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Hello everyone relate much on this post. It's been 16yrs I've didn't dating someone its just like I don't feel dating someone after I breakup with my first bf. Is it true that first love never die?Oh I don't know all I know I'm already 37yrs old and I want to have my own family have children spepecially 
I am not actively seeking a mate. If someone comes into my life and we begin to date, well that would be fun and I'd take that ride to where ever it took me. If not, oh well.
Just because I am not actively seeking anyone to date doesn't mean I won't:
- flirt when the opportunity arises
- smile at and or wave to a man
- chat with a man
- approach someone I want to get to know better - as a friend or maybe romantically
- accept an invitation for coffee or dinner or a bike ride...
Just because I am not actively seeking anyone to date doesn't mean I won't:
- flirt when the opportunity arises
- smile at and or wave to a man
- chat with a man
- approach someone I want to get to know better - as a friend or maybe romantically
- accept an invitation for coffee or dinner or a bike ride...
To my surprise, on fakebook, I saw how many women (also men) had a huge potential to cheat on without being noticed and, surely there are more ways any person becomes a cheater without giving a clue.
Dating gave no right to a person but, it will teach men and women how THE PERSON YOU BEFRIENDED should behave a good part of his/her life.
Marriage, sometimes, shows who you really married but, I have known, people still play their games as a thieves in the night.
So life is too short to be wasted, it´s lottery we bet and lose.
Hello everyone relate much on this post. It's been 16yrs I've didn't dating someone its just like I don't feel dating someone after I breakup with my first bf. Is it true that first love never die?Oh I don't know all I know I'm already 37yrs old and I want to have my own family have children spepecially
Why on certain sites people often like to be photoshopped or wearing sunglasses, instead of showing who they really are?
Many think it is a gift letting people know who they are (by faked pictures or old ones). Those think it a REWARD showing a single finger, her feet or boots, to show the´re fetish or so selfcentered and, evenly I show my ugliness, the real ME I tried to hide, there are too many things people "have" to accept or tolerate when I´m genuinely exposed (physically) when MY mind is hidden or slowly reluctantly shown: We also love the SOUL, the body is fading away in few decades!
I'm sure this statement is true for some but for myself and several others, it's totally false. I've been on 2 Christian dating sties the past two years, as well as having a few dates set up in "real life" situations as well.
After all, many of us have shared our dating horror stories here, and that's part of the fun of this form.
I seem to average a whopping 2-3 dates per year. And all first dates, mind you. But doggone it, THAT'S STILL DATING!!! At least, in my book.
Of course, I could just be delusional. Either that or still in recovery.
After all, many of us have shared our dating horror stories here, and that's part of the fun of this form.
I seem to average a whopping 2-3 dates per year. And all first dates, mind you. But doggone it, THAT'S STILL DATING!!! At least, in my book.
Of course, I could just be delusional. Either that or still in recovery.
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My dating history is laughable. I always wanted to be a husband and father, but god has seen fit to make sure that never happened. I haven't been on a date in years. Why? after being rejected and friend zoned time and time again, you get more than a little gun shy. At this point it would take something pretty special before I'd put my neck out there again. I know there have been several posts from females on here in regards to finding a man that's not stuck in the worldly side of things, but in my experience it is at least just as difficult to find a female that doesn't have a pile of worldly hang ups. (gotta look, act, dress, just right.. gotta have the right house in the right neighborhood, make the right amount of money, etc.) I find that the women I've known in my lifetime to be far more materialistic, world centered, and judgmental than they would claim. I have a hard time not laughing when I hear women talk about just wanting a good man that works hard and loves well. I know that my opinions on that may offend some folks and I apologize if it does, but I'm speaking from the experience of 40 years of singleness. I have 2 godsons, 15-20 kids that call me uncle (only 2 are blood), more life long friends than most people I know who always tell me that I'd make a great husband and father. (maybe they're blowing smoke up my skirt?) I treat people, especially women, with respect. Sex is not a big motivator for me. Waiting for marriage would be a cake walk. I'm not trying to make myself look good, but I write those things because I think that some times god just decides that you're gonna be single regardless of anything else. I am a million miles from perfect, but am I that undatable? I've always been blown away by women that chase after some of the biggest jerks I've seen simply because they look a certain way or some other stupid worldly thing. And some of the biggest jerk men I know are heavily involved in churches.....happily married..... I could go on and on. Yes. I AM jaded.
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Well, I am sorry that you have had such a negative experience with women in general. Not every woman is like this, just so you know. God right now is teaching me to have faith and to trust him with my everything. Honestly just keep doing what your doing especially when it comes to the respect part and God can do anything. As far as sounding undateable, you are far from it. You said you treat women with respect and your not perfect that sounds like two good qualities right there. Honestly, what you are asking for I have met several ladies on here that would fit your category. One thing that I love about this site is that people here are raw, they are able to strip away all of who we are and get to our heart and find our deepest desires and share them. There are women all around where you are that may fit every quality you desire, but because they may have one flaw shouldn't keep you from the race.
I wish you read those latins I have seen saying, as a must: "I want them not to be mean (Tacaño) or stingy..."
What do they have to offer?
Is love traded as merchandise?
Will they ask and... what are they offering, in EQUAL conditions?
At least, these, are OPEN and sincere of what they want and, the most they showed their breast or legs, I know what they´re "selling" (honestly talking).
What do they have to offer?
Is love traded as merchandise?
Will they ask and... what are they offering, in EQUAL conditions?
At least, these, are OPEN and sincere of what they want and, the most they showed their breast or legs, I know what they´re "selling" (honestly talking).
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Anything is possible, but why would you want that?
My first answer is that should only happen if its two dudes or if it's two chicks. Otherwise, I'd question why God wouldn't allow it to be more than a friendship. Unless there's something that actually keeps one of the two parties from being attracted to the other party, it sounds like one or both of them is being foolish.
There is a problem If both parties can say "hey, I met this great person of the opposite sex, and they're about as perfect as a human being could be, but I'm not interested in them romantically" Who leaves that one just sitting on the table? Seriously unless there is a valid reason not to pursue it, then why wouldn't you.
If I was in that situation, I'd straight up talk to the woman involved and tell her I wanted more (and I don't mean sex, I mean a relationship that leads to a marriage). If she said no, I'd wait a while and probably ask a second time. After that point I'll only assume that she's either just not attracted to me at all, or she's too timid to respond even after getting to know someone for a decent sized chunk of time and realizing that said person was also a Christian. Either way, she'd have to broach the subject at that point. Yeah, we'd still be friends, but I'm going to move on at that point.
Now, I could see it going the other way too - a guy could be too timid to ask out a woman in that situation. Man card destroyed, absolutely shredded to pieces. So not cool...
