What are your thoughts? Marriage & Trust

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Ya

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When married, do you think that a Spouse has a 'Right' to constantly go through his/her partners phone looking for trouble or signs of infedelity? Even though TRUST has already been established but seems to be nothing more than a word because the suspecting spouse KNOWS in his/her's heart that their partner has been faithful but yet chooses to wonder, suspect, stress and even go as far as throwing accusations based off of his/her's own personal struggles (refusing to accept it) is it fair and should One have to yet suffer through it?
My marriage has suffered tremendously because of this along with a number of other issues but this seems to be one of if not the greatest one. I have prided myself on being a faithful loving supportive spouse once I married and I finally did and I am torn down almost daily with questions or accusations. Has gone on for a year now and I have no other way to turn. I've told God now I see no other way out but to walk away.
I don't know the last time I've even been truly happy.
 
Jette

Jette

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May 11, 2013
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Okay, first things first, Is this offending spouse a Christian? If you are a Christian do you pray for your spouse? I am talking about really praying for your spouse, not only praying about the problems and wrong going on in the marriage. I have a lot more to say about this, but my thoughts on this matter are not popular to most.
 
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Animus

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Counselling? It's hard to tell what is really going on from your description, which makes me believe that either you have no idea why she feels the way she does, or you know why, but don't want to mention it. In the first case, you should probably figure out, because this seems like it could be a communication problem (but again, hard to tell from your description). I have some trouble believing that a wife would be this way without any reason whatsoever, and that she would continuously be looking for something even though she has never found a trace of anything. However, if this is the case, then maybe she needs professional help, in which case, a counselor would be the best person to tell her.
 
secularhermit

secularhermit

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May 3, 2013
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I don´t know if what I say my serve you as a reference Ya.

If you are handsome, if she knows how you are seen, she may feel week or jelous for the way she knows other´s ways woman think.

Besides, if sha was hurt, a lot, she might regret loosing you. She is aware of the risk of having you, and she isn´t enough sure she deserved you, by that married.

Of course, there is some problem with selfsteem.

Go to an specialist on those fears (she has fears) and work on that. Otherwise, she might loose what she got and, if you have children, they will suffer those fears and will hear those ideas your wife has.

Spare them additional troubles, please.
 
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