I do not want to get married. Is there something wrong with me?

[AbigailZeke]

I am a Christian woman who is almost half way to fifty and I have no desire to get married. Some of my family members think I am weird, and I feel like I will let them down if I don't get married. They keep telling me I am going to be sad and alone the rest of my life if I don't.

Has as anyone else on here been through this?
I feel like I am being selfish and sinning by not wanting to date or get married.

It's okay! Lol I guess I'm a little more than half way to 50 lol. And yeah I get ya, my mom and friends at church are praying for me to get married already lol! I think they just get scared for us ya know? It's true they think we'll live the rest of our lives alone and that we're gonna be sad. Well, they're our family so they worry. No it's not selfishness at all. I know someone who got married at 55. xD She went to write a book and start a school first, before marrying lol. She married a minister.

 

[Legryphon]

Thank you all so much for the funny and uplifting messages, and for the very helpful advice! And now that I think about it, I have no clue why I said "half way to 50" haha. You guys are great! )

 

[Oncefallen]

I ALMOST AM 50..

**Rolls eyes**

Give it a couple of years more before you start beating the "almost 50" drum Kim.

 

[seoulsearch]

**Rolls eyes**

Give it a couple of years more before you start beating the "almost 50" drum Kim.

OH NO, don't you go rolling your eyes at ME, sir!!!

What can I say, I like to keep myself braced for reality!!

Don't make me pull out the big guns and call Roh_Chris in here!!

*On a serious note, when I was 25 I had practically an entire congregation tell me I'd get married again in a few years. Sure... then age 30 passed... then age 40... I'm a realist. 50 isn't all that far away.*

 

[Lynx]

Go back to that church and ask for a definition of "few."

 

[seoulsearch]

Go back to that church and ask for a definition of "few."

Obviously, they meant "a few"--decades.

Let's all hear it for for accurate "prophecies"!!

 

[Lynx]

In a few decades WE'LL ALL BE DEAD!

 

[Tinkerbell725]

In a few decades WE'LL ALL BE DEAD!

No I plan to live forever.

 

[Lynx]

"Man should live forever or die trying."

- Spider Robinson

 

[KoalateaHarmony]

I don't think there's anything wrong with not wanting to be married. Maybe down the road God might cause you to have a change of heart. After all, it's His way not ours

 

[Utah]

I am a Christian woman who is almost half way to fifty and I have no desire to get married. Some of my family members think I am weird, and I feel like I will let them down if I don't get married. They keep telling me I am going to be sad and alone the rest of my life if I don't.

Has as anyone else on here been through this?
I feel like I am being selfish and sinning by not wanting to date or get married.

Almost half way to 50? You still have a lot of living ahead of you. And no, staying single is not sinful. Who the heck told you that nonsense?

Remember this, one day you may feel the desire to marry, but maybe you won't. Through it all, keep God first in your life and know that you are loved and cherished by Him.

 

[BurlyCarl]

I am a Christian woman who is almost half way to fifty and I have no desire to get married. Some of my family members think I am weird, and I feel like I will let them down if I don't get married. They keep telling me I am going to be sad and alone the rest of my life if I don't.

Has as anyone else on here been through this?
I feel like I am being selfish and sinning by not wanting to date or get married.

Only 25! You are not weird. It is not your families choice on when "you choose" to be married. Really think about it and ask. Am I sad being single? If your answer is no. Then be happy! Is their a deadline on anyone who has to be married by a certain age in life? Survey says! No!

I have been though this and I am a guy. I have heard everything from "when are going to meet a nice girl" to "when are you going to have me some grandkids". Is their some rule that says I am supposed to sprout children at the call of someone else. No.... You are not sinning being single. The Bible actually says that is better for a man to remain single. You choose when you get married. Not your family.