A hypothetical question

[Jullianna]

Once things begin to get serious and the bigger questions come up, that would be the time. If you aren't in a serious relationship yet, your personal business is your personal business.

 

[RickShafer]

Seriously,.....who gonna know about that before they're married?

 

[Jullianna]

Women who go to the doctor for yearly exams would know about that, especially as it relates to certain known medical conditions.

 

[isaria]

I can not bare children as I had ovarian cancer.

Am now on christian mingle site and on my profile it clearly says that I can not have children but welcome other children of all races and species (farm and zoo and... to keep them all )

So far have not had a date or any responce as such (maybe because of my honesty )but I like to be "up front" and clear where i stand.
Who I am and what I want and some other important factors.

I suggest a care nup if i do marry.
That one simply cares for each other and even has it as a legal deal.
(no laughing when partner sick "yeaaa, die soon and money for me and and and...)

 

[stone8]

I would say that is a topic that varies when to be discussed..it all depends on the relationship and when it comes up. If it doesn't just come up I would bring it up when a relationship is serious....When the two ppl are discussing their possible future together it should def be talked about...not only if you cant have children but everything to do with kids just like does the other person want them or would you both be ok with adoption..I would not say it sooner.. cuz that would be so awkward on a first date and with that kinda convo i doubt there would be a second date...lol...just when it feels right spill it..its not a secret it is something u biologically cant do thats not ur fault...and if the person loves u and is with u for u it wont matter and u will work things out together from there

 

[jason_lee]

About to be baptized? - "Praise the Lord I can't have kids!!" (just before the dunk)

"Praise the Lord, I can't have kids" --or-- "Praise the Lord; I can't have kids" --or-- "Praise the Lord. I can't have kids."

An English professor wrote these words - "A woman without her man is nothing" on the chalkboard and asked his students to punctuate it correctly.
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All of the males in the class wrote: "A woman, without her man, is nothing."
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All the females in the class wrote: "A woman: without her, man is nothing."
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Punctuation is everything
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[error]

Before things get serious (casual conversations about the future together).

 

[Donkeyfish07]

Wait for the poll

Males and females: If you had an condition that made it so that there was a good chance of not being able to have biological children, would you tell the person in advance ofkind the relationship getting serious? After a few dates? When would be an appropriate time?

The second we "click" i put all my cards on the table. By the second date, you always know what I want and what kind of behavior your allowed to get away with and what my boundaries are.An appropriate time for me to decide what i want from you is a week assuming i have a good read on you. There is the odd girl that can string me along for months with me having no idea what our potential is. I don't value the ability or inabilility of someone to bear children so thats not even a factor to me..i don't care if your barren or not so my outlook on that is neutral

As far as conditions for having children, i dont want to bring any into this world and if thats your dream, move along and find a good christian guy that wants kids.

 

[Ugly]

Since i don't date casually, by the time i got romantically involved she would have known that already. Or, in my case, that i just don't want to have children.

 

[Jordache]

This actually came up in my current relationship very early on. Having children is one of my biggest dreams. Since my bf is so much older than I am, we talked about it almost immediately. No kids was a no go for me.

 

[RickShafer]

"Praise the Lord, I can't have kids" --or-- "Praise the Lord; I can't have kids" --or-- "Praise the Lord. I can't have kids."

An English professor wrote these words - "A woman without her man is nothing" on the chalkboard and asked his students to punctuate it correctly.

All of the males in the class wrote: "A woman, without her man, is nothing."



All the females in the class wrote: "A woman: without her, man is nothing."
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Punctuation is everything
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Lighten up.
- I was jesting.
- - Read it as you will.
(Also, the previous dialogue will attest to the 'spirit' of the author's meaning when referring to contested phrases : Composition 101)

 

[RickShafer]

Punctuation is open to the author.
There is no formulaic way to punctuate an idea, excepting the period to finish.

 

[presidente]

I don't think there is one right way to do this, but I think it is best to bring it up early on before the other person gets emotionally invested. It's a lot kinder than luring the person in with hopes of a life together and marriage and then BAM! hit them with the big hammer over the head and say, "I can't have kids."

When should someone bring up certain types of deformities that wouldn't otherwise be discovered on the wedding night? It's probably easier to say, "I can't have kids than that." That could be a bigger bomb than the can't have kids one. I would not know from personal experience of course.

If you can't have kids and you want kids, you can keep an eye out for widows/widowers who have kids. Folks with kids sometimes find it hard to find a partner.