Because being single isn't so bad at all

[DanPhu]

I logged on facebook this morning, and a colleague posted an awesome article by Rachel Selinger, a future architect who expresses her heart's frustration in being single. Her article voiced out what my soul has been wanting to say, and she's encouraged me with her perspective. I hope she can do the same for you.

Single and not waiting |

 

[secularhermit]

Hmmm!

Have you read this "[h=2]A RESPONSE TO “SINGLE AND NOT WAITING”[/h]BY RACHEL SELINGER

Since “Single and not waiting” was posted, it has been a bit overwhelming. OK, very overwhelming. (I’m a prairie girl…​

" too?

Additionally, do you believe her all, sir? She said: "I’m afraid, because I’m afraid it has happened to me. I’ve been living like I’m waiting for someone to get here. And it isn’t Jesus."

When a person says something like this: "is an artist, designer, songwriter, and hopeful future architect who is interested in creating art that provokes thought and awareness about the world around her. She became a writer quite by accident, really.You can find her on Facebook, or follow her on Twitter @rachelselinger." She wants to be followed (and found).

So I HOPE all of you be found, there is a HUGE difference in between what she says or dreams (I´m also a DAYdreamer).

I´m just telling I believe GOD, not what I might wrongly suggest she´s wrong or disguised.

If God ever said this: Gen 2:18 Then the LORD God said, "I see that it is not good for the man to be alone. I will make the companion he needs, one just right for him." I believe Him, instead and NEVER ME.

I wish you the best!

 

[secularhermit]

That´s not a low profile, as I saw: Rachel Selinger In Transit > School of the Arts, Media + Culture | Trinity Western University

 

[DanPhu]

Hmmm!

Have you read this "A RESPONSE TO “SINGLE AND NOT WAITING”

BY RACHEL SELINGER

Since “Single and not waiting” was posted, it has been a bit overwhelming. OK, very overwhelming. (I’m a prairie girl…​

" too?

Additionally, do you believe her all, sir? She said: "I’m afraid, because I’m afraid it has happened to me. I’ve been living like I’m waiting for someone to get here. And it isn’t Jesus."

Now that you posted it, I did read the article. My question to you is, what point are you trying to make with her other article? Because in that article, she says, "But don’t miss out on today. Embrace the fact that your life should not always be expected to move at the same pace as everyone else’s, that there is not a set storyline you must follow. And stop and consider what you are counting the days for." In other words, she's encouraging us not to follow the mold of wanting to have someone at a particular age in our life. We don't have to rush things which includes being married with the right person or having a family. Enjoy what God has given us now and stop wasting time by wondering when you'll find the one you love.

You ask if I believe the quote that she wrote. Yes, I do believe what she said. What she said in that quote was how she felt when she was looking for the one she'll marry instead of just enjoying that time of singlehood to enjoy God. In other words, she was wasting her time waiting for that special someone, "and that someone isn't Jesus". That quote was to show us the weak side of herself which at times, can be me too. When I get engrossed in wanting to marry, I don't wait on God, I wait for her to show up "and that someone isn't Jesus." That's the point she was trying to make. Later in the article, she corrects that way of thinking and shows us a better path in using that time of being single.

When a person says something like this: "is an artist, designer, songwriter, and hopeful future architect who is interested in creating art that provokes thought and awareness about the world around her. She became a writer quite by accident, really.You can find her on Facebook, or follow her on Twitter @rachelselinger." She wants to be followed (and found).

And you find a problem with her wanting to be found? My question to you is, what do you think she wants to be found for? I believe she wants to be found, so that she can continue to be a blessing to others with the articles she writes. If a person enjoyed what she wrote and would like to read more articles, she shares that information to others who are interested. There's nothing wrong in sharing oneself. She's just simply telling her audience a little bit about herself.

And let's just assume for a moment that she wrote this article as a publicity stunt for herself. In other words, she did this to put herself out there to the world that she's available. That still doesn't invalidate what she said. Basically, she's saying in the article I previously posted that we shouldn't waste time hurting about finding someone but instead, enjoy that time by getting closer to God.

So I HOPE all of you be found, there is a HUGE difference in between what she says or dreams (I´m also a DAYdreamer).

I´m just telling I believe GOD, not what I might wrongly suggest she´s wrong or disguised.

If God ever said this: Gen 2:18 Then the LORD God said, "I see that it is not good for the man to be alone. I will make the companion he needs, one just right for him." I believe Him, instead and NEVER ME.

I wish you the best!

And thanks. I hope to be found in a way like Rachel, who uses her writing to be a blessing to others. Not that I have a blog site or even a twitter account for people to follow or that I can write as well as her. But if I ever did, I would like to be found so my transparent life can help others. And it's great that you believe what God has said in Genesis 2:18. When it comes to living holy lives for God, it's always best to use the Bible as our basis instead of what others might say. And I also wish you the best, secular hermit

 

[secularhermit]

Thanks you sir! Excuse me (please) if I made something wrong.

Now I know you´ll be found, because It´s proven you live a day after another.

 

[gypsygirl]

dan, thanks for sharing this.

secularhermit, thanks for sharing the follow up. to be clear, her "marketing" herself and the info she provides is essentially a necessity for anyone who hopes to blog for a living (or any kind of income). the fact that her article has been posted here is testament to that fact. do you realize this is her job? i give out business cards all the time, does that make me a wanton temptress?

i loved this passage. anybody who knows me will understand why i love the below. i've been the perpetual late bloomer (i think that started as a teen ; ). i don't wear a watch, either.

i've always meandered, and i always-always-always take the scenic route. shoot me. : )

re-posted from here

You might be the last one to graduate , the last to discover your career path, or the last one to have a child. And it probably feels like you’ve been left out.

But we’re not in grade school anymore. And keeping that mentality is hurting us. Because when we are constantly living ahead of ourselves, we miss out on what God has for us now, in this moment.

Whether it’s a relationship or career success, we need to stop counting the days. The concept of what our lives should look like at a certain age is somehow engrained within us. We feel obligated to follow it. We look to it, and to those around us to tell us where we should be, rather than looking to Christ.

But we’re chasing after a carrot. And I think we’re exhausted and worn out.

We already have everything we need
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Having dreams and desires about the future isn’t wrong. (Carrots are a healthy vegetable, after all.) And of course feeling like you’re missing out on what everyone else seems to have is going to crop up now and again.

But don’t miss out on today. Embrace the fact that your life should not always be expected to move at the same pace as everyone else’s, that there is not a set storyline you must follow. And stop and consider what you are counting the days for.