Advice for Singles

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GaryA

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Gojira said:
I'll tell you, the only time I ever thought I needed that kind of freedom was when I was living at home. With a good spouse, anything still goes.
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814MB said:
Show me a spouse that would be 100% fine with the husband/father of the family jetting off to another country last-minute and I’ll show you a marriage that’s on its last thread.
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I think you missed the point - the wife goes with him - they go places together... ;)
 
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GaryA said:
I think you missed the point - the wife goes with him - they go places together... ;)
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No- my point was I get to do what *I* want when I want. If I want to go somewhere myself I can and don’t need anyone’s permission. I’ve been saying I have more freedoms to do what *I* want to do being single. I can come/go as I please without consulting anyone else.
 
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haha Paul Theroux...his marriage didnt last long (Im being a cynic, but when I read his travel books Im like...here you are swanning around the world writing about it yet you have a wife and children at home. WHY arent they coming with you? )

Do you think they are happy staying put waiting for you to return while you are off having all these adventures?
 
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I know someone single who is constantly cycling cycling cycling around the world.
Im not a great fan of doing that all the time so I can imagine it would be great for me to marry anyone like that. He's happier single. If he married he would either have to give that up or his wife would have to cycle with him and any children on his back or a tricycle or something.
 
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814MB said:
Show me a spouse that would be 100% fine with the husband/father of the family jetting off to another country last-minute and I’ll show you a marriage that’s on its last thread.
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A requite is obviously in order...

With a good spouse, anything still goes.
 
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Sorry 814. With a good spouse, a marriage still stinks and it's better to live a narcissistic life. :D:LOL:
 
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Krisisphotos said:
Hello everyone,

I was just wondering if anyone had any advice for singles on how to meet more peope/find your mate.

I am 26, single, faithful to God. I have a good job, I am in a good place mentally, I attend a good church. I work I go to sporting events I hang out in coffee shops, but I just feel like everywhere I look everyone my age is taken.

Any advice?

Please don't say just wait because I've been waiting for years, I'm ready to take action.
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I'm not American but I will plead the 5th lol
 
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GaryA

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814MB said:
No- my point was I get to do what *I* want when I want. If I want to go somewhere myself I can and don’t need anyone’s permission. I’ve been saying I have more freedoms to do what *I* want to do being single. I can come/go as I please without consulting anyone else.
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I understand perfectly what you are saying; however, you are not the only one in the conversation with an opinion worth considering...
 
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GaryA said:
I understand perfectly what you are saying; however, you are not the only one in the conversation with an opinion worth considering...
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No need to be rude and condescending
 
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GaryA said:
I understand perfectly what you are saying; however, you are not the only one in the conversation with an opinion worth considering...
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And further more, you were not understanding what I was saying. At all.
 
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814MB said:
At this point in life I’m actually happy to be single. I enjoy the freedom of doing what I want, when I want. Like several times I’ve said “I’ve always wanted to go to_____” and so I’d hop on a plane and go. Only continent I haven’t been to now is Antarctica.
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Yeah it IS pretty nice.

From what I've observed though, when you find that special somebody... You want-to changes.

I will know I am in love with somebody when my want-to includes checking with her before I make plans. From what I have seen when friends of mine meet and pair up, it seems to have something to do with loving a person enough to be willing to make plans as a pair instead of alone.

Of course I could be wrong. Never been there myself.
 
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