age gap

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sc81

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what age gap is appropriate for christian dating since it never mentions anything about it in the Bible.

as a 32 year old male should I stay within +/- 5 years.

You have to be careful as a man because of how easily you get the "creep" label in todays society, or even church.
I have met some nice women in their early 20's but it feels wrong to even be friendly to them as anything more than purely platonic.
 
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There is no answer to this. It is largely cultural more than anything. I think there is wisdom to be used, nonetheless. My personal age range, as far as younger is 10 years. Older no more than 5. But whatever you are comfortable with. Long as she is of legal age it is up to you. But i believe as you get older it gives you more room. For me going 15 years younger would likely be too much. That would put her just out of college. But in another 5 years 15 years younger is more reasonable as by that age the women would be in a more mature age range. The age difference less obvious. If you think 5/5 is the right range for you, then stick with that. But it helps to know if you are willing to budge and if so how much. If you met a woman 7 years younger... or older... is that too much? Is 5 a rigid number? Or a general range? But for me, personally, if you were to approach a 22 year old that would be reasonable. Though it may be best to take your time first if you go that young. Just to ensure she isn't still of the mindset that 30 is old =P
 
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sc81

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well pretty much the only single women in their 30's I encounter are divorced with kids. As a guy that's never been married that is something I feel would be very hard to make work from a relationship perspective. So I would feel more compatible with someone never married so it's naturally someone younger.

Men are suppose to be the pursuers and like you say anything legal but there are all these unwritten rules you have to observe as well that can vary from person to person almost.
 
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Well, i was 22 and dated a woman that was 32 with three kids. So i can't support you on that idea.

And i also don't believe men are supposed to be the pursuers as i have been pursued at times and found it acceptable. If you disagree and want to debate there are a few threads on the topic already in existence. Feel free to post your disagreement there. But i won't be in it as i find many of the posts insulting.
 
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I have to post.

I dont think there is such a thing as an age range. just as long as its legal. However like you OP I am one of those never married no kids guys and honestly I am not a fan of the pre-made family thing ether (women with kids) expecial since many of these women my age that have kids don't want any more thus leaving me with well you want kids of your own. tough luck. but you have to deal with all mine..

not me, not playing that game, quite honestly for me to deal with kids day in and day out they are going to have to be mine. which would leave me very few options if that in my "age range"

Course, I dont expect any relationship anyway never had one, doubt I ever will have one. so meh.
 
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ww_21

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I don't think the age gap is even relevant as long as you're both legal and wanting the relationship? Most men I know tend to date 5 years younger no more.
 
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NodMyHeadLikeYeah

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The only problem i see with differences in age range is emotional stability and commitment. In my experience and what i have observed, the younger the man/woman is the less emotionally stable he or she is. Their ability to commit to something serious seems also to be in question as well.

Again, this is not everyone. Their are lots of mature younger men and women out there. However you cannot deny that two people with a significant number between them are in different places mentally.
 
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sc81 said:
what age gap is appropriate for christian dating since it never mentions anything about it in the Bible.

as a 32 year old male should I stay within +/- 5 years.

You have to be careful as a man because of how easily you get the "creep" label in todays society, or even church.
I have met some nice women in their early 20's but it feels wrong to even be friendly to them as anything more than purely platonic.
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Forget about women, get yourself a damsel!

Ruth 2:4 ¶ And, behold, Boaz came from Bethlehem, and said unto the reapers, The LORD [be] with you. And they answered him, The LORD bless thee. Then said Boaz unto his servant that was set over the reapers, Whose damsel [is] this? And the servant that was set over the reapers answered and said, It [is] the Moabitish damsel that came back with Naomi out of the country of Moab:
 
secularhermit

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For me, no more than 10 years and, it can be guessed on the Bible, looking at those married men.

Will you marry an OLD woman?
Will they marry an OLD man? (Why?) (Not mentioning the economic factors)

The trends, today, is marrying young people (Why?) (Because of love and companionship?)

Dude!
 
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