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seoulsearch · Dec 7, 2011

Reece,

Just wanted to say that I prayed for you today while I was at work... thanking God that you have the courage to face things that are troubling you, praise for your faith, healing and strength for past hurts and losses, and that God will send people in your life to let you know that you are an awesome person.

I've heard you in chat and read some of your other pasts--your deep insights, compassionate heart, and willingness to reach out to others is greatly appreciated.

NodMyHeadLikeYeah · Dec 7, 2011

AsifinPassing said:

Hey guys! ^^

So, I realize the singles thread always seems to be the most frequented, and topics appear and reappear from different people over the same things, but I really would just like to talk with you for a moment. You know, with, not to or at. (lol)

On that note, there are a few things I've had in my heart and on my mind for a while now. (granted, I always have things on my heart and mind, but specifically) *small sigh*

This will entail a lot, but I'll try to be brief as I don't want you to click on the title and go O_O...when the page loads.

To start with, confidence. Whatever your race, gender, custom, ext...everyone looks for confidence. That's easy enough to come by. Many moments make us feel confident. We can always be confident in Christ, and there are several other instances. The catch is, confidence in yourself.

Part of where I'm coming from can be explained by this song...http://www.google.com/url?sa=t&rct=...54SXDg&usg=AFQjCNFfiFYjsIMf8aLYMQrvH6RVIZjbfg

See, I, like many, suffer from low self-esteem. I'm not always walking around with a rain cloud, but I am sometimes overtaken by fits of sadness or corrosion in my heart from my failures. All the same, I've always felt a deep, strong longing for someone to live my life with.

My past relationships have been rough, but they taught me a lot. I don't want to overwhelm you with text, so to super briefly sum it up, I've long been praying about and gradually surrendering it to God, but the desire seems potent as ever.

I learned the hard way not to just take anyone, but only the ones which God ordains, however, I often feel and have become of the persuasion that I don't deserve such a gift as a wife. She would be able to do so much better than me, and I wouldn't want to put my, for lack of a better term, junk on her or hurt the person I'm meant to love most.

In any case, what are your thoughts?

I like what you said, and i understand where your comin from. Those are my only thoughts

AsifinPassing · Dec 7, 2011

Thank you Seoul, and thank you nod.

GreenNnice · Dec 7, 2011

See_KING_Truth said:

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Well, well said, YES!, we should find our confidence in Christ, and, maybe this is what you meant McCharming (does everyone know See_King_Truth=McCharming, LOL, ?), too but I would add we should seek our confidence from Christ, and, all this can be added to us via our relationship to Christ

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But I want to stay on topic, and, I should have done the multiquote button icking because julieannie, my dear bro, AsIf, said things there about David that so connect . David wrote great song, but David experienced great consternation I. His life and His writings (Psalms) prove this true.

AsIf, get right on the Ground with God and promise God you will DUMP all.the dirt from your life IF God will give you an other half. Hannah prayed, deeply, for God to make her barren body able to conceive, she CRIED out to God and promised God she would give her son , if she could have one inside her, to God once born...

God granted that request and Samuel became a great man of God, I would need to look up scripture, but I believe Samuel mentored Elijah who mentored Elisha. Hannah, this all is to say, AsIf, was greatly blessed for crying out to God. There are others in scripture who cried out to God and were therefore spared, but I will stop there I guess.

If I keep being so long-winded, , pretty soon people will confuse me with Seoulsearching

Just kiddin', you know that though I know, your thread starts are deep, and, beautiful.

AsifinPassing · Dec 7, 2011

Just look at all the awesome people and their wonderful responses! *points*

Thank you, Green. We should all cry out to Jesus, but I want His will to be done. As much as I struggle, I know that God struggled more. As much as I can imagine, I know God's plan is more.

If in God's will, I would love a significant other, but I also know that it will be hard. *see 1 Corinthians 7:28*

All the same, even as Paul was gifted with singleness, I feel I am not. Though I'm not miserable being single or anything, I know what it is (even if just a glimpse) to be intimately loved. (by the way, though often physical in reference, the word 'intimate' refers to much more than sex for those questioning...)

So, where does that leave me? Longing for God, and longing for a wife. Would I give up on a wife for God? Yes. Would I give up on God for anything? NO.

The fact remains, however, that though I am willing to live this life however God wills, I still feel the desire for another, which, I believe is from God, but also know that Satan can and has used to corrupt men.

In every case, I (and we) need prayer and to seek understanding. The Bible contains a great deal of God's truth, but it is not all there is. It is the starting and continual guide, but the Holy Spirit (God himself) is our teacher, who can use whatever means He so chooses.

(I say this last part because though I love scripture, remember that it is written by men. Though I love Paul, not everything he said necessarily was God's word, but much seems to be. I may come under fire for this, but that is fine.)

Thank y'all so much!! Please, if someone has more to say, let it be said.

GreenNnice · Dec 9, 2011

AsifinPassing said:

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Amen, AsIf, and, don't kid yourself, YOU bless many people by doing this thread and, having the wealth of good God knowledge inside that 'beagle' brain of yours, and, having a dad who is a pastor, and, just being an all-around mellow, introspective guy are traits and realities that other guys would kill for. Hey, girls might wanna kill each other to have you, we're talking girls of God, AsIf .

. Sure, I'm kidding with the killing, we all know God says 'Thou shall not kill,.' But, Yeah, AsIf , living without a wife the rest of your life is ok. Some will . Maybe me.

. There will be blood ! A liitle Daniel Day Lewis

and, OH, ok, yes, Sorry, ladies, kidding ya, k-i-n-g-o, and, .Bingo was her name, OH

. You would ladylike make a mad dash for AsIf

And, yes, AsIf , 1 Cor. 7:28 says some things, and, I'm not quite sure what it says, but I do know that Paul says that getting married means getting chained, meaning 1 Cor. 32-33. And, for some that chaining is good, necessary, at least God's will for their life, speaking of the 40% marriages and not the 60%+ divorces.

So, yes, please God no matter what, and, realize that if you get married , that is how you want to slake this loneliness inside you ....Then realize that you are then having to not only please God but a wife too.

I am not saying negativity toward marriage, I am simply speaking scripture , God bless you all and I pray you follow God's most pleasing plan for your life. The Lord leads .

AsifinPassing · Dec 10, 2011

^_^ Thanks man. I'm down for trying to please as many as possible, but always God as #1!

So, on this, I know many of us struggle with the desire to (physically, emotionally, mentally, spiritually) love and be loved by someone. I wonder who else is out there that feels or the same, or different. In any case, I really appreciate everyone's posting here, and hope to hear not only from y'all again, but maybe from others too.

Like it says in my sig...

seoulsearch · Dec 10, 2011

AsifinPassing said:

You are so right, Reece... I am (or at least, used to be) a very affectionate person in all ways possible--words, presence, and touch. Not having that available for many years... I try to lavish most of it on my family and friends... but it's really, really hard. I pour a lot of energy into writing heartfelt messages to those I love, sending cards, etc.

NOT the same at all... and not nearly as satisfying as daily hugs or just a look or nod in knowing what the other person is thinking... I am not sure how God expects us to cope with this loss/absence from our lives...

If anyone finds out, be sure to share your tips!

P.S. Reece, I went through your photo albums... I hope God lifts your spirit and boost your self-esteem to its rightful, healthy degree. You're smart, loving, compassionate, and downright adorable.

Best wishes to you!

AsifinPassing · Dec 13, 2011

Haha, thank you Seoul. I'm glad you get where I'm coming from.

GreenNnice · Dec 13, 2011

AsifinPassing said:

Hey, Hi, AsIf,

I hope and pray all is well with you, Reeces.

And, above, I would add to your words: And God will get you where you are wanting to go.

He will be there, watching you , like The Police but different

, helping you, answering you, if only, AsIf, you ASK in His name. Isn't that a sooo powerful verse from John 14?. Ask God for anything in His name and it shall be given you. This is done by God to glorify His Son and the thing asked for must be in line with His plan for your life. The Lord leads

AsifinPassing · Dec 14, 2011

Thank you, and you're right Green!

I'm sort of fair to midland, actually. I've been struggling a bit with this whole romantic relationship issue. I've got quite a past as far as that's concerned, and now in the present there is yet another girl whom I like and likes me, but doesn't seem to be in step with God's plan for my life. (I do speak this in fear and trembling, under correction, as God wills)

She's a believer, but there are many worldly elements to her. I had this happen once before, and it resulted in the hardest thing and near-intensest pain I've ever went through/put someone else through. *sigh* Life can be complicated sometimes.

Anyway, I know that it isn't right, so don't plan on dating her, but... I don't know. Anyway, please keep praying for me, and God willing, I'll keep you in my prayers too!

GreenNnice · Dec 15, 2011

AsifinPassing said:

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There is something about you that I see (God allows me to see) in you, it can be summed up in those signature sayings at the bottom of all your posts, well, I will just say that you can inspire, you can lift a lady's heart into your gentle, unjudging, uplifting world, of music, of life. That is what I see most awesome about you, Reeces. And, it is an awful lot of greatness for my eyes to behold in looking at another human being . You are not alone, others on c.c. (actualky, everyone) I see too different gifts of magnificence but, for some, I have to look harder for God's good exuding from their soul.

From you , it is all awesomely right out there in front of us. I want you to never forget what you give us all on c.c, with your transparency and willingness leave it all out there for others to judge.

Greatness . Someone who understands the struggles of a single man and is not afraid to ask others how those struggles can be rid. Liam does that too, alienX, and, some others (not me) .

There is a rare quality of doing that: an openess of the heart.

Girls love that, God loves that. If you are doing things for God and He puts a girl in your life , and, you pray for what is best, and, the girl is still there, then I think you should hear God saying to you as you think to yourself, with the Enemy, of course, nudging you too.

You, regarding going out with new girl you like, likes you: 'No, God, it is not the right time, school, bills, I got over a stricken love not long ago.No, God. '

Remember, Reece, you are awesome

AsifinPassing · Dec 15, 2011

GreenNnice said:

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There is something about you that I see (God allows me to see) in you, it can be summed up in those signature sayings at the bottom of all your posts, well, I will just say that you can inspire, you can lift a lady's heart into your gentle, unjudging, uplifting world, of music, of life. That is what I see most awesome about you, Reeces. And, it is an awful lot of greatness for my eyes to behold in looking at another human being . You are not alone, others on c.c. (actualky, everyone) I see too different gifts of magnificence but, for some, I have to look harder for God's good exuding from their soul.

From you , it is all awesomely right out there in front of us. I want you to never forget what you give us all on c.c, with your transparency and willingness leave it all out there for others to judge.

Greatness . Someone who understands the struggles of a single man and is not afraid to ask others how those struggles can be rid. Liam does that too, alienX, and, some others (not me) .

There is a rare quality of doing that: an openess of the heart.

Girls love that, God loves that. If you are doing things for God and He puts a girl in your life , and, you pray for what is best, and, the girl is still there, then I think you should hear God saying to you as you think to yourself, with the Enemy, of course, nudging you too.

You, regarding going out with new girl you like, likes you: 'No, God, it is not the right time, school, bills, I got over a stricken love not long ago.No, God. '

Remember, Reece, you are awesome

Wow. Thanks Green. I'll try to stay open, as always and hopefully moreso, to what God has planned. In fact, it's in that nature as to why I'm fairly sure this relationship isn't right. All the same, I'll watch and pray. God bless, man.

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