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I used to say the same thing. Make an honest effort to evaluate your reasoning behind that; nothing in marriage is about "doing your own thing". I really do think that if God has blessed you with a spouse, and unless you physically can't have children, the biblical assumption is that you will have children. (I'm going to get attacked for this) You would be well advised to avoid getting married until you're at least okay with the possibility of children. The majority of the time, it "just happens". And you won't find many females out there who share your view. Trust me.
Having said that, I was married, and it never happened. Wasn't for lack of trying though...
Having said that, I was married, and it never happened. Wasn't for lack of trying though...
I hear you, but I wouldn't marry someone who didn't share my views on the matter. And part of me enjoying doing my own thing is the fact that I'm not married. If I were to get married, obviously things change and if it happened, it happened.. I wouldn't be mad. Both of my last two relationships were with girls who didn't want kids either, though. They do exist lol.
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Wow, isolate scripture much? I always thought our purpose in life was to glorify God and spread His word and have a relationship with God. Not to be baby making machines.
I'm 40, no kids, and i'm fine with that. When i was younger i would've liked kids, but have since changed my mind. My current gf has a son, i'm fine with that. I don't need one of my own. And if she hadn't had one i wouldn't have any issues with that either.
I'm 40, no kids, and i'm fine with that. When i was younger i would've liked kids, but have since changed my mind. My current gf has a son, i'm fine with that. I don't need one of my own. And if she hadn't had one i wouldn't have any issues with that either.
Do I have kids? Nope
Do I want to have kids? Yup
Will it happen? Only God knows lol
I wanna adopt, too.
Do I want to have kids? Yup
Will it happen? Only God knows lol
I wanna adopt, too.
This is definitely true. Spending your life focusing on things you dont have will lead to your destruction. The enemy uses this, too. Its very unhealthy to live your life that way.
Having children is definitely a wonderful thing, yeah. I always go back and forth with the idea. One day I feel Id love to have a child to raise. Other days I feel like Im not qualified to raise a child
Im always going back and forth with the idea Dont have kids, if I find the right woman I will definitely consider having kids, and haha am really bothered by it no
My main purpose in this life is to get close to God, and hopefully use my experiences to serve Him one day :3 But having a wife and a child could be way awesome one day, maybe. Yeah.
I used to want 2 kids by adoption and 2 by birth.
It just hasn't worked out that way, and in this stage of life, my goals have shifted to other things besides bearing and raising children (such as travel, missions, and volunteer work.)
In the meantime, I sponsor children from several different countries through my old adoption agency's program. I really like it because they set specific goals for each child (help them get through an educational system, help their family find a better job for more economic stability, etc.) and once the goal is met, they move on to help another child, so it's not an indefinite welfare system.
In my time of participation in the program (over several years), at least 3 of "my" sponsored children have been adopted into families of their own. I'm currently worried about one of "my" little girls (I see them as at least partially "mine" in a small way) whom I especially identify with because they keep testing her to see if she has a particular illness, and I keep hoping she'll be spared from this.
God-willing, I hope to increase the number of children I'm able to sponsor every year. Even though I don't believe I'm parental material myself, I have a personal belief that I can still be a support to those who are and the children who need them.
It just hasn't worked out that way, and in this stage of life, my goals have shifted to other things besides bearing and raising children (such as travel, missions, and volunteer work.)
In the meantime, I sponsor children from several different countries through my old adoption agency's program. I really like it because they set specific goals for each child (help them get through an educational system, help their family find a better job for more economic stability, etc.) and once the goal is met, they move on to help another child, so it's not an indefinite welfare system.
In my time of participation in the program (over several years), at least 3 of "my" sponsored children have been adopted into families of their own. I'm currently worried about one of "my" little girls (I see them as at least partially "mine" in a small way) whom I especially identify with because they keep testing her to see if she has a particular illness, and I keep hoping she'll be spared from this.
God-willing, I hope to increase the number of children I'm able to sponsor every year. Even though I don't believe I'm parental material myself, I have a personal belief that I can still be a support to those who are and the children who need them.
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People often attach their happiness and self-worth to philosophies that have nothing to do with God.
The idea that a person needs to be married to somehow be worthwhile has nothing to do with God. And the idea that a person needs to have children to be worthwhile has nothing to do with God.
Unfortunately, it sometimes does have something to do with certain Christians and/or certain churches.
But I'd like to remind the OP that Jesus was never married, nor did he have any children. The same goes for John the Baptist. And this doesn't even take into consideration the amazing Christians throughout history that have lovingly served God without ever marrying and having children.
In other words, if you're unmarried and childless, but serving the Lord, you're in some darn good company.
The idea that a person needs to be married to somehow be worthwhile has nothing to do with God. And the idea that a person needs to have children to be worthwhile has nothing to do with God.
Unfortunately, it sometimes does have something to do with certain Christians and/or certain churches.
But I'd like to remind the OP that Jesus was never married, nor did he have any children. The same goes for John the Baptist.
And this doesn't even take into consideration the amazing Christians throughout history that have lovingly served God without ever marrying and having children.In other words, if you're unmarried and childless, but serving the Lord, you're in some darn good company.
Do I have kids? Nope
Do I want to have kids? No
Will it happen? No it doesn't bother me.
I like kids but I have no interest in being a mom. I don't have the money to raise a kid. Kids are expensive. I don't even want to adopt. I have a lot of illness in my family that are heretary that can be passed on and I also get migraines at times. I'm sponsoring a child at the moment. I have a cat and a dog and they are my kids lol.
Do I want to have kids? No
Will it happen? No it doesn't bother me.
I like kids but I have no interest in being a mom. I don't have the money to raise a kid. Kids are expensive. I don't even want to adopt. I have a lot of illness in my family that are heretary that can be passed on and I also get migraines at times. I'm sponsoring a child at the moment. I have a cat and a dog and they are my kids lol.
Well if it is the case that no having Children makes ones life a vain waste of time then we shall have to say that the Apostle Paul's life was in vain right???? .. Something makes me think otherwise.. No,,,, People can have great lives of purpose without ever being a parent of a Child..
Oh and to put my cards on the table::
I have no kids..
I doubt very much that i will ever have kids.. ( But if the LORD wills i guess anything can happen) but yeah i very much doubt the LORD will lead me to become a dad..
I am at peace with not becoming a dad..
Oh and to put my cards on the table::
I have no kids..
I doubt very much that i will ever have kids.. ( But if the LORD wills i guess anything can happen) but yeah i very much doubt the LORD will lead me to become a dad..
I am at peace with not becoming a dad..
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Hi ! Same situation. Don't worry. Keep doing what your'e doing. Be good. Do good. Change the world in whatever way you can.
Remember there is adoption too. If it's in God's plan for you to have biological children, it will happen. Remember things are constantly changing. People are only having their first kid at around 40/50. No pressure.
Like you said, life can definitely change in the blink of an eye. You could meet someone and she becomes pregnant with quadruplets or you could be compelled to adopt beautiful babies. We don't know what's in store for us, but it's already written.
Have faith. Be strong. Believe. Take care
Remember there is adoption too. If it's in God's plan for you to have biological children, it will happen. Remember things are constantly changing. People are only having their first kid at around 40/50. No pressure.
Like you said, life can definitely change in the blink of an eye. You could meet someone and she becomes pregnant with quadruplets or you could be compelled to adopt beautiful babies. We don't know what's in store for us, but it's already written.
Have faith. Be strong. Believe. Take care
Hello, I have two kid's. A girl age 10 and a boy age 11. I was 35 when I gave birth to my Son.
I do understand the desire to have children and before mine came along I wasn't sure if I'd have my own biological children. I do know there are a lot of kids in the world who could use a good parent and a good home. Or even a good mentor in their life. My Husband and I discussed adoption at length before we had kids and still discuss it as a possibility someday. There are also a lot of single people who adopt children as well. God Bless you.