Hiiii everyone! i am writing this post to say that i have been saved for a loong time.. saved but not always in a true relationship with God.. i can honestly say that i have a true relationship with God now.... i am also a very busy woman, i have kids, am a single mother, am in school, and i work. and i am bored!! i cant hide it any longer.. i dont know what i am expecting to do since i am so busy in my life, but when i have free moments or good things happen in my life, i want to share them with people, i want to interact with people. and there is no one... day after day... after month..after year... i work, come home, work, come home... normally when i get lonely, i read my bible and do praise and worship, and i still do ,dont get me wrong, but it feels more like work sometimes now rather than being enjoyable at times.. i am not looking for negative comments, i do indeed have a relationship with God, i just feel burnt out in my life right now, it feels mundane and routine and i literally do not interact with anyone at all hardly except on a business level. i have tried to get close to people but i find many are worldy, we are not equally yolked so i interact with them only on a certain level. and i have tried the church, to no avail.. the more bored i get, the more i find myself having thoughts of doing things i have no business doing to ease the boredom.. i do not want the thoughts to cause me to fall... i have prayed consistently about this.. any suggestions?
Christian and bored out of my mind!!
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It's actually a pretty common issue with single parents. And with all you have going on it makes sense, but also incredibly difficult to rectify. You've made more efforts than many of the single moms I've known and yet it's still not helping. But many modern Christians are so busy or, as you stated, worldly, that it's hard for any Christian to make friends.
I have no useful suggestions, but thought letting you know you're one of many in a similar boat may help cope some.
I'm guessing the jellyfish aren't much company? Hehe
Be aware the site slows down over the weekends.
I have no useful suggestions, but thought letting you know you're one of many in a similar boat may help cope some.
I'm guessing the jellyfish aren't much company? Hehe
Be aware the site slows down over the weekends.
Not a bleedin' thing I can do to help! i know what you mean though, sometimes at my job I don't see actual humans all day. Like today I had more confrontations with snakes than I did with humans. So instead I'll entertain you with oddball facts. Did you know that deer can't eat hay? Did you know half of all false teeth are radioactive? Something I may need to pay attention to of late... How about a steel ball will bounce higher than a rubber ball. Or the fact that you personally spent about a half an hour as a single cell. And when a child is born they are on average given to the wrong parents nearly 12 times daily? This explains everything in my life. This one makes me go off a little, but when a jet is flying 1000km or about 620mph that it is infinitely smaller than one standing still. (so my mind goes - well if it gets smaller as it goes faster, wouldn't space become larger and thus longer for travel? Then I go, no - an ant traveling at speed of light would travel at the same speed as a boulder so ....see? It never ends.) Did you know Donald Duck was banned in Finland because he didn't wear pants? A lot of lipstick contains fish scales. Finally, if you are in France, do you know what they call a French kiss? an English kiss. Go figure.
I guess relationships are....... what you put into them. The way I look at it, our God of Israel was gracious enough to graft me into the rooted Hebrew tree. Me. A gentile. Worse yet, an irish gentile, the worst kind. The lesson here is the mercy, compassion, and acceptance given to one such as me. Should I do less for others? This, I think, is the birthplace of giving - this desire to spread the same to others. And I'll go further in saying that boredom sometimes comes from the realization that this longing in one's heart is not being fulfilled by the busyness in one's life.
I guess relationships are....... what you put into them. The way I look at it, our God of Israel was gracious enough to graft me into the rooted Hebrew tree. Me. A gentile. Worse yet, an irish gentile, the worst kind. The lesson here is the mercy, compassion, and acceptance given to one such as me. Should I do less for others? This, I think, is the birthplace of giving - this desire to spread the same to others. And I'll go further in saying that boredom sometimes comes from the realization that this longing in one's heart is not being fulfilled by the busyness in one's life.
OH GREAT.
As if dating isn't complicated enough.
NOW I'm going to have to go through the trouble of trying to figure out whether my dates' false teeth are radioactive or not.
Is there like a special light I can carry to test them or do I actually have to ask them to drop their teeth into some type of solution for a couple of hours?!
I suppose it could come in handy... If I'm trying to build my own home X-ray machine.
Well, at least I won't be bored.
As if dating isn't complicated enough.
NOW I'm going to have to go through the trouble of trying to figure out whether my dates' false teeth are radioactive or not.
Is there like a special light I can carry to test them or do I actually have to ask them to drop their teeth into some type of solution for a couple of hours?!
I suppose it could come in handy... If I'm trying to build my own home X-ray machine.
Well, at least I won't be bored.
OH GREAT.
As if dating isn't complicated enough.
NOW I'm going to have to go through the trouble of trying to figure out whether my dates' false teeth are radioactive or not.
Is there like a special light I can carry to test them or do I actually have to ask them to drop their teeth into some type of solution for a couple of hours?!
I suppose it could come in handy... If I'm trying to build my own home X-ray machine.
Well, at least I won't be bored.
As if dating isn't complicated enough.
NOW I'm going to have to go through the trouble of trying to figure out whether my dates' false teeth are radioactive or not.
Is there like a special light I can carry to test them or do I actually have to ask them to drop their teeth into some type of solution for a couple of hours?!
I suppose it could come in handy... If I'm trying to build my own home X-ray machine.
Well, at least I won't be bored.
When I was in the world I wasn't bored because I was gratifying the flesh. Not saying that I want to go back or anything because its not worth the consequences... The Christian walk goes against the flesh, so it takes work and renewal daily.. its easy to walk in flesh.. maybe I just need more renewal of my mind....
OH GREAT.
As if dating isn't complicated enough.
NOW I'm going to have to go through the trouble of trying to figure out whether my dates' false teeth are radioactive or not.
Is there like a special light I can carry to test them or do I actually have to ask them to drop their teeth into some type of solution for a couple of hours?!
I suppose it could come in handy... If I'm trying to build my own home X-ray machine.
Well, at least I won't be bored.
As if dating isn't complicated enough.
NOW I'm going to have to go through the trouble of trying to figure out whether my dates' false teeth are radioactive or not.
Is there like a special light I can carry to test them or do I actually have to ask them to drop their teeth into some type of solution for a couple of hours?!
I suppose it could come in handy... If I'm trying to build my own home X-ray machine.
Well, at least I won't be bored.
This would explain why women have to carry around such big purses:
* Cell phone and charger -- check.
* Credit card and cash -- check.
* Keys, lipstick, mirror, breath mints -- check.
* Radioactive Denture Detector -- CRUCIAL PIECE OF EQUIPMENT HERE!! -- Check.
I know what I'LL be doing this weekend.
I'm going to be shopping... for a bigger bag.
First of, may God give you the heart to know Jesus more and more. I may not be a single parent, but I can definitely relate to what you mean by being bored. If you are worried about getting entertained from the wrong side don't. Always try to think about what God would want you to enjoy than not. The more you focus on what you can't do the more you'll eventually want to do them. Try focusing on the things you have or have access to. For instance, your kids, you could spend more time with them, I mean, think about it, aren't you glad that your kids are with you? There are plenty of broken families out there, some even can't have kids. So worrying about things you don't have or can't do while overlooking what you have now is what the devil wants.
If you are healthy, have food to eat, employed, have a home and family to return to. What more can anyone ask?
There are billions of people out there having the time of their lives, doing all sort of things but still feel empty. Why? Because they don't feel secured, loved, and at home. Only Jesus can fill that void.
You have Jesus. Enjoy the things He has given you today and don't worry about the next day.
God bless you and your family.
Just to add, whenever I feel bored out of my mind and when I feel like my prayers aren't being heard, I always come to this verse:
"I do not pray for these alone, but also for those who will believe in Me through their word; that they all may be one, as You, Father, are in Me, and I in You; that they also may be one in Us, that the world may believe that You sent Me. And the glory which You gave Me I have given them, that they may be one just as We are one: I in them, and You in Me; that they may be made perfect in one, and that the world may know that You have sent Me, and have loved them as You have loved Me."
This is Jesus praying for us. Comforting isn't it? Whenever you feel like the worst or fall short of being a good person, it's always reassuring that Jesus prayed for us and we know that God hears His prayers because He is His beloved Son.
God bless!
"I do not pray for these alone, but also for those who will believe in Me through their word; that they all may be one, as You, Father, are in Me, and I in You; that they also may be one in Us, that the world may believe that You sent Me. And the glory which You gave Me I have given them, that they may be one just as We are one: I in them, and You in Me; that they may be made perfect in one, and that the world may know that You have sent Me, and have loved them as You have loved Me."
This is Jesus praying for us. Comforting isn't it? Whenever you feel like the worst or fall short of being a good person, it's always reassuring that Jesus prayed for us and we know that God hears His prayers because He is His beloved Son.
God bless!
It sounds like you are really missing meaningful connection with other people
through a shared passion. Besides your children and church and Jesus Christ,
what are your passions? Is your schooling and work connected to it in any way?
Perhaps this time of restlessness and discontent is meant to help you find that
something which will help you fulfill God's plan for your life. Seek and you will find
through a shared passion. Besides your children and church and Jesus Christ,
what are your passions? Is your schooling and work connected to it in any way?
Perhaps this time of restlessness and discontent is meant to help you find that
something which will help you fulfill God's plan for your life. Seek and you will find
J
first off "17 bees",you might want to lay off the caffeine or you might blow a gasket or worse your brain might get "stuck" in overdrive lol(Joefizz feels deep concern for 17 bees)now on to the question what suggestions might one be able to offer to change what you feel is a "rut"type life you are having ,as in it doesn't seem to change much nor does it seem interesting enough anymore,well for starters you can ask or answer questions about the bible here on christian chat,I've only been here about a week and there always seems to be some challenging questions and friendly interactions so this can help after all we all know the bible while never endingly intrigueing can be eventually somewhat dull to our minds for it remembers all the times we did things that were exciting and perhaps not as repetitive and wants us to do just plain anything different and that's because we are always going to be in a battle with our flesh for when we want to keep going forward for God it wants foolishness,but there is still plenty you can do about this,start thinking about what you would like to do that you might enjoy instead of just thinking on boredom because that's how you let your flesh call the shots and it's better to do something because "You" actually want to,not for the sake of keeping from boredom because then you'll think of something that's truely exciting to do instead of something that only gives you a quick thrill or maybe even something productive like an investment,an invention,write a book,go to stores to scope out items for this coming christmas,visit a relative,visit a friend,look for a job that you may like more,change up your grocery list,see if you and the kids can go bowling,or somewhere fun you have never went to,an amusement park,national mark,biggest store ever,a spa,a famous movie theater,A huge arcade,go on vacation to somewhere you want to go to,etc or if you don't really feel like leaving the house,play a game,board game,video game,brain teaser games,games that are so goofy that they get you to laugh,rent or buy a movie that you have never seen that you all can agree on to watch,just be sure that whatever you decide that "You" want to do it otherwise it will be a waste of time and end up being just as boring as you started because if you don't decide on it then how can you enjoy it? So try to think on it and "You" will find a great answer!!!
Hi favored,
I read the OP, but not all the replies-) and can identify with having to work endless and have children... As i child, i remember telling my mother "Nakakainis" or kind of annoyed abt some things, but not really bored. Whether i was busy or could not find what to do (and not because there was nothing to do) i rather disliked using the word bored because there was always something to think about, do, or even say! Now my own child uses the word so often and i tell please not to-- for there's so much to do, and there are always ways to overcome it. But sometimes it may also be an inner desire to associate more with others? For example, i have learned some things by myself (by the grace of God) like typing, playing some instruments, etc. and could ëntertain" myself by reading or playing for hours, esp when younger. But i must admit at times we do long for someone else to discuss what we've read or written about, or appreciate (or at least hear) what we play. If you have no such friends or relatives in person, it might help to have some simple sport or exercise program, and coming to cc or other helpful/healthy sites once in a while might also. I know it helped me, and there are ppl here happy to meet you and share bits of life with. Btw, welcome to cc.
I read the OP, but not all the replies-) and can identify with having to work endless and have children... As i child, i remember telling my mother "Nakakainis" or kind of annoyed abt some things, but not really bored. Whether i was busy or could not find what to do (and not because there was nothing to do) i rather disliked using the word bored because there was always something to think about, do, or even say! Now my own child uses the word so often and i tell please not to-- for there's so much to do, and there are always ways to overcome it. But sometimes it may also be an inner desire to associate more with others? For example, i have learned some things by myself (by the grace of God) like typing, playing some instruments, etc. and could ëntertain" myself by reading or playing for hours, esp when younger. But i must admit at times we do long for someone else to discuss what we've read or written about, or appreciate (or at least hear) what we play. If you have no such friends or relatives in person, it might help to have some simple sport or exercise program, and coming to cc or other helpful/healthy sites once in a while might also. I know it helped me, and there are ppl here happy to meet you and share bits of life with. Btw, welcome to cc.
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Hi
I don't have any suggestions but I feel pretty much the same (working hard, being bored, people I deal with are not christians, christians I know are boring and you can't do anything with them outside church service (quick cup of coffee and out asap).
So I basically keep to myself and the gym/hiking/swimming and try to see my kids often. It is very hard to get close to people these days and when you meet new people or go to a new church I am very nervous about doing the correct small talk routine and I struggle. I am not shy. But I struggle following this "be happy, superficial and show empathy while being reserved and distant as well" routine. If I want to be myself I have to be with my kids and then I still have to be a responsible adult. Solution for me: work work work...go to gym to let off steam... church hopping just for variety. It is what it is. I understand why people give up on every level. It is all work. It needs discipline 24/7. You have to be a machine with no feelings to survive. No weakness allowed. Nobody wants a sad or grumpy person. Only successful and happy is allowed. At work, at church, at social events...everywhere.
All I can offer you is letting you know you're not alone. Hope it helps a bit. Not sure what part of the states you're from. But I have been in the US a few times and there are pretty christian areas. New Zealand is very non-christian. Doesn't make it easier
I don't have any suggestions but I feel pretty much the same (working hard, being bored, people I deal with are not christians, christians I know are boring and you can't do anything with them outside church service (quick cup of coffee and out asap).
So I basically keep to myself and the gym/hiking/swimming and try to see my kids often. It is very hard to get close to people these days and when you meet new people or go to a new church I am very nervous about doing the correct small talk routine and I struggle. I am not shy. But I struggle following this "be happy, superficial and show empathy while being reserved and distant as well" routine. If I want to be myself I have to be with my kids and then I still have to be a responsible adult. Solution for me: work work work...go to gym to let off steam... church hopping just for variety. It is what it is. I understand why people give up on every level. It is all work. It needs discipline 24/7. You have to be a machine with no feelings to survive. No weakness allowed. Nobody wants a sad or grumpy person. Only successful and happy is allowed. At work, at church, at social events...everywhere.
All I can offer you is letting you know you're not alone. Hope it helps a bit. Not sure what part of the states you're from. But I have been in the US a few times and there are pretty christian areas. New Zealand is very non-christian. Doesn't make it easier