Do you think you're better off alone?

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Liamson

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The world is your burrito. Somewhere beyond Mad Horizon there is an adventure to be had. Once more unto the breach dear friends, once more. The game is afoot.



Ditch the mortgage, live on a Sailboat. Travel, explore, learn a language, go spearfishing, snorkeling and take lots of pictures.

Go on a missions trip <those can be ridiculously expensive.

I understand why people think they are better off by themselves. Or at least I think I do. Whenever I go looking for people to come with me on some crazy adventure, no one shows up. When I just go off on a crazy adventure, I always meet people who are willing to stay with me, follow me and share it.


There is something organic about being in the moment of doing something that you love. Something that draws people to want to experience it with you. Passion is contagious. So perhaps for now some of us are better off alone until we can be content with who we are and what we do when we are by ourselves. We expect someone else to fall in love with us but, we can't even enjoying hanging out with ourselves.

Become the kind of person you can't live without and you will probably find people who can't live without you.
 
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fireofpassion

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Wow strong words brother... Very wise words
I find that once yyou learn your identity in christ
Your eyes and ears open to new adventures new exsperiences
 
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Jullianna

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I think I might be better off alone, but for different reasons.

Rather than craving excitement (have had a life of that..it's okay, but peace is good too), I crave depth. I crave the company of those with the ability to see beyond epidermis. It's not looking good so far.
 
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fireofpassion

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I supose us christians think where better off alone as we look at the world differently and we think
That isolating ourselves is safer when infact its not I'm on my own most
Of the time now as I feel like I speak a different language to flesh
And if I get involved with my old friends its to much temptation and my flesh
Rises up and I become a hypicrite if you get what I mean X
 
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Indubitably

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Your thoughts are interesting and thought provoking. I tend to agree with Jullianna, as I often do. I crave depth also and am usually quite alone in that craving and the pursuit thereof.

Adventure and excitement with people who follow us, is generally stimulating and fulfilling for that moment. But when it's over, there is no substantive result or lasting satisfaction.

I continue to seek because I certainly cannot possibly be alone in this quest for something deeper and permanently satisfying. I would trade five minutes of someone reaching me to my very soul, for a lifetime of every external excitement known to man.
 
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fireofpassion

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I'm sorry if you feel that way, I'm really not trying to provoke anyone
God bless you.. Xxxx
 
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Grace52

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I love the adverture seeking stuff I had my own motorcycles...various makes and models, I had only one friend who would go out riding with me. however, the reason you might not be able to get anyone to go with you is because if cash. Yes i would love to jump up an go with you in a heart beat, but i do not like to be dependant on anyone for any reason, if something should happen along the way, and i needed to be somewhere else, i wouldnt want to have to beg you for the money to get there, and so no cash...no go

And I too need friendship, something that i havent had the last 20 something years, I need debth, stability, and routine. It might be boring to some, but.....
 
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I think I might be better off alone, but for different reasons.

Rather than craving excitement (have had a life of that..it's okay, but peace is good too), I crave depth. I crave the company of those with the ability to see beyond epidermis. It's not looking good so far.
Sometimes deep thinkers do not appear to be deep thinkers. One of the cruel oddities of life.
 
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Indubitably

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fire, you certainly did not provoke anyone, however you did provoke us to think. We simply shared a little different viewpoint. Our views on things change with age and physical conditions and our desire to take greater risks. I rarely ski or ride Harleys or fly airplanes, which once were passions. But give me cup of coffee and be willing to sit and have a deep conversation about the goodness of the Lord, and you've got me excited. Things that excite us simply change as we experience more and more of life.
 

PopClick

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I understand why people think they are better off by themselves. Or at least I think I do. Whenever I go looking for people to come with me on some crazy adventure, no one shows up. When I just go off on a crazy adventure, I always meet people who are willing to stay with me, follow me and share it.
I have never had as good a time with other people as I have with just God and I. Other people are fine; I'll even say that they are necessary at times. But they really don't fulfill me or make me happy in any way. I do not crave their presence.

So perhaps for now some of us are better off alone until we can be content with who we are and what we do when we are by ourselves. We expect someone else to fall in love with us but, we can't even enjoying hanging out with ourselves.
There may come a day when I'm better off with someone else, although I find that hard to imagine.

Become the kind of person you can't live without and you will probably find people who can't live without you.
I sincerely hope that there is no such thing.
 
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Jullianna

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Sometimes deep thinkers do not appear to be deep thinkers. One of the cruel oddities of life.
Therein lies the rub, my friend :)

Many folks haven't yet learned to see with more than their eyes.
 
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zaoman32

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I'm not interested in finding anyone anymore. Be it to be a deep thinker with, or to share some kind of adventure with

I think it's important not to let our desires to be with or have someone else get in the way of our desire for God. God is our first and foremost lover. We need to make sure he's on the adventure with us first before we find someone else.
 
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arwen83

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awww, now I want to go on a train across Canada :( I imagined myself being that girl: drinking a tea, looking out the window at the scenery that is seen only by taking a train, and thinking about life. Then I imagined myself taking that train with a friend, I would find that they would take away from the experience. I would be distracted by the talking, or feeling that I have to entertain them~ I can't tell them to be quiet so I can look out the window lol. Somethings are better off experienced alone, there is a depth there that is hard to experience when there are others around.
 

Descyple

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awww, now I want to go on a train across Canada :( I imagined myself being that girl: drinking a tea, looking out the window at the scenery that is seen only by taking a train, and thinking about life. Then I imagined myself taking that train with a friend, I would find that they would take away from the experience. I would be distracted by the talking, or feeling that I have to entertain them~ I can't tell them to be quiet so I can look out the window lol. Somethings are better off experienced alone, there is a depth there that is hard to experience when there are others around.
Arwen, since we are both Canadian, I will make you deal. If we take a train ride together, you can spend the whole time sitting quietly looking out the window, and I will spend the whole time on my laptop venting on CC about how I wish I had a more talkative train buddy!!!

Do we have a deal???
 

PopClick

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Sometimes deep thinkers do not appear to be deep thinkers. One of the cruel oddities of life.
Is it really cruel, though? They are what they are, regardless of who recognizes it.
Never mind, I'm derailing. 0.o
 
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jo_ptrp

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Become the kind of person you can't live without and you will probably find people who can't live without you.

-very nice...can i post this on my facebook???:D
 

Liamson

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You can have your cake and eat it too. Its not about Excitement, its about enrichment. Its about having stories and life experience to share with your grandchildren.



I'm not talking about bungee jumping, speeding and spring break in Florida.

I'm talking about genuine, curious, reflective, exploration. That is the beauty of taking a Train instead of flying. Its what makes sailing so intimate, being able to run your fingers through the water and feel connected yet free at the same time. Its about hiking and feeling the fresh air in your lungs and the quiet reserve wash over you. Its the feeling of welcome that envelopes us as we are surrounded by all that God has created.




Its what makes being alone, not feel alone at all.
 
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Jullianna

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I have a feeling my post may have been misunderstood and reversed somehow. I was not saying that I am looking for someone who can discuss quantum physics with me. :) Not really &#8220;looking&#8221; at all to be honest. I&#8217;m saying that it would be great to meet a guy who is willing to look beyond red hair/blue eyes to discover what the woman inside might think/feel/dream about/etc. Many SAY they do, but, as time passes, it doesn&#8217;t show. She&#8217;s still just a Barbie&#8230;.

Barbie has been single all of these years and she&#8217;s done just fine, so maybe I should take a lesson.

*snickers @ JimJimmers* :D
 

Liamson

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I have a feeling my post may have been misunderstood and reversed somehow. I was not saying that I am looking for someone who can discuss quantum physics with me. :) Not really “looking” at all to be honest. I’m saying that it would be great to meet a guy who is willing to look beyond red hair/blue eyes to discover what the woman inside might think/feel/dream about/etc. Many SAY they do, but, as time passes, it doesn’t show. She’s still just a Barbie….

Barbie has been single all of these years and she’s done just fine, so maybe I should take a lesson.

*snickers @ JimJimmers* :D
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