I Don't Want Kids, Sue Me

[wisebeardman]

nice grave dig folks

 

[Tintin]

Sorry, mate. I should've checked the posting dates more clearly. Why do people initially reply to such old threads?

 

[thecreationtutor]

I can respect that, though I wouldn't pursue marriage if I had that attitude. If you can't handle children, how can you handle someone your directly responsible before God for? You know that a good marriage takes a lot of work, and is painful right?

 

[Liamson]

I want to build a legacy; leave it all better than how I found it.


This means, I'm not going to introduce life into the world without first considering the repercussions of this. How I count the cost of what it means to have children is directly related to my expectations of myself, their mother, and their environment.


I realize that I'm wired differently than women in this respect. To me having children is about bestowing a legacy of wisdom, compassion and understanding. I want the values and principles that I live by, to go on or not at all. This to me is not worth less than all the treasure in the kingdom.

Rabbit Trail Rant.............

I'm okay with not at all. In the same way that I would rather stay single than have a mediocre relationship. I want a love that is BETTER than I could expect. And its not hard, its simply wanting to be the very best.

In order for better to happen it has to be with someone who believes in better too. Not someone who doesn't want to date a guy who hits her, who doesn't go to church and who isn't an alcoholic. There is a difference in not doing what is wrong and striving to do what is right.


A life well lived is not measured by the negative things that didn't happen. Its measured by how people loved and overcame it all to make it with courage and faith.

 

[ji]

Just wanted some insight here; apparently I'm some kind of heartless somebody because I don't want kids, ever. Kids are a huge hassle that I don't want to deal with, they usually grow up to be disappointments, and above all of that I wouldn't want me to be responsible for bringing yet another human being into this awful world we've got. They also cut in greatly on the intimacy between the husband and wife when it's just the two of them and not a bunch of pitter-pattering feet running around. Also I'm not too sure I'd be the best of dads, and given that I like a good deal of peace and quiet (and considering all the other reasons I mentioned above) NOT having kids is a no-brainer. So what about that makes me heartless or cold? I've talked about this quite a number of times with girls I know and they all are gung-ho about having kids when they get married. I don't think they quite understand what it's like. I've seen it time and time again with women that want kids: they finally get married, then they get pregnant and all the subsequent "oh how beautiful she looks when she's pregnant" nonsense, then she actually has the kid and the proverbial puppy that she's always wanted suddenly ain't as fun as what she thought it was. Then there's the mutual getting woken up at zero dark thirty in the morning by screaming, teething offspring and NOT getting back to sleep again until about the time that you have to get going about the day, and all for what? What is the point of having kids? Is it for the personal enjoyment of watching them grow and develop into whatever they become? If that's the reason, then I would suggest that any woman wanting to have kids get a houseplant instead. They don't wet their diaper, stay out late or get into trouble at school, and if they start to get out of hand, you either prune them or throw them out all together. It's a win-win.

i am pretty sure you will change your mind once you marry
Life is not a romantic movie.sooner or later your husband wife dream smooching sessions will be over(getting bored) and you will start saying lets have kids.

 

[Practice-English]

I don't want to have kids too...
I'm serious about that even when I was younger
I did not want to have kids!
So don't worry you're not the Only one who doesn't want to raise children...

 

[Roseanna]

If you are certain that you do not want kids then get a vasectomy so that you are guaranteed not to get a woman pregnant. At my age I do not want to have more children either, but I am blessed to have children. My children help me to enjoy Christmas, and holidays, they joy to my heart. I would not change that for the world even though I was left no choice but to raise them on my own. The closes thing to heaven is a child. Having said that children are a big responsibility that not everyone can handle.

Everyone has a choice, if your choice is not to have children, that is fine. As long as you inform any women that you plan on being with of your choice. It does leave you more time to travel and live your life with less responsibility.

Best Wishes.

 

[p_rehbein]

You guys do know this thread is from 2011? And before your comments, the last one was in 2014?

Just saying...............