Wow. This has really opened my mind. I feel very stupid for all the drama I caused because of this. I guess it all went down to communication. My own insercurities outshadowed what a blessing was to have a man with such a mind set. Thank you
No, you dodged a bullet with that one.
I'm usually one of the first ones to say an overemphasis on romance is a bad thing - but there is zero romance and zero spark in a man who pick's a woman because she's "alright."
I don't care if a woman isn't attractive by society's standards, the guy who marries her still better think she is, or there's a real problem there.
If there isn't something at some point in the relationship that drives him to say to himself "I must have her phone number, sweet Jesus please Lord give me her digits or I'll go insane" then find another one. He'll never find the drive he needs to lead.
Why does he assume beauty = unfaithfulness?
His method of thinking is insulting to the many physically beautiful and godly women out there, many of whom frequent this forum.
Heck. As a beautiful man (just ask everyone), I'M insulted!
Well if he's in the op's age bracket, he's still young, and probably pretty stupid.
Love7, I would have been hurt by your boyfriend's comment as well. It is rather insulting... though I can appreciate that he was at least being honest, if not very tactful or loving in his words to you.
As a woman, I would not want to be with a guy who wasn't attracted to me. And being with one who chose me partially because he didn't find me attractive is a little disturbing too... I think it's good that he loved you for other qualities though. And wild passionate attraction isn't the most important thing by a long shot. But some attraction is necessary for a good marriage, I think.
If a guy wasn't attracted to you, he's probably blind or something. The same goes for a lot of the other ladies on this forum.
If there's no attraction, a woman is being cheated out of something special, because we guys will do some really
dumb things for a woman we're attracted to. Sometimes they're pretty amusing, but at the very least it's a good excuse to turn on the charm.
If a guy chooses a woman because he doesn't find her attractive, then he's just a constant reminder to her that she might as well just throw in the towel all the times she needs encouragement about her looks.