Hello everyone. so for the past 4 years of moving to a new city. I still have not made any friends or really met people. I was wondering what you people do to meet people who want to make friends and put in effort. I have been trying to put effort into "friendships" and meeting people. but what i find is other people dont put in any work into a relationship/friendships anymore. I am just getting tired of being the one who initiates everything. i have gone a week with out messaging my "Friends" and they never said hi or wondered how i was doing. Is it just me who feels this?
Well, I am going through a different situation and so it does not apply to your inquiry, but you ever wonder if Jesus ever felt that way in His relationship with you? Course, He does not really expect anything from us other than to trust in Him for all things.
If we see the longsuffering Jesus has towards us and others in being our Friend, it does make one wonder if we should be leaning on Him to be that kind of friend to others in spite of what appears to be a lack of interests on their part?
They say that a true blue friend is hard to find. Fair weather friends comes and goes.
In this day and age, people are set in their routine and private circle or cliche to let any one else in.
I am sure you will find others in the same state at the church you attend in that city. Is there a fellowship group of your age bracket that you can attend? If so, is there a way to broaden that fellowship to a social outing like bowling or whatever?
It's great to have Jesus with us always so that whenever we need Him, He is there for us as our Best True Blue Friend there is.
Maybe that is all you can do and have control over; being available by God's hand when someone needs a friend?
But that means being a friend to someone that you would prefer it be somebody else. By doing that, you may just come across as a true blue friend to that preferred somebody else, but no matter what, you can only be that kind of friend.
So what if it takes your effort to initialize anything? At least they are responding. You can thank the Lord for that, right?