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Now, I am a Catholic and they are very big on bingo so I get where you are coming from. I am engaged to a woman who is a Seventh Day Adventist and the services at her church are Saturday morning. I have had my fill of bingo through the years but there would not be a conflict regardless. The last time I went to bingo my marker leaked and my hands turned green.
C
I'm dating a wonderful woman who was raised in a Presbyterian church, but now attends a Methodist church... long story, and not mine to tell. I am from a... more conservative denomination, but for that group I am slightly liberal and significantly more charismatic (some people at my church are offended by others raising their hands or clapping during worship).
When I had considered dating, I was inclined to look for someone of my own background/denomination in hopes of giving a greater foundation of common values to build the relationship on. I was not looking for someone when my sweetie came along, and I waited to broach the subject of religion until it was almost certain that we would be more than simply social acquaintances. I have been blessed that she understand that leaving my church congregation would be like leaving family. I am doubly blessed that this past Sunday she has begun attending some services with me there. We talk about our beliefs, and what we hold to be core, salvation issues. We both accept that there is much in "denominationalism" that is merely the preferences of man and not edicts of God. We are talking through those preferences as we hold them, and learning more about one another based on what they prefer and why. Best of all, though, she has already said that if this does lead to a long term and lasting relationship that she assumes that she should attend the church I attend. We're both modern people, with fully open minds, but we both come back around to old fashioned values. She, to my pleasure, includes in that list of values that a man should be a spiritual leader - of his household, if not more. I don't have to be an elder, a deacon, a pastor, worship leader, or any other title holding leader within the church... though there are ways in which I do lead within the church (and even more ways in which I serve!) ...but as the spiritual leader of the relationship, I am charged with ensuring that we attend somewhere that will lead us both.
When I had considered dating, I was inclined to look for someone of my own background/denomination in hopes of giving a greater foundation of common values to build the relationship on. I was not looking for someone when my sweetie came along, and I waited to broach the subject of religion until it was almost certain that we would be more than simply social acquaintances. I have been blessed that she understand that leaving my church congregation would be like leaving family. I am doubly blessed that this past Sunday she has begun attending some services with me there. We talk about our beliefs, and what we hold to be core, salvation issues. We both accept that there is much in "denominationalism" that is merely the preferences of man and not edicts of God. We are talking through those preferences as we hold them, and learning more about one another based on what they prefer and why. Best of all, though, she has already said that if this does lead to a long term and lasting relationship that she assumes that she should attend the church I attend. We're both modern people, with fully open minds, but we both come back around to old fashioned values. She, to my pleasure, includes in that list of values that a man should be a spiritual leader - of his household, if not more. I don't have to be an elder, a deacon, a pastor, worship leader, or any other title holding leader within the church... though there are ways in which I do lead within the church (and even more ways in which I serve!) ...but as the spiritual leader of the relationship, I am charged with ensuring that we attend somewhere that will lead us both.
I know this was a question for tourist but I will give you my answer too.
If tourist would want to go to his church I would go with him too. What the worst that would happen is we spend the weekend in church and that would not be a bad thing.
But he seems to be fine going with me to Saturday morning Sabbath School which we are studying the book of Revelation right now and then the church service afterward.
It is so nice to have the man I love by my side every week as we worship the God we love and there is no denominational name for doing that. We both love God and want to be more and more like Jesus every day. We both understand the gift of salvation and to me that is the most important thing. Those other denominational differences work themselves out. We are both Christians first and just happened to be raised in two different denominations.
If tourist would want to go to his church I would go with him too. What the worst that would happen is we spend the weekend in church and that would not be a bad thing.
But he seems to be fine going with me to Saturday morning Sabbath School which we are studying the book of Revelation right now and then the church service afterward.
It is so nice to have the man I love by my side every week as we worship the God we love and there is no denominational name for doing that. We both love God and want to be more and more like Jesus every day. We both understand the gift of salvation and to me that is the most important thing. Those other denominational differences work themselves out. We are both Christians first and just happened to be raised in two different denominations.
Happy to hear this Charcoal. Isn't it nice when God helps us find someone to share life with.
Tourist and I were full disclosure people and I put out things that might have torn us apart right at the beginning and told him my denomination as I know there are those not to fond of it on this site. I did not want my heart to get involved if there was not a chance he could accept me for who I am so I laid all my cards out on the table in the beginning.
What I expected to chase him away seemed to draw him closer, not my doing at all as I was almost trying to chase him away. I feel that God is the one that has drawn us together. After all I felt I had been an Ice Queen for 35 years successfully keeping men away.... but instead tourist accepted me for who I really am.. it was most refreshing is all I can say to be able to really be me and not being something that I am not or pretending.
Wishing you well in your relationship and again happy your lady is following your lead to your church.
Tourist and I were full disclosure people and I put out things that might have torn us apart right at the beginning and told him my denomination as I know there are those not to fond of it on this site. I did not want my heart to get involved if there was not a chance he could accept me for who I am so I laid all my cards out on the table in the beginning.
What I expected to chase him away seemed to draw him closer, not my doing at all as I was almost trying to chase him away. I feel that God is the one that has drawn us together. After all I felt I had been an Ice Queen for 35 years successfully keeping men away.... but instead tourist accepted me for who I really am.. it was most refreshing is all I can say to be able to really be me and not being something that I am not or pretending.
Wishing you well in your relationship and again happy your lady is following your lead to your church.
You have written an outstanding post regarding the formation of relationships and I am in agreement with you. You are absolutely correct in that the man is the spiritual head of the relationship, particularly one that may lead into marriage. As yourself I believe that it is critical that both the man and the woman share the same core beliefs, principals and concepts in spiritual matters and concerns. For me that pertains to salvation and spiritual inerrancy of the bible and submissiveness of the wife in marriage to the husband. I am engaged to be married to a wonderful woman and once married I will assume the role as the appointed spiritual head of the household as her husband. We are told in the bible to love our wives and all I am seeking is that my soon to be wife love me as her husband. As the spiritual head of the household I will be have final say in all important decisions but seeing how I value her opinion as much or more than my own I am not anticipating any conflict.
I am happy for you in finding a woman who shares your spiritual values. She is your Sweetie and the woman I am going to marry is my Sweetie too. We may have minor denominational differences but we are in agreement on the most important parts that are close to our hearts and we have placed our trust in God and have allowed Him to be at the center of our relationship. We call this our love triangle. I believe that you have love in your relationship too and I pray and wish the best for you, your Sweetie and the children.
I am happy for you in finding a woman who shares your spiritual values. She is your Sweetie and the woman I am going to marry is my Sweetie too. We may have minor denominational differences but we are in agreement on the most important parts that are close to our hearts and we have placed our trust in God and have allowed Him to be at the center of our relationship. We call this our love triangle. I believe that you have love in your relationship too and I pray and wish the best for you, your Sweetie and the children.
M
This is why I don't consider myself belonging to any particular denomination, my denomination is Jesus Christ and the Bible.
As tourist says, so long as you have your core beliefs matched anything else is personal to you. What is the likelihood of matching a denomination in today's secular society. It's difficult enough finding a Christian partner especially in Britain today!
As tourist says, so long as you have your core beliefs matched anything else is personal to you. What is the likelihood of matching a denomination in today's secular society. It's difficult enough finding a Christian partner especially in Britain today!
C
Bless their hearts, they'd have a stroke if they visited my pentecostal church. If certain members of my church started shouting they'd bolt for the exit.
C
I never would have thought to date someone from a different denomination until it happened. One reason I think it works is because she is willing to submit to my leadership and follow me to where I go to church. Also, she has a history with people from my denomination, as well as two spend in a private school of my denomination. She was raised in one denomination, but has been attending a different one, and I think that made her more open to this as well.
