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Beckster

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This has been on my mind lately and am now going to ask you men out there :)

My appetite varies but usually its not so big. Ever since I was little I ate like a bird. On all my dates, the guy was kinda shocked when I didn't order much or sometimes nothing at all. I was sincerely not hungry so it wasn't nerves or trying to be all primpy and not get food on my face or something. They joked about me being a cheap date but it had me wondering if this was a bad thing? I truly didn't mean to offend them and even explained that I wasn't hungry. I know men like to see a girl have a healthy appetite and not be afraid to eat in front of them (not the case here).

So, men, am very curious on what your thoughts are. Would you date a girl who hardly ate when you took her out for dinner?
 
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Hard for me to answer because i don't date randomly. So if you mean with someone you hardly know, then there is a good chance it will be taken as you trying to make an impression, rather than being how you really are. And telling them likely won't change that view, because the women that are doing this on purpose say the same thing.
But if someone were unwilling to give you another chance over this, or take time to get to know for sure, then it's probably for the best anyways.
If i knew that this was just how she was, which by the time we had a romantic date i would know, then it wouldn't bother me. If a woman makes a good enough impression and catches my attention i'd have to be an idiot to think that 'she doesn't eat enough' is a good reason to forget about her. Long as there was no underlying issues (image issues, food issues, health issues) that she was keeping secret. If that turned out to be the case then i'd likely have a problem. But more of the lying/hiding than the actual problem.
So yeah. If the woman is right, who cares if she doesn't have an appetite?
 
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For me, there are four areas that I would like us to share together apart from spirituality. They are - food, music, travel and people. If she crosses out any of these then I would not date her.

So, to answer your question, I would not date a girl who hardly eats even if I have known her for a long time. We may be friends but I would not date her.
 
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Beckster said:
This has been on my mind lately and am now going to ask you men out there :)

My appetite varies but usually its not so big. Ever since I was little I ate like a bird. On all my dates, the guy was kinda shocked when I didn't order much or sometimes nothing at all. I was sincerely not hungry so it wasn't nerves or trying to be all primpy and not get food on my face or something. They joked about me being a cheap date but it had me wondering if this was a bad thing? I truly didn't mean to offend them and even explained that I wasn't hungry. I know men like to see a girl have a healthy appetite and not be afraid to eat in front of them (not the case here).

So, men, am very curious on what your thoughts are. Would you date a girl who hardly ate when you took her out for dinner?
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Nothing to worry about... saying that you're a cheap date is just the guy's attempt at saying something funny. Don't take it personally. I used to date a woman who felt just like you do about not wanting to eat in front of people and she barely ordered anything too. I never called her a cheap date though. :rolleyes: Her and I eventually became close, so it certainly didn't bother me that she hardly ate when we went out.
 
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Roh_Chris said:
For me, there are four areas that I would like us to share together apart from spirituality. They are - food, music, travel and people. If she crosses out any of these then I would not date her.

So, to answer your question, I would not date a girl who hardly eats even if I have known her for a long time. We may be friends but I would not date her.
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Chris, I'm curious... Can you expand and explain why you wouldn't date a girl who only eats a little? Is it because you love food? Or is it more complicated than that?
 
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Raine said:
Chris, I'm curious... Can you expand and explain why you wouldn't date a girl who only eats a little? Is it because you love food? Or is it more complicated than that?
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This may be a complex equation and the beauty may lie in its simplicity.
 
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Cheap dates may lead to expensive ramifications with wondrous implications. A woman with deep inner and outer beauty is certainly worthy of the cost of an excellent meal for she is invaluable. I love a woman with an appetite that has impeccable tastes. This often leads to pleasant after dinner conversation and late night snacks.
 
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Raine said:
Chris, I'm curious... Can you expand and explain why you wouldn't date a girl who only eats a little? Is it because you love food? Or is it more complicated than that?
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Raine, thank you for asking that question. It is a little complicated but I can explain it. There are three reasons why I wouldn't date a girl who only eats a litte.

First, I love food. A girl who eats only a little either has a small appetite or she is too conscious about her hip size. Either way that puts her in a position where she cannot enjoy food. If she is health-conscious, then that's different because I rarely have junk foods like McD, KFC, Domino's, Pizza Hut, soft drinks, etc. Whether it's a girl or a guy, I cannot enjoy dining with someone who eats only a little.

Second, I eat a lot and I take my time to enjoy the food. I relish every mouth of food while I eat and it's a happy sensation when I eat food that is really tasty. Dating a girl who has a small appetite means that she is going to be full in a couple of bites. That kills the enjoyment for me. On top of that, she is going to sit there watching me eat. That makes me feel very, very awkward. I feel it is impolite to let somebody wait and watch me while I eat.

The last reason is from my experience so far. A girl who eats a little could be too feminine for me. If I force her to have a few more bites she is going to be cribbing for the rest of the day. That is enough to make me regret for having taken her out for food.

In short, my date must have mastered the art of wolfing down her food and still staying fit! :p I've seen that food can be a good ice-breaker between a couple. Also, if a couple fight they can always patch up over some good food. And food can give me so many memories. I would like to share those memories with her.
 
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Beckster said:
So, men, am very curious on what your thoughts are. Would you date a girl who hardly ate when you took her out for dinner?
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I've been married for a while now, but I remember, back when I was still single, dating women who didn't eat very much when I took them out to dinner. It didn't bother me a bit. I would prefer that over them eating like a horse.
 
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Beckster

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Thank you guys so much! I truly appreciate all of this. Gives me great insight into what men are thinking. I do love food and even cook and bake for my family. I just have a small appetite. *shrug* Perhaps if I ran a mile before the date I will be able to eat. ;)
 
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I think it's universally true to say that food brings people together. Personally, I love food but I do believe calling a date "cheap" would be dishonourable. If your date doesn't eat much, fine, but to call anyone "cheap" devalues them as a person. That said, thank God my girl enjoys her food.
 
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Well we all seem to be nuts here, and fruit and nuts go well together...

Beckster I wouldn't advise you try to find ways to eat more on a date, like running a mile beforehand. That would be trying to alter a fundamental part of who you are to fit what you think your date expects. Just be you and let it roll. :) If your date makes one remark about you not eating a lot and being a "cheap date" let that roll too. If he keeps making the same tired joke about it over and over... er... well... maybe time to look for someone else.

Mind you, the preceding is only one person's opinion and is no more valid than any other person's, including yours. Standard disclaimers apply.
 
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I'll date a woman eating habits notwithstanding. Unless of course she is a complete glutton. That's something I've never had much patience for in either sex.

Yeah, I'm not a Baptist.
 
Roh_Chris

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Beckster said:
Thank you guys so much! I truly appreciate all of this. Gives me great insight into what men are thinking. I do love food and even cook and bake for my family. I just have a small appetite. *shrug* Perhaps if I ran a mile before the date I will be able to eat. ;)
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Whoa, chill there!! You don't need to change yourself. Be yourself. The right one will come along, who will accept you for who you are. :)
 
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That's really not something I think about, so...yes? I mean, my brother is a really picky eater, and that gets to be somthing we tease him about sometimes. I mean, it's frustrating when my mom is one of the greatest non-chef cooks in the world, but he won't eat even a tenth of what she makes. Similarly, if a girl never ate anything I made or when we went out... well, it's not a deal breaker, but it would be a little sad I think. Anyway...hope that answers your question.
 
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Desdichado said:
I'll date a woman eating habits notwithstanding. Unless of course she is a complete glutton. That's something I've never had much patience for in either sex.
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I once had a friend who stopped dating a woman because he said she ate like a pig. He called her a "chow hound." He also mentioned that she had ugly feet. Not sure what turned him off more. :eek:
 
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I considered myself a cheap date, as I like to bring along my own home made food when I go out.
 
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