I'm going to make a reciprocal thread for the ladies, but I would really like to see some honest answers from the guys without a free for all. Thanks 
I was thinking it might be more constructive to use past hurts as a learning experience rather than getting all negative about it, you know? Let's all learn from one another in a more civilized way, please?
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SO, I would encourage you, gentleman, to keep one another on track by staying on topic, being specific, not using a bunch of christianese/criticisms/pat answers/giant walls of scripture. Please give edifying, honest, from the core answers.
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Question 1: How would you like to be treated by your special lady? Not a bunch of rules, etc., but how you honestly would like to be TREATED
I'd like to be treated with what I call "equality in expectations", not to be confused with "respecting our differences" mentioned below. There will be different things expected from both people, but for men to have certain expectations of women is almost "offensive" to some women, feeling like they're products on shelves. But 1Still_Waters said it best: No double standards. I don't want her to hold certain expectations of me if she's not willing to consider my expectations of her. I want her to treat me how she wants me to treat her in this respect; the golden rule.
Question 2: How would you like to be treated by women in general?
I would like to stop feeling this undercurrent of contempt & distrust for men (but I don't know if contempt is the right word). I'd like men to be treated with a balance of worth from womankind, because otherwise most areas in life feel gynocentric these days. To not be treated as guilty until I've proven innocent. Such hardens an already "male" heart and puts men on the defensive.
For women to take the time to understand how most men (specifically those who've yet to be blessed with a woman in their lives to help them in this aspect) think and communicate; that men (those yet without a measure of feminine influence to soften them) are direct, "very coarse", abrasive; that not every instance of communication (short of smiley faces, hearts or subtlety) is meant to be mean or hurtful to the recipient...when the
intent is many times actually quite the opposite (you may not believe it's so, but it's true). Yet in their incompleteness; in their lack of female influence, the results are often what they are (the effect being what it is). Communication has always been where women were stronger than men. Traditionally men are action-takers, not talkers at the core. So I just want women to try to take this into consideration.
I'd also like women to respect the differences in men, as society (as a whole) teaches men to respect the differences in women, starting from when we're little boys. There are things men can do that women can not do, just as there are things women can do that men can not do. We are not equal creatures but we're equal in worth, otherwise there wouldn't be differences. But when the prevailing view is that women can do everything men can, as well as stuff men can't, logic dictates that men are effectively redundant, or "only good for..." whatever.
Question 3: How are you conducting yourself in order to bring what you would like to see in Questions 1 and 2 come about?
My first thought was to defend the male side at every opportunity by revealing hypocrisy in certain instances, as well as the truth in our differences in other instances. I'd even share scripture to show examples from a higher dimension to elicit godly respect of the truth in these instances. But I don't think it's worth doing anymore.
In my personal life I keep my opinions to myself unless I'm asked, and live a life of the traditional godly gentleman: Quiet unless spoken to, respectful to and thoughtful of both women and men (treating them how I'd like to be treated), honest to a fault, unbreakable moral code. Otherwise, there's nothing I can do to bring about these changes in other people. Only God can change a person.
