Okay so there seems to be a lot of Christian dating sites popping up all over the place.
I always used to think they weren't good, however my best friend met her now fiance on one and it is very clear they are suited to each other.
I guess there are several arguements for and against. what I understand to be:
For
We live in a modern age, the internet is a great tool to broaden our horizons and meet a wide variety of people all over the place
It is all about the motivations of the heart, it is okay to pursue a relationship as long as you are content in knowing God is all you need.
Against
Is searching really being content in God, It could easily lead to upset and focusing away from God
How do you know who you are going to meet, they could be a complete and utter wierdo
So yeah what do you think, have you tried it out?
Well for me, i have met one on a supposed christian friend finder site. And while the young lady was fun, attractive and outgoing..she was not that spiritual. And by the time i saw that I was honestly too wrapped up in infatuation to kick her to the curb. Shortly afterwards my heart got stomped on. Granted that was many years ago..almost ten years to be exact.
I have seen some nice ones..one especially looks to be advertising in a similar manner to one of the prominent secular dating sites and i think it has worked for them. But you are right, i know someone..a friend who met someone on there. The guy seems anything but christian, i told her in love if he 1)cannot point out to the specific times/situations/a date to when he was born again/gave his life over to Jesus..maybe he is not a christian.
2)if he will not respect her regarding intimacy boundaries,etc. Even if he says he is a christian, he sure is not acting like it.
3) Try talking to him about the Lord..see what he says in response.
Of course she never has had a real boyfriend so she's totally not listening so..gotta let people fall on their face.
I think you gotta be really really honest with yourself if you are ready to date/pursue a relationship. For me, even if i everything was 'right'. I have spent a lifetime of missing God and getting it all wrong that i want to find a better way. I am not discounting/disregarding dating sites but i truly want to trust that the God of Abraham,Issac and Jacob surely can help me in this venture. I know some may need to take a more proactive stance than simply waiting on God. But for me, right now..i want to trust God. Am i tempted to go on a site? Yes, but even the last one i was on(it was a secular site) but i met one christian gal on there. Amazing young lady, but very very insecure, and unsure of herself. Having never dated she did not even know how to act around me. She was sweet but super super shy. To me, that can be a bit of a deal breaker..sure a little shyness at first is cute. But after a while i would like someone to get out of their shell and breath, and be comfortable around me and have fun, and let loose..just be chill, not stuffy. Sadly my experience even with some young christian women is that they are very much this way..stuffy, uptight..boring.
Not saying its everyone..just my opinions and my personal experiences so far. I know this will not forever be the case.