this situation ? I think he is gonna forgive you and your wife for sure if you really feel sorry for that.I think you should do the same forgive to your wife and move on,you can accept this babe.People sometimes doing mistakes but we are christians and we should forgive what ever it happens.i want talk more about this i can help you but if you can send me message on my profile if that is possible on this chat and group.God is always with you so he will give you all your answers and he will help you .
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Your situation reminds me of a couple who were guest speakers at our church by the name of Bob and Audrey Meisner. You can look them up on the internet. They have a Christian TV or radio show in Canada. Basically they were leaders at a church when the wife betrayed him and had an affair. She became pregnant with another mans child. They share their beautiful story of reconciliation and how they chose to raise the baby together. They also had 3 other children together at the time. The husband shares about how angry and painful it was for him. He admits that his busyness contributed to her having an affair. He shares his journey of how God walked him through this forgiveness and healing process. They now have a ministry where they bring hope to other marriages who are struggling. I pray that you take the time and read or listen to their story over the internet. I believe it will bless you. I feel that affairs don't have to be the end of a marriage if the two people give it to Jesus.
Bob and Audrey Meisner-- you can view it off of CBN. com online. Google their names, there's plenty of info on them. They also wrote a book too.
Bob and Audrey Meisner-- you can view it off of CBN. com online. Google their names, there's plenty of info on them. They also wrote a book too.
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As Christians we are to be Christlike which means show unconditional love. If youlove her and she loves you and you both are working on the marriage than continue to do so. It will not be easy but it is possible and do not use it against her it could have possibly been the woman you once were with. Use this time to heal and move forward pray your way through GOD will be with you all be hopefull.
Blessings!!!!!!!
Blessings!!!!!!!
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you seem like your in love and bent on reconciliation at all costs, as am i. i made excusses for an ex, i have such great compassion for her, she has been through so much and i wanted to show her a Godly man and his God could make her golden years beautiful. a love she never had. i waffled back and forth so many times. i even noticed i reason differently at different times of the day. ie. compassionate and accepting in the mornings upon waking. you must deal with the other child and his father every day, the thought of how your wife disrespected you. i think this requires deep thought from you. personally i couldn't keep doing it, i would divorce. these are the consequences.
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Yes what your wife did was bad but please don't take it out on the kid. The kid has nothing to do with this and couldn't help that it was created. It didn't choose to wind up in your wife's stomach. Leave the baby out of it and work on your feelings towards your wife. Get some marriage counseling if you think you need it. Once you resolve your feelings with your wife then and only then think about the baby. But don't make a rash choice that will affect a child's life because you're angry at his mom.