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It's actually really hard to share more without typing entirely too much or potentially embittering others. There was a time I was really frustrated to be single. Now is the time when I'm glad I was frustrated so I can encourage people who are single.
I will say this though - I think every man needs to start learning to be a spiritual leader before entering a relationship, and given the demographics (on average there are more women then men in churches) any man who can effectively demonstrate this leadership may well find himself married some day if he is so inclined.
That, and any man who's looking for a godly woman needs to look for a woman who wants to be led spiritually. It would be very hard to act out Ephesians 5:25 with a woman who didn't respect a man's ability to lead, just as it would be devastating for a woman to try to act it out under a man who doesn't love her like Christ loved the church (and He died for the church).
It's a delicate interconnected dance that's frustrating some times but a huge blessing during others.
I will say this though - I think every man needs to start learning to be a spiritual leader before entering a relationship, and given the demographics (on average there are more women then men in churches) any man who can effectively demonstrate this leadership may well find himself married some day if he is so inclined.
That, and any man who's looking for a godly woman needs to look for a woman who wants to be led spiritually. It would be very hard to act out Ephesians 5:25 with a woman who didn't respect a man's ability to lead, just as it would be devastating for a woman to try to act it out under a man who doesn't love her like Christ loved the church (and He died for the church).
It's a delicate interconnected dance that's frustrating some times but a huge blessing during others.
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This would be an interesting word study - the etymology of the word respect versus the word trust. The two could sometimes be synonymous, but the argument could be made that trust requires respect, and without trust the entire process would fail.
The good news is that respect can be earned except in extreme cases, and it's probably best to stay away from the extreme cases.
The bad news is that many people don't seem to understand that trust is earned.
The good news is that respect can be earned except in extreme cases, and it's probably best to stay away from the extreme cases.
The bad news is that many people don't seem to understand that trust is earned.
Hang in there, my Sister. 
The last girl I dated in three words: scorned, untrusting, impossible.
She was hurt very badly by the two guys she dated before me and I took the brunt of her pain. We went so far as to seek Christian counseling and our counselor told us our relationship was doomed because she was unfairly condemning me for what had been done to her in the past. And yet after all the pain we both endure, four years after our breakup we are friends. The power of prayer and Christ's redeeming love on full display. It's a beautiful thing.
The last girl I dated in three words: scorned, untrusting, impossible.
She was hurt very badly by the two guys she dated before me and I took the brunt of her pain. We went so far as to seek Christian counseling and our counselor told us our relationship was doomed because she was unfairly condemning me for what had been done to her in the past. And yet after all the pain we both endure, four years after our breakup we are friends. The power of prayer and Christ's redeeming love on full display. It's a beautiful thing.
