Frustrated and annoyed.

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setapartgirl

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God will give us the best love story ever, He already destined you to someone.

I know this and i'm holding on to this, but sometimes i got annoyed if my friends keep pressuring me to have a lovelife, because i'm already 28, eventhough i always tell then that i'm waiting for the right one and i won't settle for less.


They said "i have the face and the body" (they said,not me)haha they said i need yo go out of my shell, sometimes, i have a strong faith but sometimes i get affected by their comments and i do wonder, my self where is he? The one who God, setapart for me, yes, 28 not that old, but when I see wedding pictures or babies of my friends, i can't help the sadness and frustrations that envelops me.

I will wait for how long?
 
Jilly81

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Sis, I know it hurts sometimes :(. I'm probably among the ones here who most campaigns for being content while single, and even I get sad feelings plenty. I'm glad you're waiting for the right one, which is what God wants. It would probably be a good idea to pray and ask the Lord to show you if maybe He does want you to smile at specific guys more and talk to them more so they know you're interested. That's between you and Jesus, though; not your friends :).

*hugs* I prayed for you just now, hope things go well for you.
 
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setapartgirl

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Jilly81 said:
Sis, I know it hurts sometimes :(. I'm probably among the ones here who most campaigns for being content while single, and even I get sad feelings plenty. I'm glad you're waiting for the right one, which is what God wants. It would probably be a good idea to pray and ask the Lord to show you if maybe He does want you to smile at specific guys more and talk to them more so they know you're interested. That's between you and Jesus, though; not your friends :).

*hugs* I prayed for you just now, hope things go well for you.
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Thank you sis for this wonderful comment, it made me cry.

Yeah, maybe i just need to loosen up a bit, i think the problem is really me. THANK YOU!
 
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Jilly81

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Aw, now my eyes are tearing up as well :')! You are very welcome my sister, and I'm glad we got to talk this morning/evening :).


*hugs again*
 
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Siberian_Khatru

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That's kind of nice that they compliment your face and body, and yet on the same token it's kind of derogatory and shallow in their context. Do YOU think you need to get out of your shell sometimes? (Stepping outside of your comfort zone can be a big bonus - within reason.)

There are several singles here (and elsewhere) that are kind of in a low place because of "the wait." It's hard for sure, and there's no cut and dried, universal answer for everyone. You just have to take it one day at a time, live in the moment, and maintain hope.

You have some great people here to fellowship with in the meantime. Will be praying for ya. :)
 
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cmarieh

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setapartgirl said:
God will give us the best love story ever, He already destined you to someone.

I know this and i'm holding on to this, but sometimes i got annoyed if my friends keep pressuring me to have a lovelife, because i'm already 28, eventhough i always tell then that i'm waiting for the right one and i won't settle for less.


They said "i have the face and the body" (they said,not me)haha they said i need yo go out of my shell, sometimes, i have a strong faith but sometimes i get affected by their comments and i do wonder, my self where is he? The one who God, setapart for me, yes, 28 not that old, but when I see wedding pictures or babies of my friends, i can't help the sadness and frustrations that envelops me.

I will wait for how long?
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I know it hurts to wait, but it will be worth the wait after God reveals that special person to you. I know that time will come for you and it will be everything you have ever wanted and then some.

In my life, I struggle with patience and allowing God to have full control of this and it got to the point where I have to put this at the cross daily. I am currently waiting for God to reveal that special man to come into my life. Lately God has been really laying on my heart to work on myself and to take this time to spend deeper in the word and to trust him.
 
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God set some people apart to stay single their entire lives. I am one of them, and happily so. :)
 
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setapartgirl

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blue_ladybug said:
God set some people apart to stay single their entire lives. I am one of them, and happily so. :)
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I'm glad that you're happy mam, but i want to have a family of my own. i love to have my own children
 
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cmarieh

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setapartgirl said:
I'm glad that you're happy mam, but i want to have a family of my own. i love to have my own children
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One day when God says its time and you will have a family of your own. Just remember to be patient and to trust God completely:)
 
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setapartgirl

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Siberian_Khatru said:
That's kind of nice that they compliment your face and body, and yet on the same token it's kind of derogatory and shallow in their context. Do YOU think you need to get out of your shell sometimes? (Stepping outside of your comfort zone can be a big bonus - within reason.)

There are several singles here (and elsewhere) that are kind of in a low place because of "the wait." It's hard for sure, and there's no cut and dried, universal answer for everyone. You just have to take it one day at a time, live in the moment, and maintain hope.

You have some great people here to fellowship with in the meantime. Will be praying for ya. :)
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Thank you sir, maybe i did let them enter on my nerves, i should believe more in God, than to thier Worldy advice, i mean they can't understand that i'm waiting for the right one
 
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setapartgirl

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cmarieh said:
One day when God says its time and you will have a family of your own. Just remember to be patient and to trust God completely:)
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Thank you for your kind words sister, maybe i'm just worried of my fertility but i should remember that with God nothing is impossible, maybe what should i ask more is that, how should i respond to their comments about it, i know my friends only just want me to be happy, but they are getting into my nerves because of it.
 
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cmarieh

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setapartgirl said:
Thank you for your kind words sister, maybe i'm just worried of my fertility but i should remember that with God nothing is impossible, maybe what should i ask more is that, how should i respond to their comments about it, i know my friends only just want me to be happy, but they are getting into my nerves because of it.
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You are very welcome, sis. I honestly have felt the same way. My younger sister got married before me and she began ridiculing my virginity and that I never was in a relationship before. It made me feel like I was worthless and that no guy would ever want me and that I would spend the rest of my life alone. I would even have family members always asking me when I was going to get married and have a family and that I need to be somebody I wasn't. It got to the point where I had to tell them that I wasn't ready for a relationship and God is still preparing my heart and when God is ready to release that part of my life I would be ready and willing to receive it and until then I am to be obedient and read the word of God and strengthen my relationship with him. After I said this to them they actually stopped.
 
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setapartgirl

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cmarieh said:
You are very welcome, sis. I honestly have felt the same way. My younger sister got married before me and she began ridiculing my virginity and that I never was in a relationship before. It made me feel like I was worthless and that no guy would ever want me and that I would spend the rest of my life alone. I would even have family members always asking me when I was going to get married and have a family and that I need to be somebody I wasn't. It got to the point where I had to tell them that I wasn't ready for a relationship and God is still preparing my heart and when God is ready to release that part of my life I would be ready and willing to receive it and until then I am to be obedient and read the word of God and strengthen my relationship with him. After I said this to them they actually stopped.
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Same case, i did the same thing, but maybe they are hardheaded or maybe they worry so much because i'm 28..you're still 24 so, you still have time sister, it's just that they keep saying, a healthy woman should get pregnant by the age of 30, common! Maybe tomorrow, we will bump with mr. Right along the way right?we are fine with waiting, so why they could not? I mean seriously??

I mean sometimes i want to cry, because i get frustrated and hurt.
 
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cmarieh

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setapartgirl said:
Same case, i did the same thing, but maybe they are hardheaded or maybe they worry so much because i'm 28..you're still 24 so, you still have time sister, it's just that they keep saying, a healthy woman should get pregnant by the age of 30, common! Maybe tomorrow, we will bump with mr. Right along the way right?we are fine with waiting, so why they could not? I mean seriously??

I mean sometimes i want to cry, because i get frustrated and hurt.
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I know it is so frustrating and it does hurt especially when they are your friends. But one thing to remember is that what was right for your friends is not always right for you. You do know that just because a woman is over thirty does not mean they cannot be healthy and they can and do end up having healthy pregnancies. God can and will do anything we just need to be faithful and to trust him completely. I know it is a lot easier said then done. My advice is do things you have always wanted to do besides this one and who knows what God will do when his children are pushing forward with their life and putting all their faith and trust in him
 
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i'm 28 and still single too.. lol.. no worries.. its better wait patiently than rush looking for mr.right.. my friend told me that she regret married (she is at the same age like us, standart face, love God too, and she think that his husband is the right man for her --> now??? she regret it!! she try to stay in marriage while everything is hard for her).. so she advice to us (single ladies) to wait patiently and no worries (honestly sometimes its hard for me too.. i also wondering too sometimes.. lol)
 
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eh!! i mean her husband not his husband!!! lol.. miss typo :D
 
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pwrnJC

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I got a question...why is this mainly a female 'thang"? I have yet to read a comment like this from a male. Please do not see this as a put down...I really would love to stop seeing all the lovelorn single/divorced or lonely females out there, pining away for a man in shining armor to sweep them up off their feet and into a sweet embrace, complete with bluebirds, angels, roses, and little butterflies. As the old hymn goes "HAVE FAITH IN GOD, When your pathway is lonely. He sees and knows all the way you have trod. Never alone are the sheep of HIS pasture, have faith in GOD..have faith in GOD..THERE is no mention of "PLACE your cares and worries on the internet..that is your answer..so that the world will see you as you are." Personally..when I hurt and worry...the internet is NOT my dumping ground that I go to....
 
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setapartgirl

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Jilly81 said:
Aw, now my eyes are tearing up as well :')! You are very welcome my sister, and I'm glad we got to talk this morning/evening :).

Maybe i need to keep my faith stronger, my problem is that i don't know how to approach guys you know, it's awkward. Lol

But i will be alright. thank you sis,

*Hugs*

There's someone out there also, waiting for me, right?
i hope he will find me soonest...if ever i will i will post it here,,haha
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cmarieh

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pwrnJC said:
I got a question...why is this mainly a female 'thang"? I have yet to read a comment like this from a male. Please do not see this as a put down...I really would love to stop seeing all the lovelorn single/divorced or lonely females out there, pining away for a man in shining armor to sweep them up off their feet and into a sweet embrace, complete with bluebirds, angels, roses, and little butterflies. As the old hymn goes "HAVE FAITH IN GOD, When your pathway is lonely. He sees and knows all the way you have trod. Never alone are the sheep of HIS pasture, have faith in GOD..have faith in GOD..THERE is no mention of "PLACE your cares and worries on the internet..that is your answer..so that the world will see you as you are." Personally..when I hurt and worry...the internet is NOT my dumping ground that I go to....
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I agree. I would love to hear a male perspective on this issue
 
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