How guys rate girls, How girls rate guys
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There's a lot well said here, guys will be wise to recognize to whom they 'gave' their life to, in mixing their 'bread and wine' with another's 'elements. Christian guys, these spoken of here, but, of course, those that think 'equally yoked' means something:
1. A Christian guy will want to take communion, should, anyway, know, too, the church is 'the bride of Christ.
2. A Christian guy will realize Jesus, and, the Holy Spirit are received "by faith."
3. A Christian guy will heed the bible's offerings (pun intended), like Cain and Abel diff.
4. A Christian guy will see psychology things, like 'looks,' etc, as secondary to His ends.
5. A Christian guy realizes his heart is inherantly bad, but his heart is after God. (Read Jeremiah -->concordance 'heart.')
6. A Christian guy mistakes, too, but he knows that Christ can cleanse him (1 John 1:9)
7. A Christian guy will live a life of contentedness in Christ, not complacency in the world.
8. A Christian guy will live out his life as the Lord leads Him--righteously--that's right standing w/ God, first.
That's a short list, too
1. A Christian guy will want to take communion, should, anyway, know, too, the church is 'the bride of Christ.
2. A Christian guy will realize Jesus, and, the Holy Spirit are received "by faith."
3. A Christian guy will heed the bible's offerings (pun intended), like Cain and Abel diff.
4. A Christian guy will see psychology things, like 'looks,' etc, as secondary to His ends.
5. A Christian guy realizes his heart is inherantly bad, but his heart is after God. (Read Jeremiah -->concordance 'heart.')
6. A Christian guy mistakes, too, but he knows that Christ can cleanse him (1 John 1:9)
7. A Christian guy will live a life of contentedness in Christ, not complacency in the world.
8. A Christian guy will live out his life as the Lord leads Him--righteously--that's right standing w/ God, first.
That's a short list, too
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It looks like she's making a fishy face?
If you're talking about the face on the female side, that is. If you're talking about the woman on the man's side, what's interesting is that no woman actually stands that way. Unless she's a young teen posing for a Facebook picture or a young woman at a "gentleman's club" (no idea why they're called that, they're anything but).
If you're talking about the face on the female side, that is. If you're talking about the woman on the man's side, what's interesting is that no woman actually stands that way. Unless she's a young teen posing for a Facebook picture or a young woman at a "gentleman's club" (no idea why they're called that, they're anything but).
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I think for the most part this is true. Humor is probably most important though then intelligence then looks then money. I don't think anyone can say that they did not think about the guys looks before getting to know them. I mean you see what they look like before you get to know them so something must have interested you right? Even a smile or their eyes would be "looks" I don't know if this falls under "looks" but one of pet peeves is dental hygiene. Brush ya teef brah
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From a woman's perspective:
If he has money because he overworks and lost sight of what is really important in life....PASS.
If he has looks because he is obsessed with himself, wants to win the favor of shallow people, and would rather storm off and work out at the gym that resolve an argument....PASS.
If he sees humor in making other people feel uncomfortable with insensitive jokes...PASS.
If he uses his intellect for "winning" every fight, judging people unfairly, using his large vocabulary and superiority to be a jerk...PASS.
See, there are many ways this chart could go horribly, horribly wrong if the larger picture is forgotten.
I appreciate looks, survival skills, humor, and intelligence in a guy. But if he has those things for bad reasons, I wouldn't be interested at all. I guess that must be because I rate guys by some other option not listed?
"Rate" is such a horrible word to me, but I'll use it for the sake of the thread. If I rate anyone by anything, it's by their genuine-ness. Those other things in that chart are the "bonus".
And don't sit there and tell me that I don't know myself. I wasn't born yesterday. I think I know what my experiences in life have let me to prefer and not prefer. You don't know me so you have no right to make that call.
If he has money because he overworks and lost sight of what is really important in life....PASS.
If he has looks because he is obsessed with himself, wants to win the favor of shallow people, and would rather storm off and work out at the gym that resolve an argument....PASS.
If he sees humor in making other people feel uncomfortable with insensitive jokes...PASS.
If he uses his intellect for "winning" every fight, judging people unfairly, using his large vocabulary and superiority to be a jerk...PASS.
See, there are many ways this chart could go horribly, horribly wrong if the larger picture is forgotten.
I appreciate looks, survival skills, humor, and intelligence in a guy. But if he has those things for bad reasons, I wouldn't be interested at all. I guess that must be because I rate guys by some other option not listed?
"Rate" is such a horrible word to me, but I'll use it for the sake of the thread. If I rate anyone by anything, it's by their genuine-ness. Those other things in that chart are the "bonus".
And don't sit there and tell me that I don't know myself. I wasn't born yesterday. I think I know what my experiences in life have let me to prefer and not prefer. You don't know me so you have no right to make that call.
Intelligence is such a rough and vague thing.
There are things that matter more to me that intelligence. Or more specifically, there are different kinds of intelligence that I value above academic intelligence or even IQ.
However it is a virtue and from my experience. But its not a virtue unto itself. Proverbs talks a lot about "understanding." and I believe that intelligence leads to understanding. And when I'm talking about people the sort of Understanding I'm referring to is the ability to relate to someone who's views are different than my own.
But there are other kinds of emotions, like Emotional Intelligence.
Emotional Intelligence - What It Is and Why It Matters
So with a high Emotional Intelligence and Understanding, comes Openness. And Openness is REALLY what I'm after. More than looks, or money, or any source of accomplishment. It is the willingness to be involved with new and challenging experiences in everything. This includes being open to learning, to emotional expression, to vulnerability, and to spiritual depth. Its being willing to learn how to drive a manual transmission, how to ride a motorcycle, how to dance or how to play a new instrument. Its being able to cry when your dog dies and at your wedding. Its being able to go to a Catholic, Orthodox, Baptist, or Presbyterian service without missing the forest for the Trees.
The people who are Open, they stick out to me.
There are things that matter more to me that intelligence. Or more specifically, there are different kinds of intelligence that I value above academic intelligence or even IQ.
However it is a virtue and from my experience. But its not a virtue unto itself. Proverbs talks a lot about "understanding." and I believe that intelligence leads to understanding. And when I'm talking about people the sort of Understanding I'm referring to is the ability to relate to someone who's views are different than my own.
But there are other kinds of emotions, like Emotional Intelligence.
Emotional Intelligence - What It Is and Why It Matters
So with a high Emotional Intelligence and Understanding, comes Openness. And Openness is REALLY what I'm after. More than looks, or money, or any source of accomplishment. It is the willingness to be involved with new and challenging experiences in everything. This includes being open to learning, to emotional expression, to vulnerability, and to spiritual depth. Its being willing to learn how to drive a manual transmission, how to ride a motorcycle, how to dance or how to play a new instrument. Its being able to cry when your dog dies and at your wedding. Its being able to go to a Catholic, Orthodox, Baptist, or Presbyterian service without missing the forest for the Trees.
The people who are Open, they stick out to me.