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Timofree

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God blessed me so much recently, I had been looking at finding my future wife for my identity.........instead of looking to Him.
He showed me, being single is not who I am, it's what I am, I and you are a dearly loved child of God, that just happens to be single :)

He meets all our needs according to His riches in glory in Christ, but for now John Waller - While I'm Waiting - YouTube

Hang in there, shalom ya'll
 
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rauleetoe

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I wasted much time chasing after potential mates that I have come to the realization that I am not a half a person in search of his other half..I am a whole person who's wanting to find another who's whole and holy..set apart in Christ. So..now I take advantage of this time to grow and learn and love God better...if he has someone for me..praise God..if he does not..praise God!
 
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zander

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single or married they are both callings be content where he has you atm and trust him with the timing of your next calling when and where and what that is :)
 
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Timofree

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rauleetoe said:
I wasted much time chasing after potential mates that I have come to the realization that I am not a half a person in search of his other half..I am a whole person who's wanting to find another who's whole and holy..set apart in Christ. So..now I take advantage of this time to grow and learn and love God better...if he has someone for me..praise God..if he does not..praise God!
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Amen, God is good and worthy of praise always! That's also true about being a whole person in God........and it's never worth compromising God's will for any reason!
So wait on the Lord, it might be within the next minute, hour, day, year, or never that God introduces us to the right partner. But His grace IS always sufficient! The more I type it, say it, pray it and claim it, the more I believe :)

Related to this, I nearly walked in front of a car today, and it made me realise just how important life is, too important to spend time and energy being anxious!...........OK, and now rest ;)
 
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arwen7

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Timofree said:
God blessed me so much recently, I had been looking at finding my future wife for my identity.........instead of looking to Him.
He showed me, being single is not who I am, it's what I am, I and you are a dearly loved child of God, that just happens to be single :)

He meets all our needs according to His riches in glory in Christ, but for now John Waller - While I'm Waiting - YouTube

Hang in there, shalom ya'll
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Just out of curiousity and if its not too personal, could you tell us how He showed you this? It may be helpful to those of us who are not too happy with singleness.
 
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Timofree

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arwen7 said:
Just out of curiousity and if its not too personal, could you tell us how He showed you this? It may be helpful to those of us who are not too happy with singleness.
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Indeed, good question...........firstly I'd like to say, I'm not happy with my singleness..........there's a balance between being satisfied with God, but still having that desire to find a wife. A balance I'm trusting the Spirit to lead me on, because I don't know myself! There may be times to be like the persistant widow, and keep on. At other points to just rest in God, and trust Him to provide.

But anyway, before I went to sleep I prayed that God would cause me to find my identity in Him, and not my search for a wife. Then when I woke up, I felt a deep peace, and that's what I felt Him saying to me, single is not who I am............

God knows, and hallelujah, partner or not, the futures bright, the futures Jesus........if He comes back, or we died (I don't plan on dying really, but hey) before finding 'the one', it's gonna be amazing!!!!
 
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^^^I kinda had a moment like that, a while ago.........I ended up surrendering my desire for a husband, just in case it's not something God has planned for my life. I've felt rather peaceful about the whole "single" thing ever since.....I can even say, now, truthfully I THINK.....that I'm actually thankful for my singleness. But, I prolly wouldn't pitch a fit if God has me get married someday, either ;).
 
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4evrfree

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I'm at a point in my life where I'm almost scared of the thought of a serious relationship because of some of my families relationships... And yet in those lonely times where you wish to have someone special to talk to and share your life with it can be hard to remember to be patient.. But I'm trying to focus on my relationship with God because I know if my focus is on the right thing everything else will fall in to place according to His will.. I still have a so much to learn!! I love the song Wait by G1C...
 
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HannahColleen

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being single is not who I am, it's what I amThat is an awesome saying! :) I have never looked at it that way.
 
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Chrissy77

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rauleetoe said:
I wasted much time chasing after potential mates that I have come to the realization that I am not a half a person in search of his other half..I am a whole person who's wanting to find another who's whole and holy..set apart in Christ. So..now I take advantage of this time to grow and learn and love God better...if he has someone for me..praise God..if he does not..praise God!
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100% agree with this!
 
zeroturbulence

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Then the LORD God said, "It is not good for the man to be alone.."

Genesis 2:18
 
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Ice00Man

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Hi All,

I agree with all of you - one has to be patient and waiting, praying anxiously for a miracle partner.
Being in a hurry will end up in tears – divorce is not something nice to do in your life. Do it awesome the first time that will keep for a lifetime.

But waiting is not always nice – there is days that I wish I can just have a special someone!
Some days I get over eager and find myself doing nothing but searching. Then I have to stop make a conscious decision to follow Christ and not my own will.
I Know God is busy preparing my perfect women ;-) - just for me

Cheers God’s Kids
 
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ilavjesus

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is God still busy writing my LOVE-story?
 
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bukky

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Trust in the Lord with all thy heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding. In all thy ways acknowledge Him, and He shall direct thy paths. (Proverbs 3vs5-6) :)
 
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Timofree

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ilavjesus said:
is God still busy writing my LOVE-story?
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He's already written, yours mine, and everyone who's going to have one, from the beggining of time........ahh, He isn't stressing out about it, and neither should we. Speaking to myself as well here :)

We're to be satisfied in Him, but that doesn't mean we don't ask. He causes our prayers to be alligned to His will, and He answers.
 
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heavenleejewel

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rauleetoe said:
I wasted much time chasing after potential mates that I have come to the realization that I am not a half a person in search of his other half..I am a whole person who's wanting to find another who's whole and holy..set apart in Christ. So..now I take advantage of this time to grow and learn and love God better...if he has someone for me..praise God..if he does not..praise God!
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Yes!!!!!!! One of the worst things people can do is think that they need someone in onrder to be "complete as an individual" Jesus takes care of that for us. We are complete IN Him...the other person will compliment us...and will edify us...We need to first focus on our relationship with God..go through the molding/learning process(which is crucial) and just wait...we have a probem with waiting...when we wait..it shows we trust God/know God....being single is a crucial season in our lives as Christians...and in every season..there is some type of fruit that will grow! those who wait and hope in the Lord will not be put to shame!!!! Is not easy..but its not impossible ;-)
 
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