Top 5 reasons why initial attraction is a SUCCESS!!

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Liamson

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These are my top 5 reasons why someone will make me feel understood, wanted and magnetically attracted to them rather quickly. These are like the home runs.


-Overwhelming amounts of eye contact coupled with smiling and laughing at my jokes.

-Getting excited about the same things that I get excited about. Like Pascha!

-Sharing her dreams, opening up to me about all the things that she is passionate about. Especially if ours are the same. Like Jesus!

-This is kind of a strange one but, criticizing whatever idea is being passed around. Sarcasm? I don't honestly know what it is but, a hint of rebellion against some aspect of something she disagrees with. Kind of shows me that she stands for something. :D

-Teaching me something or Introducing me to a new experience. Whether its a board game or going to a Mediterranean food festival, anything that she does that makes me a better person, I really like.


Do All this and I will be helpless to resist. Kind of like Samson's hair really :)
 
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hmm.. mine probably don't vary too much from liams.. but i'll go anyways..

1 - fun. she has to laugh at my lame jokes.. and give me lame jokes in return. just has to have an overall sense of fun.

2 - physically attractive. this does not mean she has to be a model. this just means that by what my personal standards of attractive are she has to visually appeal to me.

3 - smart. i like a woman that is intelligent. doesn't mean she has to be highly educated. just have common sense and general intelligence.

4 - balanced. not too many extremes. such as not overly girlie, yet not overly masculine either. i like a girl to be a girl, but not high maintenece.and i'm not looking for a guy, or the closest thing to it.

5 - that something 'undefinable'. just that ability to feel comfortable around them right from the get go, like you are talking to an old friend. or sometimes its that spark.. that feeling that you know something special is going on with this person that doesn't happen with everyone.
 
seoulsearch

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Liamson said:
-Getting excited about the same things that I get excited about. Like Pascha!

:)
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I was VERY excited when I thought Liamson said, "Pasta," but then realized my fatal error... (Yes, I consider it a BIG success if someone mentions ravioli and lasagna and fettucine...) Oops! My bad...
 
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seoulsearch said:
I was VERY excited when I thought Liamson said, "Pasta," but then realized my fatal error... (Yes, I consider it a BIG success if someone mentions ravioli and lasagna and fettucine...) Oops! My bad...
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Well, wanna go to a Mediterranean food festival?
 
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Liamson said:
Well, wanna go to a Mediterranean food festival?
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I love trying new foods... but in small doses at first, just in case. Actually... I know buffet-type deals get a bad rap but I love it when you can get a huge plate of lots of different things... Especially when one gets to the dessert table. :)
 
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1. She stands too close.

2. She responds to witty banter with witty banter of her own.

3. She makes self deprecating jokes and shows she doesn't take herself so very seriously.

4. She makes some sort of rebellious redneck comment or shows somehow she wears her Christianity on her sleeve when in a roomful where odds are most people were not going to agree with her.

5. When some moronic third party of any sort intrudes into the conversation she sticks with me and not with them.
 
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Besides the obvious one that he has to love Jesus:

- He has a passion for something, whatever it is, I like men with passion.I'm not very into politics but I met this guy a few weeks ago that was very into politics, he always talks to me about it with a passion that makes politics look interesting. I must say I really likeed that.

- Capability of talking about any subject. I'm not saying he has to be a genius and talk about math or science like an Einstein but I like to see that he can talk about more than football or tv. I guess this means he has some kind of common sense and intellectuality.

- He has a big heart, he cares about others and is willing to help a friend or someone in need.

- Great sense of humor. He knows how to transform a bad situation into something funny, and knows when to take a joke. Let's say he knows when to laugh and when not to laugh. Laughing at everything would be weird.

- He is willing to go to new places once in a while, at least a new restaurant every week( or less if we don't have the money ). The point is that he likes to do interesting things and is not afraid of change.
 
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1. He mades me laugh and doesn't take himself too seriously
2. We're having a real conversation and he's confident enough to politely disagree with me, but considerate of my views
3. His eyes say things his mouth can't or won't, and he actually looks me in the eye
4. He sings in the car whether he can actually sing or not
5. He has a passion for God and life in general
 
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1. shes not anti-catholic
2. she doesn't start threads trying to discredit the catholic faith
3. she doesnt call the leader of my church the antichrist
4. she doesn't call me an idolater and tries to understand the truth behind my faith's practices
5. she doesn't refer to my church as the whore of babylon

6. she likes airplanes
 
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Im going to bump this thread because, everyone here still participates and I think its relevant to the tone of what we are talking about Currently. :D
 
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Liamson said:
Im going to bump this thread because, everyone here still participates and I think its relevant to the tone of what we are talking about Currently. :D
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She answers back when I say something to her
She laughs at my dumb jokes.
She agrees God is number one for our lives.
She stares at me long enough for me to know something's there.
She attends church regularly.
Note: If I am in church and a girl is taking notes on a pastor's sermon, that's instant attraction there ! I notice that !! I've gone after a girl before that was that kind of studious :)
 
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Chey60

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Nice Liamson..
Great post.. Shows vulnerability. :)
Also it helps us get a View into how men think.
 
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Chey60

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1. He is in love with Jesus filled with the spirit believing in giftings but in order and balanced, having a relationship with God in Christ but doesn't believe in religion so he must be non denominational.
2. Must respect women, be assertive, make eye contact and go out of his way to say hello to me. Take charge and doesn't need hint
3. Doesn't sit in the back of the church and is involved in some kind of service, not content to just attend services Sunday and Wednesday and have that be the extent of his involvement.
4. He's taller than me and well groomed
5. listens well and remembers.
6. Understand, once dating, that he will see that while I have a ton of wisdom and intelligence, I don't have common sense.. I am not common at all but unique but also have a stereotypical blonde personality at times and finds it adorable and not annoying.
7. That sometimes I don't have a filter and never mean any harm.
8. That I love touch, words of affirmation and quality time the most.
9. Must love affection!!! Being touched.
10. Kisses my forehead and calls me baby girl. Or any endearing name.
11. Can be funny without being immature. Doesn't put me down.
12. Behaves like a man of God in every situation. Doesn't walk near bees so he won't get stung.
13. When he feels weak shows accountability. Seeks counsel
14. Prays for me and with me.
15. Doesn't compromise his integrity, his faith, isn't a buffet Christian, won't misquote scripture, and doesn't follow charismatic fads.
 
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Chey60

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Oops that was more than 5 lol sorry..
Take /1,2,3,4 and 12/13 mixture
For initial attraction
4,2,3 ,12 and 15
 
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xXErraticEmilyXx

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at the same time, when we first meet someone, we usually imaging them to be who we want them to be.
 
lil_christian

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Liamson said:
Im going to bump this thread because, everyone here still participates and I think its relevant to the tone of what we are talking about Currently. :D
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I actually thought it was a recently made thread, till I scrolled through and saw it dated back to 2011. o_O

But I agree. :D

If I may, I'll post 5 things. :D

This list is assuming the guy is a strong Christian. Because there's pretty much no way I'm going to be attracted to a guy that's not Christian.

This is also assuming I can keep a good conversation going with the guy. I'm a horrible conversation person. Only about 40-50% of what I think actually makes it to my mouth from my brain. And I think A LOT. Soo considering, 50% isn't much...at all.

1. Something that's really attractive to me is artistic abilities. Whether it be music or painting, I dunno why, but I'm drawn to creative people. But mainly if he's a fellow musician. Like...a real musician. Not someone who says they are, but really aren't all that great. But actually a musician (bonus points if he has a heart-melting singing voice. LOL).

2. Another important thing is we share the same political party. Politics are so ugly anymore, when two people have different views, it seems like that relationship is bound to blunder.

3. Shares the same dream as I do. It's very rare to have someone share the dream that I do. My dream is to be a professional musician, and travel all over the place, ministering everywhere I go. :)

4. He's pretty laid back (though also has a really good sense of humor and a good sport). I think I'd like someone who's pretty laid back. Though who knows, I might end up with someone who's got more energy than the energizer bunny. :p But I dunno, I can sometimes be a bit loud and fiery...so I feel like I'd need someone that'd put out the fire, instead of someone that might add to it. :p

5. Is not afraid to try new, maybe crazy things (within reason), and will nudge/encourage me (NOT forcing me or making me) to try new and different things, too. I know sometimes I'm scared to death of going someplace new, and trying new stuff. So I think it'd be good to have someone that's the opposite of that, and will encourage me to try new things, too. And will also understand if I say no. :)
 
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1. She's fit. As the vets here know, I'm a gym rat, and that was a huge point of contention between The Ex and I. The nature of my job means I often don't have much down time to spend with others, so if we can spend it together working out, all the better.


2. A kind spirit with a solid streak of snark/sarcasm. I want someone who teases back, who gives as good as she gets...but all in good fun, instead of genuine malice.


3. Sings harmony. In good pitch. *swoooooon* Bonus points if she's a solid pianist...free accompanist for the rest of my life!


4. Has her own passions and hobbies. Would it be great if she had the same ones as me? Sure. But if she wants to sit on the couch and knit or do crosswords while I play League of Legends, that's fine with me. I value peaceful quiet shared together.


5. Is content in life, neither continually yearning for more, or being continously miserable and mopey. While life is not a non-stop carousel of joy, finding simple happiness in the many taken-for-granted blessings we are given is a must. No matter how bad I feel, I can think to how blessed I've been and find contentment in the things I have, rather than searching for joy in the things I want. She should feel the same.
 
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1. Femininity - Women that are truly completely feminine are so rare, and it's the only determining factor for me when it comes to bam, hit me in the face type attraction......There's no such thing as too girly. It's more important to me than absolutely everything else.

2. Refer to number 1

3. Refer to number 1

4. Refer to number 1

5. Refer to number 1


Not that I never go out or take an interest in girls that don't have that going for them, but every time I meet a woman like that I never forget her......even if I've only interacted with her once for a short time.
 
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1. Must love facial hair. She doesn't necessarily need to have her own, but she shall let mine stay. I shave for no one.
2. Love of nachos is non-negotiable. No nacho, no Nuke.
3. Love of God, love of country. Old-school Christian and old-school American patriot, please. Understands where this country/world has gone, and knows that time is short.
4. Knows and lives by Rule #9.
5. Quiet, reserved, intelligent, aloof...voracious reader, bookworm, nerd, geek, techie, fighter, low-maintenance, self-sufficient, deep-thinker, woman of few words, enjoys a healthy debate (i.e. Ford vs Chevy, AR15 vs AK47, 45 vs 9, Left Twix vs Right Twix, etc.), Luddite and conspiracy theorist to an extent, hunter, shooter, archer, musician, mechanic, cook, seamstress, crafter, and drop-dead-gorgeous.
 
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Shourv,
Nice list.. But keep in mind as a man of God you could get her in the gym and help her get fit.. Then again I'm sure at your age fit girls in the"church" are coming in droves. The unfit stuff usually doesn't happen until lots of babies and age happens :) then it's much harder to do on your own. :)
 
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