How to identify the right partner for love among your female friends?

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Don't be friends first? Date first? I've Never once done that in my entire life. I Always make friends first. Why would I want to date someone I don't know?
If you get friend zoned it's not because you were "friends first" but because they aren't interested.
 
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I’m a godly woman who’s met many ungodly men that Satan sent my way. The more I tried the more demonic things became. Think about it. People come into our lives everyday. The bible says if u are friendly you will have friends however there’s a big difference between doing things in the spirit and in the flesh. If u feel you need to work at finding love then by all means go for it. Cause in my opinion that’s works and you’ll surely find trouble. If God wanted to he could send u your wife to live next door to u if he wanted. I’m serious. But maybe none have come your way cause u aren’t ready. You don’t want to make things happen in the flesh like Abraham did with Ishmael. Seriously. The bible says seek Ye first the kingdom of god then all these things shall be added to u. Learn from my mistakes or go make your own. Your choice. But I hope u realise this. That u can find a marriage made in heaven until u first marry Christ. God won’t send us a spouse while we are still dating Jesus and not ready to fully be in Christ 100% and that takes time. Let patience have its perfect work. The devil is always in a hurry. And judging from your angry reply I’d say u feel a bit convicted and are still wanting to rush ahead of God. Jesus said his yoke is easy and his burden is light. You don’t actually need to work at God. In fact the only hard thing about walking with God is dying to self. Hugs
Wisely said and that's from me, the guy who ran ahead a long time! My heart is so full of love for God now and I won't lose it for a wrong woman.
 

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So only Bro. Tommy has the courage to tell his story about how he met his wife? Will anyone willing to share his/her story about how he met, dated and married his/her Godly partner in life? I hope it is not a big deal to most of my Christian brethren here at CC.

if you are in a relationship, it is okay if you will narrate your story about how you met your Godly bf or gf.
 

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I don't think it would work out well for me that way. I cannot feel comfortable around a girl who I barely know and immediately seek to become romantic with. I need to know the person really well before I am attracted (otherwise it seems more like lust). There was this one girl that I took no special notice of at first, but as I spent more time with her (we were in the same "Theme Learning Community" last year in college) I slowly developed a love that I had never experienced before. She would say seemingly unimportant things about herself, but these things automatically seemed special and important to me (like how she loves Almond milk and rollercoasters). She would greet everyone with a cute high pitched "hi ______!" that automatically made my day. She also could make the cutest faces. She was the first girl that I ever loved because of her personality first, and her looks grew on me (a lot) as I got to know her. What was awesome is that I didn't feel ashamed about my love for her because it was pure and not lustful. Unfortunately, she is not a Christian, but I have been praying for her salvation daily.

I wrote her a thank you note to show my appreciation for how she changed my life for the better. I told her how I was more of a loner before, but now I have opened up and am more comfortable being myself due to her. I am sure part of that was God's doing as well because it was a season of trial and transformation for me. She is really busy this summer and said she can't really focus on keeping the relationship going for the time being. It looks unlikely at this point due to that, but I have three more years of college left. Maybe it isn't God's will for it to be. If not, I have to yield. I'd be disappointed though. Hard to believe there is anyone better out there for me when you have only met one person who is so incredibly compassionate and kind. The bar has been set high. I have to trust God though; He knows best.
even she is not a Christian, as long as you can find the fruits of the Holy Spirit as mentioned in Galatians 5:22-23, then you can still have a relationship with her.

remember that there are sheep who even don't know Jesus' commandment but they will be saved as narrated in Matthew Chapter 25.

The golden rule for love is never partner with a furious, angry woman and likes to gossip.