He is the one?

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SweetmorningDew78

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My boyfriend of 5 years broke up with me end of last year and he wants me back... What should I do? After almost 6 months He wants me back again...yayyy I am so confused right now... :(


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Why was the relationship ended? or is that personal information. For someone to break up with their partner then couple months say i want you back doesn't sound like love to me
 
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The question is what do you want? you can go back or not, the choice is yours. You should take some time to pray first for clarity to get rid of the confusion.
 
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SweetmorningDew78 said:
My boyfriend of 5 years broke up with me end of last year and he wants me back... What should I do? After almost 6 months He wants me back again...yayyy I am so confused right now... :(


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First thing you do is hit your knees and pray God shows you and directs your next steps......

Most people will give advice on why did you break up in the first place, on and on they will go, but honestly, that doesnt matter. God knows your heart and the desires of it, but he also knows what is best for you as he knows every hair on your head so you need to let God guide your steps and to turn completely to him in this
 
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renewed_hope said:
First thing you do is hit your knees and pray God shows you and directs your next steps...... Most people will give advice on why did you break up in the first place, on and on they will go, but honestly, that doesnt matter. God knows your heart and the desires of it, but he also knows what is best for you as he knows every hair on your head so you need to let God guide your steps and to turn completely to him in this
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I understand what your saying but knowing the situation does matter because if for example infidelity was involved it would be better for her to move on.
 
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I understand what your saying but knowing the situation does matter because if for example infidelity was involved it would be better for her to move on.
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Actually I disagree with you....we don't need to know why, it's none of our business. God changes people all the time, do you want people to judge you based on a passed indiscretion? If she gives it to God and let him guide and directs her in this relationship then she won't be making a mistake. God knows her and knows what is best for her and he never will lead her down the wrong path :)
 
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He broke up with you for a reason, so how do you know that if you get back together, that he won't dump you for that same reason again? Better to just tell him to leave you alone..
 
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The reason why makes a big difference.
 
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Well God is not the author of confusion. Don't do anything till you pray about it and seek his advice and counsel.
Why did he break up with you? what do you guys want out of your relationship?

SweetmorningDew78 said:
My boyfriend of 5 years broke up with me end of last year and he wants me back... What should I do? After almost 6 months He wants me back again...yayyy I am so confused right now... :(


Blessings!
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If you are both real Christians and if you are both repentant about what you did to each other, you should get married, IMHO.

5 years of "just relationship" is too long, I think.

On the other hand, if you want to live for Christ only and to have no worries with any man, its a different topic.
 
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If you are both real Christians and if you are both repentant about what you did to each other, you should get married, IMHO.

5 years of "just relationship" is too long, I think.

On the other hand, if you want to live for Christ only and to have no worries with any man, its a different topic.
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What evidence do you have to assume they are both equally guilty?
And if someone wants to date for five years there is no requirement or need for them to marry if they are happy where they're at.
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Magenta

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Obviously your previous boyfriend made a huge mistake in breaking up with
you, because you are one of the sweetest people I have met on this site.
No wonder he wants you back! Does he deserve you? Do you love him?
 
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SweetmorningDew78 said:
My boyfriend of 5 years broke up with me end of last year and he wants me back... What should I do? After almost 6 months He wants me back again...yayyy I am so confused right now... :(


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I'd say no, cos of how he treated you last time. Like, why should he gets what he wants, just like that, and have you back, so so easy. Like, depends what happened, how he treated you, how he dumped you, etc. but I'd say no, cos of how easy it'd be for him, and that he could get you back just at a click of his fingers. Surely you're worth more than that.

If my ex contacted me asking me back, I'd block her.
 
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trofimus said:
If you are both real Christians and if you are both repentant about what you did to each other, you should get married, IMHO.

5 years of "just relationship" is too long, I think.

On the other hand, if you want to live for Christ only and to have no worries with any man, its a different topic.
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Bad. just really, really bad advice. Marriage is a very serious thing and not something to be taken lightly, and five years is actually not that long.
 
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SweetmorningDew78 said:
My boyfriend of 5 years broke up with me end of last year and he wants me back... What should I do? After almost 6 months He wants me back again...yayyy I am so confused right now... :(


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5 years and no ring??? :eek:



Here's what I have to say about that...




...........Oh and...if he was 'the one' you'd be married a few years already! :rolleyes:
 
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No just no. Can you trust him again with your heart after he left you? You can't love someone you cannot trust. People will always fail us but it's your decision if he is worth it or if you can find someone who will treat you better.
 
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Honestly that doesnt sound like love to me.Alot of questions popping into ma head.Like why did he leave in the first place? What has he been doing for the past 6months? or probably he started dating another lady only to realize your better than her. My past relationship was exactly like this, i foolishly thought maybe he later realized we were meant to be and came back for good.Is always good to give people second chance so i thought, i acceptd him back whole heartily.Dear this time the heart break was times 10 of the previous one.So please you need to ask urself alot of questions before accepting him back, so you won't make the mistake i made.I pray God gives you wisdom.
 
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I don't know the answer to your question, but I'm praying for you. :) Know that you deserve to be treasured and honored by whomever you allow into your life.
 
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No one here knows him like YOU know him. He might very well be the one for you. I would say disregard what anyone on an online message board has to say. None of us has any right to stick our oars into your relationship. You do what you want to do.

Pray and examine your heart. If you love him and he loves you, then you do what you want to do. Who cares if he made a mistake and broke up with you? He obviously sees he made a mistake. That sounds like a step in the right direction.
 
trofimus

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What evidence do you have to assume they are both equally guilty?
And if someone wants to date for five years there is no requirement or need for them to marry if they are happy where they're at.
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1. Christians should not measure whose guilt is smaller or bigger. We are all debtors to Christ.

2. Depends on what the dating looks like. Its probably quite impossible to keep it clean for such a long time. And as we can see, there are some worries with "leaving and returning again".


But I have no idea, if they are both free to marry each other (regarding the rules in the Bible), so I am just responding with the information given to us :) My response could be very different with more info, of course.

Strike 3.
 
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