Okay...I am going to take a moment to get personal in response to this.
Mitspa, I am able to defend myself. If you consider why someone would be good at self-defense, you'd realize it was likely because they've had to do so a lot...so they've developed a skill set. If you realize that someone has had to defend themselves often against the unkind words of others, I would wonder why you'd want to add to that. Particularly when you consider that I was defending myself against a fellow Christian who implied a variety of falsehoods against me (the main one being that I am not biblical or not Godly).
I think what my defenders were trying to get you to understand is that your flip words WOUND. James talks about the power of the tongue and how we have life or death in our tongues. Truthfully, we often wound people with our words without realizing simply because we can't be bothered to consider their side, or because we are ignorant of someone else's feelings. So, taking that into account, here's what you were being told: Your approach toward me is wounding. The unkind words you level at me are fiery darts.
Because I have the Holy Spirit within me, and because I've constructed my life around being like Jesus, I try not to respond in kind. I try not to give into to one-upping people with words or an attitude of "I'm going to show them." I try to pray for people who come against me personally and who devalue me. Especially in online scenarios where people are often dehumanized, I try to keep in mind that there is a complex person made in the image of God at the other end of the screen.
In other words, (to refer back to the OP), while I am not a gun person, I do see great need to protect others. IMO, the greatest threat isn't those who harm the body...it's those who murder others with their words. So, I'll jump in and defend people from mean words...even if those mean words would come from me. I'll even jump in and defend people who harm me first because while they devalue me, I try not to do the same to them.
THIS is why I appreciate the defense of those who stood for me. Their defense tells me several things: 1. they noticed that I was being wounded 2. they could do something about it 3. they get that it's not about whether or not I can defend myself, but about standing against something that is wrong.
I think what saddens me the most is while you have such ideals about protecting and defending others, you don't see me (and others here) as someone worthy of protection. You have somehow categorized me in a rather negative way, so you can't be bothered to measure your words or exercise kindness toward me.