Friendship or possible relationship?

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2bsanctified

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Here is a story to tell that I'm going through.

I met this girl on the internet back in August. She wanted to add me as a friend from because I was friends with her friend. I denied the first time. Then I realized she was her friend. So, I added her to my friendslist.
I messaged her once to see if she wanted to be my kids babysitter, but she told me she was 5 hours away. A month later, I said hi and she said hi back. We started to talk that night and she asked if I mind if I call her. I said Ok, and we talked until 4 a.m.
We kept talking and she was planning a trip to Pasadena. The morning she was on amtrak, she called me and said we couldn't meet because the friend that is her BFF for 9 years roomate had a fit over it. She said sorry. A few days, she called and said want to go the movies?
I said yes, and she said try to get here quick. I told her I will be there at a certain time and she said it's too late but hurry...I don't want to deal with the roomate. So I picked her up, and took her out driving and etc. She was upset at him for inviting one of his friend who was a girl. And that she said well I want to hang out with my friend. We got back late at night like 2 am. I guess the dude
was hysertical and was trying to get on his knees or something and shaking or whatever. She went back up north where she was from after the few days visit. We continue to talk and talk everyday and night. I even visited her numberous times. We even kissed and etc and we came back down to socal to spend more time and go to Disneyland. I dropped her off at her BFF house. A few days went by and I picked her up. She was different.
I felt it deep inside. I took her home and her parents let me stay for next few days. I came home and went back up on New Years. I spent a week up there, but only thing we do is I massage her every night and she sometimes sits close to me. She just got out of a relationship because prior to us, her bf blew her off. I started to read the Bible with her and etc. She is getting close to God's word. She and I are getting a place together as roomates.
She told me that she wants to take it real slow, because she isn't sure if she wants to commit with me for having kids even though she likes kids. She wants to move in and basically do her own thing and not be questioned of where she is and when she coming back. She told me she sees as a good friend. However, I noticed some disturbing texts between her and that guy. Supposedly he is just a friend as well. I just don't know what to do anymore. Her mom
told me to take it day by day because her heart is hardened from last relationship. She said she wants to find herself and do things that makes her happy. So, I am waiting here wondering if I will ever get a chance. Or is it just a dead end for me.

She also told me that it takes time for a friendship to possible a relationship as her ex was 8 years friends prior to one year relationship. She also said the friend that I was writing about, she is still getting to know him yet she wants to get to know me more when she moves in.
 
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libertygirl

Guest
#2
Sounds like she has a commitment problem. I think it would be wise if you didn't let her move in with you. I see that you kiss her, give her attention, and let her move in with you. This sounds like she is getting all of the benefits of a relationship without committing to you. My advice, don't let her use you. Find someone better.
 
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kenisyes

Guest
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Beware of online relationships. There was a case here a couple months back of a man who had to be banned from the website. Talked himself into a couples' home "temporarily" and stayed and took real advantage of them. If you like her, see her some more, but watch what you are getting into. And don't fall into the sex before marriage trap.
 
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Ugly

Guest
#4
Something sounds weird with her. She is willing to kiss you, but doesn't want to date you. Seems to have some weird jealous roommate and an, apparently, odd relationship with him. She gave all the signs of wanting to date, but then hits the brakes. My suggestion is move on. People who are that scarred by past relationships, especially if its that recent, often take a long time to get past and usually flip flop about how they feel having a relationship. Today we're together, tomorrow i need my space. Sounds like a lot of hassle to me. With a low likelihood of it going anywhere.