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I think she meant 'help me out guys' generically, not to males specifically.
And to answer OP, i would avoid dating. Dating can be quite a distraction. Its better to get yourself built up, spiritually, with education, etc.. before entering into a relationship. The more time you spend growing the better chance you have at picking someone when you are ready. And a better chance at the relationship working out right. Don't rush to be in a relationship. Don't let others pressure you into it. Just live your life and if you meet someone one day, great, if not, so what?
And to answer OP, i would avoid dating. Dating can be quite a distraction. Its better to get yourself built up, spiritually, with education, etc.. before entering into a relationship. The more time you spend growing the better chance you have at picking someone when you are ready. And a better chance at the relationship working out right. Don't rush to be in a relationship. Don't let others pressure you into it. Just live your life and if you meet someone one day, great, if not, so what?
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Boys are very distracting 
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I agree with Ritter. Also, only you know yourself, and if you can handle a relationship/dating while studying. Personally, I would take the risk and dip my feet in the water
heheI agree with Ritter. Also, only you know yourself, and if you can handle a relationship/dating while studying. Personally, I would take the risk and dip my feet in the water
Actually I think it's girls that are the bigger problem.
I know people who made it through school both with and without gf/bf so it can be done either way. I didn't really want a gf during school, so I never had one.
Here is where the language gets tricky....
and it might even be different for guys than it is for women.
I'm not qualified to date right now. Maybe in December. BUT, unless I find someone worth dating in what I'm already doing, I'm not going to put myself out there or go looking.
Life for some people there is a sort of Dating Scene, or putting themselves out, or going out into society for the purpose of dating or finding a spouse.
I will never do that.
I will do the things that I like to do and meet/befriend someone who does those same things. Friendship will lead to more, but, I will never start a romantic relationship from scratch or date someone to get to know them, or go out with an attractive stranger.
To me that is something the world does for sex. Instant Romance, just add water, stir and hopefully in 6 months rings will appear, if not, rinse and repeat.
and it might even be different for guys than it is for women.
I'm not qualified to date right now. Maybe in December. BUT, unless I find someone worth dating in what I'm already doing, I'm not going to put myself out there or go looking.
Life for some people there is a sort of Dating Scene, or putting themselves out, or going out into society for the purpose of dating or finding a spouse.
I will never do that.
I will do the things that I like to do and meet/befriend someone who does those same things. Friendship will lead to more, but, I will never start a romantic relationship from scratch or date someone to get to know them, or go out with an attractive stranger.
To me that is something the world does for sex. Instant Romance, just add water, stir and hopefully in 6 months rings will appear, if not, rinse and repeat.
I think it's different upon how you are brought up. In our case, my sisters and i weren't allowed to date anyone not unless we are done with college. And i have no objections about it because it is true there are a lot of distractions when you are dating someone and at the same time you are studying. If you have a huge fight with your boyfriend,it can also severely affect your grades. But then again it's different from one person to another. And if someone is truly interested in you then he would be willing to wait for you.
Even though you're just a little older than me...
I honestly suggest that you wait. I feel like teenagers these days feel a NEED to date. They just HAVE to have a significant other, and we're already transitioning into so many other huge changes in our life right now, it'd be a completely unstable decision to get a boyfriend at this time. We're keeping up with studies, we're getting prepared to graduate, finding a college if God tells you to go, to get a job if you don't have one yet...it's draining, especially emotionally. The person we date now is 94% likely not to be the person we marry. And if that's the case, then why even bother?
These are just my thoughts on it, and it's why I've never had a boyfriend, and probably won't for a loooong time. But only you know yourself well enough to say, "Yeah, I can do this." And in a way, every time I see questions like this, they in a way already have their motives set in stone and intend on doing it. So if you do, if you don't listen to anything else I say, just listen to this:
Pray. Pray for whoever catches your eye, and whoever finds interest in you. And actually LISTEN for Him. If God doesn't want you to be with that person, He'll let it be made known (it may not be huge flashing lights...it might just be a small thought saying, "You know...maybe not."). If you don't feel peace about them, then they're definitely not it. I know not everyone will agree with me on this. It's probably because they've had different experiences. And that's okay. There's no cookie-cutter way to successfully find your future spouse. Everyone's different. But it NEVER hurts to pray for whoever you're interested in or whoever is interested in you.
I honestly suggest that you wait. I feel like teenagers these days feel a NEED to date. They just HAVE to have a significant other, and we're already transitioning into so many other huge changes in our life right now, it'd be a completely unstable decision to get a boyfriend at this time. We're keeping up with studies, we're getting prepared to graduate, finding a college if God tells you to go, to get a job if you don't have one yet...it's draining, especially emotionally. The person we date now is 94% likely not to be the person we marry. And if that's the case, then why even bother?
These are just my thoughts on it, and it's why I've never had a boyfriend, and probably won't for a loooong time. But only you know yourself well enough to say, "Yeah, I can do this." And in a way, every time I see questions like this, they in a way already have their motives set in stone and intend on doing it. So if you do, if you don't listen to anything else I say, just listen to this:
Pray. Pray for whoever catches your eye, and whoever finds interest in you. And actually LISTEN for Him. If God doesn't want you to be with that person, He'll let it be made known (it may not be huge flashing lights...it might just be a small thought saying, "You know...maybe not."). If you don't feel peace about them, then they're definitely not it. I know not everyone will agree with me on this. It's probably because they've had different experiences. And that's okay. There's no cookie-cutter way to successfully find your future spouse. Everyone's different. But it NEVER hurts to pray for whoever you're interested in or whoever is interested in you.
