So I have this friend that’s a guy and we are really close. He says he doesn’t want a relationship and wants to be friends but he acts different and says little things when I’m around him. He makes little comments. He knows how I feel and I understand if he doesn’t like me but IF he knows how I feel and still makes the comments it seems to me that he does like me. It’s very confusing. Also when I tell him to stop talking to me he does and then contacts me again. Also he is very flirtatious in my opinion to other girls. Just recently I yelled at him becaus he was hanging out with a girl I don’t want him with because I think he likes her. We got in a big fight and I said some things to him and he messaged her and told her that I was mad at him and one thing I said to him. Why is this happening?
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The reason it's happening? As tourist said, you let it.
Look at your own behavior also. You tell him not to talk to you, but when he does you allow it. And then after telling him not to talk to you you get jealous and put your nose in business it doesn't belong.
You are full of childish drama and as such attract others of a similar ilk. If you expect others to stick to their word so should you.
Look at your own behavior also. You tell him not to talk to you, but when he does you allow it. And then after telling him not to talk to you you get jealous and put your nose in business it doesn't belong.
You are full of childish drama and as such attract others of a similar ilk. If you expect others to stick to their word so should you.
Maybe he doesn't want a relationship as much as he wants to enjoy as much female attention as possible, or maybe he has an excessively flirtatious personality even though he doesn't mean anything by his flirting (with you or with other ladies). But the fact remains that by your own account he is either incapable of or unwilling to consider your feelings and adjust his behavior to minimize the turmoil he causes you and also doesn't respect your stated wishes. Since his behavior is beyond your control, what you should really be asking yourself is, how long are you going to pine over a guy who has told you he won't pursue you? Because if you're waiting around hoping he changes his mind and suddenly realizes how wonderful you are, well there's just not a very good track record of guys doing that in the real world?
Yeah, I didn't expect that either. I've said this before, but crushes (aptly named, btw) are nature's dirty little secret to ensure continuation of the species. Crushes release dopamine. Meth mimics the same thing and so will Oxycodone. In otherwords, it's powerful. My advice is tread lightly Maranatha. Think clearly.