Good, Godly Relationship Books - Any Suggestions?

[Tintin]

If you can't find the answer to your questions in this book, then maybe... just maybe, you're asking the wrong questions..

The Bible

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I assume you meant, *can't?

Also, the Bible is the Word of God and no other book compares but still I think it's okay to read books on the subject. You just don't raise them to the same level as the Bible.

 

[zeroturbulence]

I assume you meant, *can't?

Also, the Bible is the Word of God and no other book compares but still I think it's okay to read books on the subject. You just don't raise them to the same level as the Bible.

Wow I can't believe I missed that typo. Thanks for fixing it. Its really late here. The bible is the only book I like to read. You know... if you only read one book your entire life...

It's the only book written by God, anyway.

 

[StoneThrower]

Okay. So, I'm more of a fiction reader but have become more of a non-fiction reader of late. I typically don't read these sorts of books (my non-fiction reading is usually related to theology, biblical creation and a few others) but as I'm entering a new phase of my life, I'm eager to hear some different perspectives and to learn new things.

I'm looking for titles that aren't too legalistic or too liberal. I know, that probably cuts out most. But I've found the legalistic ones usually aren't helpful eg. Wear a sackcloth, your body is evil, don't even look each other in the eye. What, you did? Prepare for rampant sex! Or the liberal ones eg. So, you're going to marry each other, why wait until marriage? Don't stifle your sexuality. God created sex! Okay, so I exaggerated a little there, but not really.

I feel so unqualified but God qualifies those He's called. I want to learn to be a great, godly leader and to Honor Arlene in that role.

Any good suggestions? Cheers, brothers and sisters!

MUST READS for ANYONE !

The Exemplary Husband by Stewart Scott
The Excellent Wife by Martha Peace

The first is written by a pastor and teaches you how to be a Godly man as a pastor and a father of a sound church, he said upon close examination he wasn't.
The second if your a guy is a real eye opener and it will show you what to look for in a Proverbs 31 woman and assist the laddies in becoming that. She also talked frankly about the bedroom and I was surprised by what she said I hope I can find a gal like that maybe thats why I am still single

 

[StoneThrower]

Okay. So, I'm more of a fiction reader but have become more of a non-fiction reader of late. I typically don't read these sorts of books (my non-fiction reading is usually related to theology, biblical creation and a few others) but as I'm entering a new phase of my life, I'm eager to hear some different perspectives and to learn new things.

I'm looking for titles that aren't too legalistic or too liberal. I know, that probably cuts out most. But I've found the legalistic ones usually aren't helpful eg. Wear a sackcloth, your body is evil, don't even look each other in the eye. What, you did? Prepare for rampant sex! Or the liberal ones eg. So, you're going to marry each other, why wait until marriage? Don't stifle your sexuality. God created sex! Okay, so I exaggerated a little there, but not really.

I feel so unqualified but God qualifies those He's called. I want to learn to be a great, godly leader and to honour Arlene in that role.

Any good suggestions? Cheers, brothers and sisters!

Another excellent resource is Drive By Marriage (MP3 CD) even if your single its good stuff.
If your marriage is good, it can be richer. If your marriage is in trouble, it can be saved. There is hope!
Drive By Marriage at Wretched with Todd Friel

I wanted to make sure I was ready and not just deluded, so I read a lot and did the work ahead of time.

 

[Arlene89]

Christian, you already have a PhD on relationships. Honestly, I'm sure there are many, many men that need a lecture or two from you on how to treat a woman.

You had me at, 'I want to honour you', and 'Let me pray for you', not to mention all the godly conversations we have had. The fact that you have made every step Christ centred means you know a lot more about relationships than you may realise.

You have honoured me, encouraged me, prayed for me, you have taught me many things, lovingly reminded me of who I am in Christ, you have been patient, kind and caring towards me.

So remind me again, why do you need to read books about relationships?

 

[ChandlerFan]

TinTin, my friend, it sounds like maybe you need to write a relationships book yourself ; )

 

[Tintin]

Christian, you already have a PhD on relationships. Honestly, I'm sure there are many, many men that need a lecture or two from you on how to treat a woman.

You had me at, 'I want to honour you', and 'Let me pray for you', not to mention all the godly conversations we have had. The fact that you have made every step Christ centred means you know a lot more about relationships than you may realise.

You have honoured me, encouraged me, prayed for me, you have taught me many things, lovingly reminded me of who I am in Christ, you have been patient, kind and caring towards me.

So remind me again, why do you need to read books about relationships?

Arlene, thank you so much! You mean the world to me. I'm glad I've had some small measure in your life, in helping you to see yourself as God sees you. You said I know a lot more about relationships than I realise. Maybe it's something like my deal with confidence levels. I don't feel confident in myself and I struggle to have confidence in Christ, but people sometimes say, "Christian, you're more confident than you know" or "Christian, I wish you could see the confidence I see in you". And I don't know how to respond. I'm not good with receiving compliments but I really do appreciate them. So, thanks again. Maybe I should take my own advice, huh? Listen to what God says about me, rather than what the world or I think about me. After all, it's so very important to remain teachable, to listen earnestly, to value each other and to put what has been learnt into action. Bless you, my love!

 

[Rush]

Dude, "Boundaries before Marriage" by Cloud and Townsend. Classic boundaries series stuff but focused towards the titles focus. If you've not heard of them, they're all about self focus rather than on the prospective spouse. They both have their doctorates and are grand authors in their own right.
They have a boundaries for every point of life, general, kids, teenages, dating, pre-marriage, marriage. there's alot of duplicate lessons that can be applied across the board if you've got a good critical mind, but overall they're still invaluable. Great illustrations to all the points too.

Blessings,
Rush

 

[Rush]

Arlene, God bless you for your encouragement of Mr Tintin. Tintin does seem to be a solid man from what I've read of his posts. Blessings to you both. I wish you both the best in the singular awesomeness that is an amazing new relationship.
I noticed no one has mentioned the 5 love languages by Chapman. You guys might be the greatest relational folk ever, and maybe all this stuff is old hat, but this book as a resource to help build yourself and to equip you with the tools to help you love one another more completely in each others eyes... well, it's good.
The whole deal is just figuring out how each of you needs to be loved, and how your partner needs to be loved and becoming selfless enough to engage on those lines even if it's not your primary way of showing love. Again, excellent illustrations to make the point. Real life stories from Chapmans counselling over the years with couples. Was a good read just as a resource for general human interaction; can imagine how valuable it would be as resource for building a more intimate relationship.

Anyhoo, enough plugging.
Blessings to you both.

Rush

 

[Tintin]

Arlene, God bless you for your encouragement of Mr Tintin. Tintin does seem to be a solid man from what I've read of his posts. Blessings to you both. I wish you both the best in the singular awesomeness that is an amazing new relationship.
I noticed no one has mentioned the 5 love languages by Chapman. You guys might be the greatest relational folk ever, and maybe all this stuff is old hat, but this book as a resource to help build yourself and to equip you with the tools to help you love one another more completely in each others eyes... well, it's good.
The whole deal is just figuring out how each of you needs to be loved, and how your partner needs to be loved and becoming selfless enough to engage on those lines even if it's not your primary way of showing love. Again, excellent illustrations to make the point. Real life stories from Chapmans counselling over the years with couples. Was a good read just as a resource for general human interaction; can imagine how valuable it would be as resource for building a more intimate relationship.

Anyhoo, enough plugging.
Blessings to you both.

Rush

Thank you, brother Rush! Yes, I've heard of the book "The Five Languages", but I haven't read it. I'll have to look into that one. Actually, that may be a good starting point. Thanks, again.

 

[Rush]

Thank you, brother Rush! Yes, I've heard of the book "The Five Languages", but I haven't read it. I'll have to look into that one. Actually, that may be a good starting point. Thanks, again.

I posted a reply with some awesomeness that somehow got eaten up. So ill rewrite it but the flow is all gone now. haha lame.

Pleasure Tintin.
Books are awesome. I love books but my dad used to say something when I was little that encapsulates my love of them perfectly: Why learn from your own mistakes, when you can learn from others.

Blessings,
Rush