Getting passed being cheated on.

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JesusFreak787

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So today I found out that my girl friend of 3 months, was cheating on me the entire relationship. She was cheating on her boyfriend with me.
I didn't know until last night when I saw message they exchanged. She has lied to me telling me how much she loved me for 3 months. Then she said she couldn't choose between us and then picked him Also she had been flirting with like 4 other guys on skype.-_- it has just been a really bad day.
 
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kenthomas27

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JesusFreak787 said:
So today I found out that my girl friend of 3 months, was cheating on me the entire relationship. She was cheating on her boyfriend with me.
I didn't know until last night when I saw message they exchanged. She has lied to me telling me how much she loved me for 3 months. Then she said she couldn't choose between us and then picked him Also she had been flirting with like 4 other guys on skype.-_- it has just been a really bad day.
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I'm sorry this didn't work out the way you wanted. I'm sure that leaves you feeling stupid and naive, but this outsider maybe thinks it's like the best day ever for you. You only wasted 3 months, most of which were probably pretty good and you uncovered what could have been a real earthquake. God loves you brother. Go in peace and know you're protected by the heavenly Secret Service.
 
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Nicee

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JesusFreak787 said:
So today I found out that my girl friend of 3 months, was cheating on me the entire relationship. She was cheating on her boyfriend with me.
I didn't know until last night when I saw message they exchanged. She has lied to me telling me how much she loved me for 3 months. Then she said she couldn't choose between us and then picked him Also she had been flirting with like 4 other guys on skype.-_- it has just been a really bad day.
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Humans are humans. We have an instinct of sinning. Whether it's cheating, lying, stealing, gossip etc. Finding a lover that doesn't cheat is hard. All you have to do is try to move on. Sorry about that :(.
 
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Nicee said:
Humans are humans. We have an instinct of sinning. Whether it's cheating, lying, stealing, gossip etc. Finding a lover that doesn't cheat is hard. All you have to do is try to move on. Sorry about that :(.
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Ive never been tempted to cheat when I'm in a relationship Nicee.
Its not due to strength of will or anything of that nature,
The idea of doing so is kinda like wanting to sleep with my mother or something.
Its just not on the table.
So not all people are like this trollop.
Maybe sex is a temptation for us all, but I don't think disloyalty is.
So not all people are like this.
 
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JustAnotherUser

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Have to agree. If a person genuinely cares, they wouldn't go behind their spouse/boyfriend/girlfriend's back. Some people simply don't have that type of morality or conscious for some reason.
 
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I'm really sorry this happened to you JesusFreak. But wow, yeah... thankful that you found out about it after three months rather that after years and marriage and kids. This is a blessing in disguise for you, even though I know it doesn't feel that way. There's better out there for you, brother.
 
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Mitspa

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This may hurt a while...take your pain into your prayer life and pour out to the One who really knows and cares for you...Then one day you will look back and say "somehow I grew stronger in that..I drew nearer to my God" God bless and keep you :)
 
Desdichado

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isaih520 said:
Ive never been tempted to cheat when I'm in a relationship Nicee.
Its not due to strength of will or anything of that nature,
The idea of doing so is kinda like wanting to sleep with my mother or something.
Its just not on the table.
So not all people are like this trollop.
Maybe sex is a temptation for us all, but I don't think disloyalty is.
So not all people are like this.
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This.

What she did was really low. Be glad you figured out now and not later.
 
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Sorry man, even tho saying sorry doesn't always help I am. Theres not much advice I can give you other than to forgive her and use this time to grow in your relationship with God. The best you can do is move on. It takes time but God uses time to heal wounds. You're gonna be okay.


I know its not gonna be the easiest thing in the world and its easier said than done but she needs to be forgiven. I pray that she repents and is forgiven. But not only by God, you also need to forgive her. If not you'll just trap yourself in bitterness and hurt along with many other unwanted emotions. She is acting out in such a way for whatever reason. No one can be for sure why she did what she did (other than all humans sin). It sounds like she might be trying to use all that male attention to fill up some weird empty void inside. Our outter actions come from what we are facing on the inside so when you get angry with her remember she isn't completely okay. You can tell by her actions.


You are a Jesus freak. Use that to the best of your ability now in this time. Continue growing with God in your walk with Him. Look to Him and put this in His hands. He will heal you and show you where to go from here if you let him.
 
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Desdichado said:
What she did was really low. Be glad you figured out now and not later.
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Yeah, that. You could have alimony and child support to deal with.

Can't blame you for not feeling like celebrating your good fortune though. It still stings.
 
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To the OP:

I am truly sorry for the pain you must be feeling right now, I've been there more than once.

It may not feel like it now, but you were blessed to have this end as soon as it did. I have known of some women that will string multiple men on for considerably longer perpetually looking for the next best thing.
 
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JesusFreak787 said:
So today I found out that my girl friend of 3 months, was cheating on me the entire relationship. She was cheating on her boyfriend with me.
I didn't know until last night when I saw message they exchanged. She has lied to me telling me how much she loved me for 3 months. Then she said she couldn't choose between us and then picked him Also she had been flirting with like 4 other guys on skype.-_- it has just been a really bad day.
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ouch! I know this hurts! I'm sorry. :(

I know that it's a really bad day for you, but eventually, you will come to consider this as the day you dodged a big bullet.
 
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zaoman32

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girls are trouble
 
Fenner

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JesusFreak787 said:
So today I found out that my girl friend of 3 months, was cheating on me the entire relationship. She was cheating on her boyfriend with me.
I didn't know until last night when I saw message they exchanged. She has lied to me telling me how much she loved me for 3 months. Then she said she couldn't choose between us and then picked him Also she had been flirting with like 4 other guys on skype.-_- it has just been a really bad day.
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I'm sorry.
 
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Siberian_Khatru

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They say time heals all wounds, but seldom do they point out that some wounds leave scars. The pain of it will get better, bud; of course, how it plays out [emotionally] for you is up to you. Like others, though, you have my condolences.
 
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JesusFreak787

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Thank you all for the encouragement and support. I have really needed it. I am trying to just focus on God and I am asking him to take this pain and loneliness away. When you spend so much time with one person and then it is suddenly gone, its a tough thing. But everyone is right I really dodged a bullet thanks to the Lord. I actually prayed the week before that he show me if she is cheating and then everything fell into place. I just pray my trust towards women heals. I do not think all women are like this, but more and more these days men and women are becoming more unfaithful.
 
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VioletReigns

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Hi JesusFreak, dear. When you say "girlfriend of three months", does that mean you have known her for three months? Or had you known her as a friend prior to becoming her boyfriend?

The reason I ask is that I would suggest becoming friends, REAL friends with a young woman for an agreed upon period of time before evolving into a boyfriend/girlfriend situation. I honestly believe when a man and woman are genuine friends, they have a better chance of survival, clearer communication, more freedom of being open & honest about personal things, a better chance of really knowing one another in depth, ya know? Romance can grow later - but if there's no friendship, the romance is doomed already. :p

Also, it would give you a chance to deal with your mistrust and pain and work toward a more solid, satisfying relationship. Does that make sense?

At any rate, I pray the Lord heal your broken heart and give you grace and wisdom and strength in this. :)
 
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JesusFreak787 said:
Thank you all for the encouragement and support. I have really needed it. I am trying to just focus on God and I am asking him to take this pain and loneliness away. When you spend so much time with one person and then it is suddenly gone, its a tough thing. But everyone is right I really dodged a bullet thanks to the Lord. I actually prayed the week before that he show me if she is cheating and then everything fell into place. I just pray my trust towards women heals. I do not think all women are like this, but more and more these days men and women are becoming more unfaithful.
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Hey Jesusfreak787, I don't have much to add that hasn't already been said. But with the post above, your heart really seems to be in the right place with the Lord and your head seems to be in a good place understanding this isn't how most people would behave. I am really glad to see you haven't let one person's terrible choice impact your self-worth. I pray that the Lord takes your pain and loneliness quickly so that you can find some growth from this. I'm sorry it had to happen to you.
 
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