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Lynx

Lynx

Folksy yet erudite
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Emoticons?

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Galahad

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Olerica said:
I will say that in not-written communication, I'm a whole lot lighter than I come off here. Not less thoughtful, but more sarcastic, and I play with words more. Tone in written conversation is important because so much can be misunderstood. :)
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I'm tone deaf, so tone means nothing to me. And it don't matter if its verbal or nonverbal. Just tone deaf altogether.
 
Stravinsk

Stravinsk

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Olerica said:
I work at being aware of what I say to others, and to how it might land. I try to listen to what the person I am responding to is saying and thinking like it were my own words.

So it was a surprise to me when a member accused me of bullying other people on this forum, and has said that other people agree with the assessment of me being a bully. I went to this person in a PM, but they will not tell me where I have bullied others so that I can make amends to those I've hurt, or see evidence of the behavior so I can change it.

I don't want to behave in a bullying fashion, so if I have done this to you, or treated you unkindly and you've been afraid to approach me about it, I welcome your correction. I mess stuff up all the time, and I would love for my errors to be kindly brought to my attention. Now, I am not looking for a pat on the back, I really do want you to tell me if I have gotten it wrong where you are concerned. If you don't feel comfy posting here, please do pm me. Links and/or quotes would be helpful.

(Please be kind, can you imagine opening yourself up to the board like this? This is scary, but if I am wrong, I'd rather be corrected than stupidly act cruelly to others.)

Otherwise, I will chalk this up to this person trolling me.

Thanks!
Ole
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Hi there, I can't say I have any opinion because I'm not a regular here normally, don't read the forum normally and have only a few posts since I signed up a few years ago.

But! I can say that it is very easy to get a bad reputation if certain people conspire to make it so. I myself have earned a bad rep based on the endless accusations of other users (on another chat community) that were largely based on half truths and lies (even partial misrepresentations of private messages) - and - not least - an online relationship with someone that went sour, and the resulting spite and game playing and twisting of things that accompanied that within that community.

Some people will only see you through either their agenda, their hate/hurt or their ambition and there's not much you can do to change that. So while I do not know the details of your position, I can empathize. Hope this is rectified for you and all parties involved.
 
proverbs35

proverbs35

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It's late, so I don't have time for a longer post.

Olerica:

You are not a bully. I enjoy reading your posts and what you bring to table.
 
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