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I've been really good friends with this great guy since 8th grade which has been a little over 2 years. When I first met him I felt no attraction to him whatsoever and thought of him as an average guy, but as I got to know his personality and character I started to develop feelings for him. He's a Christian and a sweet guy. He's very funny and caring. He has his flaws about him but I still like him anyway and really care for him. I've been a good friend to him and given him advice in need and he's mentioned me as an amazing friend and he appreciates me. One day I told him I like him and admitted my feelings for him and he told me that he thanks me for letting him know and that he still loves me as a best friend but he loves his girlfriend that he's been going out with for almost 3 years now. I understand of course he has a girlfriend and I'm happy for him but I still cried over the situation. A year later he broke up with his girlfriend for about 6 months because he felt God tell him in a Christian camp to focus more on Him than his girlfriend and break up with her. He said he was getting closer to God but was still communicating with her all the time and seeing her once in a while. At this time I didn't know the reason why he broke up with her, I just knew he was single.
Then I decided to be stupid being he was single, to discuss my feelings for him again. He again told me that he's flattered that I like him, but he only loves me as best friend, nothing more or less unfortunately. He says he appreciates my kindness towards him, etc but he only likes me as a friend and is trying to get over a girl who held his heart for a long time. He said he was not planning to jump in a relationship anytime soon, that he's only focusing on God and family. He said maybe in the future I'll meet a guy who loves me for me. I of course sobbed after all this for a while then what's weird is 3 days after he told me all this, he ended up getting back with his girlfriend. 3 days later after he told me he wasn't planning on being in a relationship anytime soon, he gets back with his girlfriend. His sister told me that he prayed about it, and he said God told him it was okay to go back with his girlfriend? I don;t even think God told him, he just assumed, but maybe I'm wrong. I just don't understand why he would tell me one thing, then do another. He's probably going to marry his girlfriend and I don't know how I can get over him.
I thought about cutting the friendship but I don't know. I don't want to do that but I don't know what else to do. I've done a lot of things for him. Ive made him 3 drawings, got him 2 friendship bracelets that he doesn't wear, and a shirt for his birthday with a nice card. Now our friendship has been bad. We barely talk anymore and I've been distancing myself away from him. I told him that I may have to distance myself to get over you if I ever get over you and he said that it's my choice and he can't control what I do and he says he's so used of people dropping him as friends and he said I'm so used of friends leaving him so he says If I do it, it won't really phase him. He said he'll care but it won't surprise him. Now I've just been upset and don't know what to do. I'm going to pray about it and hope for an answer soon. Advice?
Then I decided to be stupid being he was single, to discuss my feelings for him again. He again told me that he's flattered that I like him, but he only loves me as best friend, nothing more or less unfortunately. He says he appreciates my kindness towards him, etc but he only likes me as a friend and is trying to get over a girl who held his heart for a long time. He said he was not planning to jump in a relationship anytime soon, that he's only focusing on God and family. He said maybe in the future I'll meet a guy who loves me for me. I of course sobbed after all this for a while then what's weird is 3 days after he told me all this, he ended up getting back with his girlfriend. 3 days later after he told me he wasn't planning on being in a relationship anytime soon, he gets back with his girlfriend. His sister told me that he prayed about it, and he said God told him it was okay to go back with his girlfriend? I don;t even think God told him, he just assumed, but maybe I'm wrong. I just don't understand why he would tell me one thing, then do another. He's probably going to marry his girlfriend and I don't know how I can get over him.
I thought about cutting the friendship but I don't know. I don't want to do that but I don't know what else to do. I've done a lot of things for him. Ive made him 3 drawings, got him 2 friendship bracelets that he doesn't wear, and a shirt for his birthday with a nice card. Now our friendship has been bad. We barely talk anymore and I've been distancing myself away from him. I told him that I may have to distance myself to get over you if I ever get over you and he said that it's my choice and he can't control what I do and he says he's so used of people dropping him as friends and he said I'm so used of friends leaving him so he says If I do it, it won't really phase him. He said he'll care but it won't surprise him. Now I've just been upset and don't know what to do. I'm going to pray about it and hope for an answer soon. Advice?
