Dating in my country isn't easy as a Christian

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catmurky

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Well, as you can probably see: I'm from Germany. Christianity used to be a huge and important part of German culture/society, but over time the number of Christians in my country drastically decreases. The majority either belongs to a different religion or none at all. Also, there might be many Germans who call themselves "Christians" but only a few are actually godly men. But I guess believing in it and calling yourself one is already a good foundation for becoming godly. Lol anyway, considering how picky I am in regard to finding my future husband (and how very few Christians there are), there is an extremely low chance that I will ever find the right person and it's bothering me.

If it is God's plan I will obviously meet him, but at the same time I think I still have to be realistic about it and be aware that the chances are indeed very low compared to other countries. Also, I'm highly introverted and tend to be reserved when I meet new people (due to cautiousness), but slowly open up once I feel like I could get along with them well, which makes it even harder for me to find someone. I'm sure most of you are thinking that the "only" solution is to just join a Christian community or church nearby. But honestly, I'd feel very uncomfortable doing that if one of my intentions is to find someone to date, if that makes sense? I prefer to let it happen naturally. I've also been thinking about meeting people abroad because I do travel a lot, but not enough to actually build a connection with someone. I don't know... we will see what happens. Until then I'll put my trust in God, knowing that he has a great plan for me regardless of whether or not I will get married.

What are your thoughts on this? Has anyone of you felt the same way before? Do you have any advice, maybe? Feel free to share anything that's on your mind!

(But I'd appreciate it if you don't judge me in the posts below lol Everyone makes mistakes)
 
preacher4truth

preacher4truth

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Maybe out of the few godly ones, God has one in mind for you. :)
 
maxwel

maxwel

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A few quick thoughts:


1. You're very young... you should probably try to relax and give God some time to work in your life, and not get too frustrated about this.

You have lots of time.



2. I think most Christians, in most countries, feel they are in the minority, and therefore many feel they will never find a good Christian spouse.

Even in countries with a higher percentage of believers, many people still feel exactly as you do.



3. God is more than capable of working in your life.

If you read biographies of great missionaries, you'll find that many left their home, with no spouse, to enter a far-away land of pagans, with virtually no hope of ever finding a spouse.

And do you know what often happened?

Many times God took a girl from the missionary's own country, and his precise denomination, and even his home town, and placed her into that distant foreign land before the missionary ever left home!

This is real.
Missionaries have left home for a distant land full of pagans, and upon arrival they found a nice Christian girl from their own home town!

I don't know what God has planned for you, but God is very very big, and he's capable of taking care of you.


God Bless
 
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catmurky

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maxwel said:
A few quick thoughts:


1. You're very young... you should probably try to relax and give God some time to work in your life, and not get too frustrated about this.

You have lots of time.



2. I think most Christians, in most countries, feel they are in the minority, and therefore many feel they will never find a good Christian spouse.

Even in countries with a higher percentage of believers, many people still feel exactly as you do.



3. God is more than capable of working in your life.

If you read biographies of great missionaries, you'll find that many left their home, with no spouse, to enter a far-away land of pagans, with virtually no hope of ever finding a spouse.

And do you know what often happened?

Many times God took a girl from the missionary's own country, and his precise denomination, and even his home town, and placed her into that distant foreign land before the missionary ever left home!

This is real.
Missionaries have left home for a distant land full of pagans, and upon arrival they found a nice Christian girl from their own home town!

I don't know what God has planned for you, but God is very very big, and he's capable of taking care of you.


God Bless
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Thank you for sharing your thoughts! :) but I do need to add that I don't just feel that I'm in the minority, it's a proven fact that the majority of Germans aren't Christians etc.
 
maxwel

maxwel

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catmurky said:
Thank you for sharing your thoughts! :) but I do need to add that I don't just feel that I'm in the minority, it's a proven fact that the majority of Germans aren't Christians etc.
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Yes.
That is a fact.
Absolutely.


It is NORMAL to be concerned about things like this.
I wasn't trying to be dismissive of your situation.
But even when we ARE in difficult situations, God still loves us, and He still knows how to take care of us.

There was a very famous immigrant to England from your country, his name was George Mueller.
You should read about him.

: )
 
Lynx

Lynx

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catmurky I just want to say that you seem to have your head straight on your shoulders. In other words you seem to be able to think logically and morally. I especially approve of your concern that going to a church just to find a date might be inappropriate. It might not be wrong to join a church to find a date, but I think it's a good sign that you are considering that aspect and contemplating it.

Some people will tell you "God has your future husband picked out" and others will tell you "God doesn't pick out a husband, it's all up to you." All I can tell you is live your life the best you know how, help some people along the way and see what life has in store. You might grow old and never get married, you might find the love of your life tomorrow, or you might get married a good twenty years from now. Just live life as it comes.

And don't forget to have fun with life, whether you're single or married. There's a whole lot of life to enjoy. :cool:
 
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