Boredom & Lonliness syndrome

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PennEd

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I came across this article and thought the author was really on to something here that has plagued our ultra, overstimulated, entertainment driven culture.

My son, who is a Freshman in College this year, actually brought up this subject last night to me BEFORE I saw the article.
To a large extent boredom and lonliness is part and parcel of man's condition of being separated from God. But it is waaay more acute now, with the fact that "leisure" time, or time not needed for life essentials, like food growing and many homestead chores, don't require our time any longer, or convenience appliances greatly reduce. Having said that, it still seems like we don't have enough time to get everything done. Many times sacrificing the the "urgent" for the important.

WE live close to the Amish, and somehow wish we had simpler lives devoid of the incredible fast paced culture we live in. Yet we still find ourselves bored and at times lonely. The answer I think, is to get the focus off of ourselves and on the Lord and the work He has for us to do, like serving each other.


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It amazes me when people proclaim that they are bored. Actually, it amazes me that I am ever bored, or that any of us are. With so much to occupy us these days, boredom should be a relic of a bygone age – an age devoid of the internet, social media, multi-channel TV, 24-hour shopping, multiplex cinemas, game consoles, texting and whatever other myriad possibilities are available these days to entertain us.Yet despite the plethora of high-intensity entertainment constantly at our disposal, we are still bored. Up to half of us are “often bored” at home or at school, while more than two- thirds of us are chronically bored at work. We are bored by paperwork, by the commute and by dull meetings. TV is boring, as is Facebook and other social media. We spend our weekends at dull parties, watching tedious films or listening to our spouses drone on about their day. Our kids are bored – bored of school, of homework and even of school holidays.
There are a number of explanations for our ennui. This, in fact, is part of the problem – we are overstimulated. The more entertained we are the more entertainment we need in order to feel satisfied . The more we fill our world with fast-moving, high-intensity, ever-changing stimulation, the more we get used to that and the less tolerant we become of lower levels.
Our attention spans are now thought to be less than that of a goldfish – eight seconds
Thus slower-paced activities, such as reading reports, sitting in meetings, attending lectures or studying for exams, bore us because we are accustomed to faster-paced amusements.
Our attention spans are now thought to be less than that of a goldfish (eight seconds). We are hard-wired to seek novelty, which produces a hit of dopamine, that feel-good chemical, in our brains. As soon as a new stimulus is noticed, however, it is no longer new, and after a while it bores us. To get that same pleasurable dopamine hit we seek fresh sources of distraction.
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Our increasing reliance on screentime is also to blame. Although we seem to live in a varied and exciting world with a wealth of entertainment at our fingertips, this is actually the problem. Many of these amusements are obtained in remarkably similar ways – via our fingers. We spend much of our work life now tapping away at our keyboard. We then look for stimulation (watching movies, reading books, catching the news, interacting with friends) via the internet or our phone, which means more tapping. On average we spend six to seven hours in front of our phone, tablet, computer and TV screens every day.
All this is simply becoming boring. Instead of performing varied activities that engage different neural systems (sport, knitting, painting, cooking, etc) to relieve our tedium, we fall back on the same screen-tapping schema for much of our day. The irony is that while our mobile devices should allow us to fill every moment, our means of obtaining that entertainment has become so repetitive and routine that it’s a source of boredom in itself.
Does any of this matter? Research suggests that chronic boredom is responsible for a profusion of negative outcomes such as overeating, gambling, truancy, antisocial behaviour, drug use, accidents, risk taking and much more. We need less, not more, stimulation and novelty.
It seems paradoxical, but feeling bored in the short term will make us less bored in the long term.

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Tinkerbell725

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We are bored and lonely because we are starving for real life connections. Everyone is caught up in the busyness of life that we forget the things that matter.
 
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coby2

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I didn't even know forums existed when I was married. I just never used internet, only if I really had to for my work.
 
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wwjd_kilden

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There is something to it, but I think there is one element they have missed: (Unrealistic) Demands

In the tech support job I had, I knew for certain that no matter what I did (or didn't do), someone would be at best annoyed, at worst really angry with it (Because happy boss = angry customer and the other way around). That means that my work became meaningless.... and thus boring (in the end it switched to frustrating and infuriating).
 

PennEd

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We are bored and lonely because we are starving for real life connections. Everyone is caught up in the busyness of life that we forget the things that matter.

So true. I have spoken with people who say they can feel lonely and bored in a room full of people. Part of that is how difficult it is for introverts to start or join conversations, and then the retreat to the video games, TV, Internet, smartphone. We can use them almost like a pacifier.

THOSE are the people I pray the Lord would direct me to so that they can have that human connection.
 
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I'm hearing Mom's voice mocking my "I'm boooored" whine as a kid.

To me boredom is a long list of things to do that I don't feel like doing. (For instance, should be doing dishes right now. lol) Mom always thought of lots of things for me to do when I was bored as a kid (before the Internet, cell phones, any shopping simply because I was a kid so didn't have enough money to go shopping because I felt like it.) It had something to do with cleaning, which, frankly, is always booooooring!

Ha! Just got out of doing dishes. Time to see John. lol
 
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Miri

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I dont have time to be bored the days and hours just fly by :)

I think the last time I was bored was probably as a child when I
could not go out to play because it was raining.

Just a thought what did people do before TVs, wifi, mobile phones,
computers etc. Well they had lots and lots of children so in that sense
they created their own entertainment. Lol I bet life was definately not
boring with 8 plus kids to look after. :D