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Yes, rkchicky, I think this idea of weaknesses stated, would be akin to the operative words, 'opposites attract.'
This makes sense to the green in me, anyway
I think praying for someone to come into your life who will like to do the mundane things you don't enjoy doing so much is a good thing. A lot of marriages work well that way, I think, not just guys doing garbage take out if nighttime and it needs taken out, guys do cooking more sometimes in the relationship. I know my friend does a lot of the cooking and his wife does more outside stuff, keeping the yard nice, flowers,etc.
For me, since I'm this far, but I do not like doing dishes, it's paper everything for me
I like that 'weaknesses' answer , and, I was thinking more along the lines of chores you do as a single person living alone, but, no question, that is a good perspective, too, milady
This makes sense to the green in me, anyway
I think praying for someone to come into your life who will like to do the mundane things you don't enjoy doing so much is a good thing. A lot of marriages work well that way, I think, not just guys doing garbage take out if nighttime and it needs taken out, guys do cooking more sometimes in the relationship. I know my friend does a lot of the cooking and his wife does more outside stuff, keeping the yard nice, flowers,etc.
For me, since I'm this far, but I do not like doing dishes, it's paper everything for me
I like that 'weaknesses' answer , and, I was thinking more along the lines of chores you do as a single person living alone, but, no question, that is a good perspective, too, milady
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Honestly, largely it's relational for me. Not having someone to always hold, kiss, touch, be with, speak to, listen to, love, be loved by...
I know Christ must be our #1, but it's often different and difficult to hear God, feel God, be there for God. I think in the same vein as the weakness RKChick mentioned, you just want someone you can go through life with, and even in seeking God. Good, bad, ugly...you're together as one. That's the hardest thing for me. I've got God, and though He truly is more than enough, even Adam, Abraham, David, and many of the other pillars of the faith got lonely, loved women, took wives, ext. I'm in the same boat, but God's Will be done. I'll live single should He ask me.
When it comes to chores, I'm not necessarily good at them, but I don't really mind doing what I must.
I know Christ must be our #1, but it's often different and difficult to hear God, feel God, be there for God. I think in the same vein as the weakness RKChick mentioned, you just want someone you can go through life with, and even in seeking God. Good, bad, ugly...you're together as one. That's the hardest thing for me. I've got God, and though He truly is more than enough, even Adam, Abraham, David, and many of the other pillars of the faith got lonely, loved women, took wives, ext. I'm in the same boat, but God's Will be done. I'll live single should He ask me.
When it comes to chores, I'm not necessarily good at them, but I don't really mind doing what I must.
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Ditto... For me its pretty much the same reasons that have been mentioned already.. I mean I have great siblings and parents and being one of six kids there is usually someone to listen to you when you're upset or someone has your back when you most need it... but its different. So I'd have to say for me its the lack of having someone who is MY other half..
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Yes, God%s grace is sufficient for me. I follow Him, I go to Heaven, cognizant of it having been nothing I did but being fully understanding of ALL Christ did for me (living on earth to show me His way before showing how to die, perfectly, obeying, and, then, of course, being raised as God raised Him ) and, I know that His plans all my life have been good for me, whether I've liked them all--and, of course, I haven't--or not.
Of everything said, I would echo the 'intimacy' thing at my point in life now but, maybe, for me, more than that even, would be a suitable partner to greatest farry out God's work and enhance both our rewards once we get to Heaven. Read Matthew 16:27 for understanding of what's just been said
Of everything said, I would echo the 'intimacy' thing at my point in life now but, maybe, for me, more than that even, would be a suitable partner to greatest farry out God's work and enhance both our rewards once we get to Heaven. Read Matthew 16:27 for understanding of what's just been said
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This seems like an appropriate thread to share this on...........
Take courage my friends. A desire to be with a partner is good, and from the Lord. Delight yourself in Him, and He will give you the desires of your heart! I used to think OK, I'll delight myself in Him, so I can get a wife.........but only He can truly satisfy, so if I got a wife but missed Him, I'd miss the point of life.......
But it's not for us to judge when we're ready, that's up to Him, and He's never late. For now thank Him of the benefits of being single, the times when it drives us to Him even more, and the extra time we can spend with Him because we don't have children etc. If He does provide a spouse, praise Him, and you'll be able to support those going through the same trial, if He doesn't praise Him, and you'll be able to support others.......
Psalm 50:23
Those who sacrifice thank offerings honor me,
and to the blameless I will show my salvation.
Take courage my friends. A desire to be with a partner is good, and from the Lord. Delight yourself in Him, and He will give you the desires of your heart! I used to think OK, I'll delight myself in Him, so I can get a wife.........but only He can truly satisfy, so if I got a wife but missed Him, I'd miss the point of life.......
But it's not for us to judge when we're ready, that's up to Him, and He's never late. For now thank Him of the benefits of being single, the times when it drives us to Him even more, and the extra time we can spend with Him because we don't have children etc. If He does provide a spouse, praise Him, and you'll be able to support those going through the same trial, if He doesn't praise Him, and you'll be able to support others.......
Psalm 50:23
Those who sacrifice thank offerings honor me,
and to the blameless I will show my salvation.
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Being the one who gets up to check the whole house when there's a strange noise or chopping up a tree when it falls in your yard or figuring out why the electricity went out or doing repairs on my car......are all things that I do because I have to but would SO much rather have a manly man (in tights? Lol) do all of that instead. Yep.
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Yeah, sigh, those are all good answers, guys
I will praise you in this storm song by Casting Crowns comes to mind, God wants us to be content, not always easy, but, I think, once we show a complete and utter helplessness to do things on our own but kjow He will be our light when power goes out, He will put His hand on our shoulder when warching a movie alone, He will, maybe, move us differently in life because He knows
I will praise you in this storm song by Casting Crowns comes to mind, God wants us to be content, not always easy, but, I think, once we show a complete and utter helplessness to do things on our own but kjow He will be our light when power goes out, He will put His hand on our shoulder when warching a movie alone, He will, maybe, move us differently in life because He knows
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Honestly I wouldn't say being single is a drag at all.
I didnt feel like this earlier this year but being single has truly been a blessing. I've experienced SO much growth in my relationship with God and I have gotten sooo much closer to my family and progressed so much in my career in the past few months. I give it ALL up to God.
Not to dwell on the negative, but I was really struggling with how lonely I felt after a heartbreak, and then family member getting murdered, and I pretty much gave up on my studies, gave up at work, and just withdrew from everything.
I guess after enough time passes things hurt less and less and I'm thankful that God has opened so many doors for me...not being single would have been a distraction.
As for dishes, laundry, etc- it's a lot easier to clean up after yourself.
I genuinely like my own company...can't really complain. I think being the first child of immigrants forces you to be able to entertain and rely on just yourself. I've always been pretty independent and haven't felt a real urge to share responsibilities and experiences with a significant other. My concern is usually over my parents or siblings. I don't have a lot of friends, not because I'm bad with people, I just don't have a big craving for socializing.
If a relationship happens, great, but I'm working on a few goals and God's already provided me with everything I need right now.
“And my God will meet all your needs according to his glorious riches in Christ Jesus.”
Phillippians 4:19
I didnt feel like this earlier this year but being single has truly been a blessing. I've experienced SO much growth in my relationship with God and I have gotten sooo much closer to my family and progressed so much in my career in the past few months. I give it ALL up to God.
Not to dwell on the negative, but I was really struggling with how lonely I felt after a heartbreak, and then family member getting murdered, and I pretty much gave up on my studies, gave up at work, and just withdrew from everything.
I guess after enough time passes things hurt less and less and I'm thankful that God has opened so many doors for me...not being single would have been a distraction.
As for dishes, laundry, etc- it's a lot easier to clean up after yourself.
I genuinely like my own company...can't really complain. I think being the first child of immigrants forces you to be able to entertain and rely on just yourself. I've always been pretty independent and haven't felt a real urge to share responsibilities and experiences with a significant other. My concern is usually over my parents or siblings. I don't have a lot of friends, not because I'm bad with people, I just don't have a big craving for socializing.
If a relationship happens, great, but I'm working on a few goals and God's already provided me with everything I need right now.
“And my God will meet all your needs according to his glorious riches in Christ Jesus.”
Phillippians 4:19
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I think it's just hard for a lot of people to wrap their minds around women whose primary goals aren't marriage and child rearing, particularly older people who grew up in a single income household. I dont think that their perception comes from a place of malice or condescension, just skepticism because it's not something to which they're accustomed. It could be that they think that the things that make THEM happy would also work to make YOU happy so it might not be so much of an issue of 'seeing you as less' but a slightly misguided sense of wanting the best for you. Of course, you know them better than I do but hopefully your church community strives to be a source of support.
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Oh I'm sure it's not malice....they just can't fathom the concept of being alright and being alone and bring it up at the oddest of times. The conversations will go a little something like this.
Them: "Are you going to the 'Common Ground' thing this saturday?" (that's a 25 - 50 ish age group event)
Me: "Naw, that's all married people who go to that thing. I don't actually have anything in common with them"
Them: **sad look** "awww, don't worry, your time will come"
Me: "Haha, I'm not worried about anything, I'm just not interested in hanging out with people who aren't in the same place in life."
Them: "Oh yes, well you know, God will place a special young man in your life, you just wait and see!"
Me: "It's not an issue, or relevant, really. I'm fine without. I don't need to get married just so I can be best friends with a bunch of married people"
Them: "well, I'm just praying that the right man for you will come alone" *still sporting sad look*
Me: "How did we get to this? I was just saying I'm not going to the event. That's all!"
Them: "awwww....some day..... "
Then the look of total disbelief and confusion on my face is interpreted as denial that my single status is truly bothering me deep down....I'm pretty sure they think I just can't face my grief. lol.
Them: "Are you going to the 'Common Ground' thing this saturday?" (that's a 25 - 50 ish age group event)
Me: "Naw, that's all married people who go to that thing. I don't actually have anything in common with them"
Them: **sad look** "awww, don't worry, your time will come"
Me: "Haha, I'm not worried about anything, I'm just not interested in hanging out with people who aren't in the same place in life."
Them: "Oh yes, well you know, God will place a special young man in your life, you just wait and see!"
Me: "It's not an issue, or relevant, really. I'm fine without. I don't need to get married just so I can be best friends with a bunch of married people"
Them: "well, I'm just praying that the right man for you will come alone" *still sporting sad look*
Me: "How did we get to this? I was just saying I'm not going to the event. That's all!"
Them: "awwww....some day.....
"Then the look of total disbelief and confusion on my face is interpreted as denial that my single status is truly bothering me deep down....I'm pretty sure they think I just can't face my grief. lol.