what do u do when u hate your spouse?

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judebee

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my wifes a disrespecful jerk! shes selfesh and ignorant and self righteous! were seperated! HOW DO I GET OUT WITH MY HANDS CLEAN TO LATER IN LIFE FIND SOMEONE ELSE??????
 
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keep_on_smiling

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You chose to marry her for a reason. I suggest really praying for her and the situation you are in.

I know it's hard to show someone you them, especially when you are feeling the way you have described but showing her love will help. I don't know why you have separated from her, but the marriage bond you have made with her shouldn't be broken unless unfaithfulness is involved or she is leaving you.

Try not to do anything out of anger or hurt, especially so quickly. Seek God and ask him for help.
 

Sevndust

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my wifes a disrespecful jerk! shes selfesh and ignorant and self righteous! were seperated! HOW DO I GET OUT WITH MY HANDS CLEAN TO LATER IN LIFE FIND SOMEONE ELSE??????

with all due respect (and i do mean this when i say it), don't you think you're being kinda vague? did you come here to seek out help or did you just wish to complain? perhaps share more of your situation and maybe you'll get some decent responses.
 

Cheekygrin

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AC/DC's 'Dirty Deeds' comes to mind:

You got a lady and you want her gone
But you ain't got the guts
She keeps naggin' at you night 'n' day
Enough to drive you nuts
Pick up the phone, leave her alone
It's time you made a stand
For a fee, I'm happy to be
Your back door man

Not that I would know who AC/DC are or would ever listen to them of course *smiles a cheesy greasy self righteous smile*

On a more serious note, you're the man. So man up. Take up your God given spiritual authority and close in on the spiritual issue involved and then put it to the sword. Examine yourself and look for EVERY possible area that you could be at fault, then, and ONLY then start to look for issues elsewhere. Be open and honest with your partner, for that is what she is. Your partner. Make your expectations of yourself and her clear to each other. Do so prayerfully. Then, be the man you're called to be. Tough enough to bring the situation to order. Keep your duty foremost in mind, ''Seek first the Kingdom of God and His righteousness'' ''Husbands, love your wives as Christ loved the Church and gave Himself for her''. Armed with weapons that are divine in power to demolish strongholds and exercising them with righteous wisdom, you will see results.

Keep us posted on your quest.
 
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my wifes a disrespecful jerk! shes selfesh and ignorant and self righteous! were seperated! HOW DO I GET OUT WITH MY HANDS CLEAN TO LATER IN LIFE FIND SOMEONE ELSE??????
I think you should remain faithful to your wife as long as she is faithful to you. That doesn’t mean you can’t befriend another lady, but I think you should keep a safe distance from the other lady.
 
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rus_lady

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u spoke so negative about a woman that was ur wife hmmm ... the question is this ... have u ever loved her ? and are u sure that problem only in her ? i am more then sure that its not i am sorry ...
 
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judebee

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oh i loved her. she cussed me out, stole my property, gave my clothes away and lied to friends on me...and thats only the tip! shes EXTREMLY disrespectful to me, and all she does when i ASK to talk is hang up and say ''im not having this discussion'' and hangs up! then changes her number! all over money and my belief in the bible. im messianic
 
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rus_lady

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how long u been married i wonder ... if this really true how u put it all then sounds like she used u ... but only God knows the truth ...
 
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LynnJ

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Have you tried marriage counseling, Judebee? Not with a pastor, but with a professional Christian marital counselor. They can be extremely helpful at getting to the heart of the matter and helping each spouse see the other's perspective in order to work through their issues.

In addition to this suggestion, I echo Cheekygrin's sound advice.
 
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GodFiend

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I'm in the same place right now. Not sure if it's the right thing to do or not, but I just pretend he died. It works for me. Most the time, anyway.
 

loveme1

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Forgive her. And ask The Lord to help you.
This online rage will only prolong your torment.
Consider why your wife may be acting like this, she may be crying out for you to help her.
But the bottom line is forgiveness, break the vicious circle.
 

Jilly81

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On a more serious note, you're the man. So man up. Take up your God given spiritual authority and close in on the spiritual issue involved and then put it to the sword. Examine yourself and look for EVERY possible area that you could be at fault, then, and ONLY then start to look for issues elsewhere. Be open and honest with your partner, for that is what she is. Your partner. Make your expectations of yourself and her clear to each other. Do so prayerfully. Then, be the man you're called to be. Tough enough to bring the situation to order. Keep your duty foremost in mind, ''Seek first the Kingdom of God and His righteousness'' ''Husbands, love your wives as Christ loved the Church and gave Himself for her''. Armed with weapons that are divine in power to demolish strongholds and exercising them with righteous wisdom, you will see results.

Keep us posted on your quest.
Good advice, Cheeky...and regardless of one's gender, it's nearly always good to first look within when trying to figure out what the problem is :).
 
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judebee

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to rus_lady last friday she slept with another man. then told me she did it ciz she didnt want to be married and God would forgive her. now what do u say? told u she was a jerk! lol i just dont care now.
 
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rus_lady

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sound harsh . but i dont think thats the reason why she did it , but who knows .... if u really loved her u would of forgive her and not calling her with names etc and would of try to talk .... maybe she is trying to prove u something ..... and for how long uve been married ???

to rus_lady last friday she slept with another man. then told me she did it ciz she didnt want to be married and God would forgive her. now what do u say? told u she was a jerk! lol i just dont care now.
 
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Gabriel777

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to rus_lady last friday she slept with another man. then told me she did it ciz she didnt want to be married and God would forgive her. now what do u say? told u she was a jerk! lol i just dont care now.
That is just wicked what she did. Divorce her. Apparently she is not mature enough for such things. As the Word says "Better to live in a corner of a roof than in a house with a quarrelsome wife". God knows your situation.
 
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Gabriel777

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Off topic but i just wanted to share this. A few days ago i read a news article that was about a 90 year old guy divorcing his wife after finding out she had an affair 60 years ago. Would you have done the same?
 
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doe

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Are you sure it is not yourself that you are angry with? She is a human being.
 

Jilly81

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sound harsh . but i dont think thats the reason why she did it , but who knows .... if u really loved her u would of forgive her and not calling her with names etc and would of try to talk .... maybe she is trying to prove u something ..... and for how long uve been married ???
Actually, the Bible says that we are allowed to get a divorce if our spouse has committed fornication (Matthew 5:32). Your post came across as being rather judgmental, Rus Lady....I'm sure that you didn't mean it that way, but it appear that way. It's quite possible to forgive someone yet not want to stay married to them. I will be the first to admit that we don't know all the details, though. I'm not taking sides; just making an observation.

To Judebee: I think you will get an abundance of peace if you seek Jesus as fervently as you can....if you worry too much about "getting out with your hands clean", you may miss everything He wants you to see in this situation :).
 
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rus_lady

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as i said before i believe that only God knows whats really going on . my point of view is that I dont understand how on earth you can call the one you once loved with any rude names ( what ever she did ) I am not trying to judge or anything that not my right to do so . Usually it takes two people when things goes wrong , not knowing the reasons its hard to say , but usually two people that making things going this or that way .... I might be wrong , but anyways ... we dont know her reasons why she act the way she does , but it seems like she is trying to prove something by such way of acting , thats all what i can say .
 
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Tobby17

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hahahahaha.. I'm almost laughing out loud at what your wife did to you and how you're calling her a jerk.. Sorry if it offends you though.. :)

I can't advice you obviously, but i'm just so glad sometimes that i wouldn't have to go through all these problems with women..lol :D :D