have u thought about why you are left being single?

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hellobacky

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Dear All

I know it may not be right,but sometimes i feel inferior to be left as single.Even though many of couples are not as happy as it seems.I feel a bit ashamed now to be as single and talk about this issue.I wonder what makes me still alone,my character? my social ability?or...
Have u ever thougt about what make u single?
 
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sweetspiritgirl

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I am single now. I once was married for 15 years and im now 34 and my divorce was final last summer of 2011. I have found it very hard to find any man suitable for me, because of my faith. But I do pray that God willl bring someone to my life one day.I have found that many men cant click with me as i dont act like they , as language wise and so forth. Being a percular people does show..lol But I just remember God is my husband now. I know what you mean by saying feeling diffrenty because your are not married I feel this too..Paul says its best not to be married because if so he couldnt do the things for God he wanted.. I know what he meant by this as when I was married my ex didnt even want me to get involved in prayer meetings and so forth yet my heart screamed for more of God..guess now i dont need to worry in that area..good lucj hun and bless you :)
 
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erika83

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hellobacky said:
Dear All

I know it may not be right,but sometimes i feel inferior to be left as single.Even though many of couples are not as happy as it seems.I feel a bit ashamed now to be as single and talk about this issue.I wonder what makes me still alone,my character? my social ability?or...
Have u ever thougt about what make u single?
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Don't feel inferior or worthless for being single, you are not less pretty or less worthy than the women that got married. Having a husband is not a reward for being ''good'' and not having one is not a punishment.
I reckon it's all about God's perfect timing, and married or not our goal should be to grow deeper in Him. Please don't feel ''guilty'' and try finding faults in yourself, it will only make you feel bitter.
 
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zaoman32

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I'm single for the simple reason that I was a jerk and made a crappy husband. But there's no need to beat yourself about being alone. God knows the desires of our hearts, and He promises to meet them if we are faithful to Him. My sister is 30 years, and only just got her first boyfriend about a year ago, and she's going to be married very soon. The waiting sucks for sure, but once God meets your desires, and He will, I can guarantee it will be well worth the wait.
 
Searching4Truth

Searching4Truth

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Left being single? Why is being single a bad thing?
 
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graciedai

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hellobacky said:
Dear All

I know it may not be right,but sometimes i feel inferior to be left as single.Even though many of couples are not as happy as it seems.I feel a bit ashamed now to be as single and talk about this issue.I wonder what makes me still alone,my character? my social ability?or...
Have u ever thougt about what make u single?
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I know how you feel. Unfortunately, for me, this has caused me to make some very bad decisions in my life. I don't understand it sometimes why I feel this way because I know my friends who are in relationships have their own issues. They may seem happy on the outside but I know what they're going through as couples and I wouldn't want to be in some of those relationships.

Personally, I think it's just not God's time yet and I would be very unhappy if it were to happen right away. I'm still working out a lot of personal issues of my own and I would bring that into the relationship if I have one now. God knows the desires of my heart and to be honest, I know that I'm not ready to be with the man I would want to have. I have this dream of being married to a godly man and I'm not at that point where I deserve it because I'm still working on me being a godly woman myself. That's why I think I'm still single.
 
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dupreegreg

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I am single myself,and glad I am at this time. I have always made my relationships happen and in the end discovered that they were not what Christ wanted for me, the bible tells us that you can't get fresh water and salt water from the same spring and that not to be unequal yoked. Paul also said that the reason he did nopt marry was because it would take away from his relationship with God, but he also go's on to say that if your body burns with the desire to have a mate it is better to marry then to just fool around and therfor sin. so we have a choice, Never feel less then because of being single. it could be a blessing, GREG
 
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violakat

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hellobacky said:
Dear All

I know it may not be right,but sometimes i feel inferior to be left as single.Even though many of couples are not as happy as it seems.I feel a bit ashamed now to be as single and talk about this issue.I wonder what makes me still alone,my character? my social ability?or...
Have u ever thougt about what make u single?
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Hellobacky,

Most or our cultures put a heavy emphasis on being married, especially for women to marry young. Partly because only have so long to be able to bear children. Many married people subconsciously give off signals that if your are not married by a certain age then there most certainly must be something wrong with you. Not all, but many do. On top of that, parents have a tendency to put pressure on their adult children to get married and give them grandchildren. All of this can create feelings of somehow being inferior to those who are married. That if we are not married, that something must be wrong with us. However, what we forget is that God does not always plan for every sing person to be married. Some people are called to be single for their entire lives. And some will be called to marriage which is a good thing, otherwise, probably none of us would be here, if there hadn't been marriage at some point in the past. (And yes I know that you can have children without marriage, but in the past, it was frowned upon to have sex outside of marriage.)

So basically, just remember that as a child of God, God will always have your best planned for you. It takes a lot of trust, but if you follow His leading, no matter if you stay single or become married, your life will be more fulfilling then you can imagine.
 
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Miss23

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zaoman32 said:
I'm single for the simple reason that I was a jerk and made a crappy husband. But there's no need to beat yourself about being alone. God knows the desires of our hearts, and He promises to meet them if we are faithful to Him. My sister is 30 years, and only just got her first boyfriend about a year ago, and she's going to be married very soon. The waiting sucks for sure, but once God meets your desires, and He will, I can guarantee it will be well worth the wait.
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wow what you ´ve said its so true.. ´´God knows the desires of our hearts, and He promises to meet them if we are faithful to Him´´ .... also.. ´´The waiting sucks for sure, but once God meets your desires, and He will, I can guarantee it will be well worth the wait.´´

i said its true because ´ve been single since birth lol.. and i am agree with you.. i think God knows everything.. so he already have when it would be the correct time!.
Blessings
 
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OFM

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i is/am single right now cause it is Gods Will for me thats all....
 
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Jullianna

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I'm probably single because:

1. I’m bullheaded J
2. I put up walls and keep my heart in a cage
3. I don’t trust easily anymore
4. My brain runs in a gazillion directions at once and I miss it a lot when a guy is trying to get my attention.
 
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Jordache

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God will use this time no matter the reason for it. I am just filing for divorce and its hard to get up everyday. My husband has been gone for over a year, but I have to keep in mind that God is working in this to bring more glory to him. Right now the struggle is harder as a relationship I had with a married male friend has been partially severed. In that split I realized that he was helping to fill a big void in me... a need for protection, a need to be seen and heard and known like Hagar, a need to be called out into my destiny. It wasn't wrong to get these things from him, but the transition is huge and very painful.
Singleness is a good thing. My entire life is wrapped up in God. I am able to see how much I need him more than I ever have seen it. It doesn't make me less than. Gods glorious image is still shining through me... All the more even. For this I am grateful. When I find the otherside of this valley you will see a person with greater wisdom, compassion, desire for The Lord, a powerful ministry, and confidence. But these trials are what bring out the glory of God in us.
The ache of loneliness hurts everyday. I have to give myself a pep talk every morning just to rise. Some days I can barely make that step, but I will rise. Some days it takes a few minutes. Other days it takes an hour, but God is faithful. I wake up heartbroken and crying almost everyday, but I serve a good God who for at least a time has called me to singleness. I long for connection, but I am glad that The Almighty God is willing I connect with me.
 
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Blain

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actually i would rather be single for now. I see no reason to date someone if i am not in love and i have yet to fall in love
 
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Powemm

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Matthew 22:29-33 (NIV)
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29 Jesus replied, "You are in error because you do not know the Scriptures or the power of God. 30 At the resurrection people will neither marry nor be given in marriage; they will be like the angels in heaven. 31 But about the resurrection of the dead--have you not read what God said to you, 32 'I am the God of Abraham, the God of Isaac, and the God of Jacob' ? He is not the God of the dead but of the living." 33 When the crowds heard this, they were astonished at his teaching.
 
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Powemm

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singleness, I can never be single in Christ ... He and I agree... That in Him, I am never Alone...
 
Deva_1972

Deva_1972

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Jullianna said:
I'm probably single because:

1. I’m bullheaded J
2. I put up walls and keep my heart in a cage
3. I don’t trust easily anymore
4. My brain runs in a gazillion directions at once and I miss it a lot when a guy is trying to get my attention.
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Sounds like the same reasons I am single...not even kidding! LOL
 
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Trax

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Searching4Truth said:
Left being single? Why is being single a bad thing?
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Because the church is "family minded" in what it does. Most of what is does, involves "families".
And if you "haven't ever" been married, its hard to relate to the family scene. No matter
how nice people treat you, you feel out of place. And the worse thing that can be asked
a single person, IMO, once it is discovered he/she isn't married is, "Why not?" In reality, its like
a cheap shot. To singles, especially those who haven't been married, its a sensitive area and that
question can come in like a dagger in the gut. And the single always gets that question.

People who have been married and now single again, can relate to the family scene much more easy
because they have common ground to which to relate to the married people.

But as far as being single, I enjoy it. I can read the married forum, listen to Focus on the Family
radio program, and other stuff and think "wow, I don't think I could handle the married life."
 
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oracle2world

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I do not know how old you are, but I got married at 28.
 
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ritelec

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Family Radio.......................aok in my book.
 
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