I Don't Want to be an Old Maid!!!

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BrokenHearted1025

BrokenHearted1025

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I'm 28, educated, and never been married. I live in a town that has married and dating couples. Everytime I walk down the street or if I'm at the grocery store or at walmart and I see either a dating couple or a married couple, I always leave the store crying in my car because I want a significant other in my life. On my mom's side of the family, my cousins are dating, getting engaged, even being married. On my dad's side, some of my cousins are divorced, engaged, married and dating. I sometimes envy them. Sometimes I'm afraid that I will end up being an old maid.

Last night (June 25th), I dreamt that I was 75 years old, lonely and living with 10 dogs, 2 cats and 25 singing canaries!!!! Sometimes I think that this would be me in the future as an old spinster.

Why can't I find a man who I would like to grow with spiritually and romantically to the point where I would become Mrs. instead of Miss?
 
djness

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Try a dating site? I know several couples [personal friends not just through-the-grapevine couples] who have meet and married people from dating sites and have been married going on 5+ years.
 
BrokenHearted1025

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Hey djness, I've tried online dating, and nothing worked but I gave in to online dating again so I'll try it again and keep you posted. Thanks.
 
Calmador

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Hey Broken

I know what that feels like... I'm 26 and worry myself too. Have you ever thought about maybe relocating? It sounds like you live in a small town where most people are taken. Also,its worth mentioning to try young adult groups, singles groups, or just ministry actually. I'd think you'd find good guys working in ministry. However, ministry should be a place where you serve for God not look for a guy.

In short, do your best to find places to socialize. You meet nice people that way. Also, how are your social skills? I know I have some trouble in that department... social skills are important.
 
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You will get married...you are beautiful and intelligent...
Trust God...There is an amazing who will spot and love you.
You are doing well...keep going...
The guys who have not stepped out are just not ready.
You'll meet him and you'll know...
keep up the good work.
 
BrokenHearted1025

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Hey Calmador, I'm planning to move by the end of the year, and I'll try to find a group ministry, and I'm fully aware that ministries are to serve God and not look for a man, lol.

As far as social skills, they're okay but need polishing.
 
BrokenHearted1025

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Hey Sunburn, thank you very much for those encouraging words.
 
tourist

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You have asked a very interesting question.
 
Amil

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I just wanted you to read this:

3 Trust in the LORD and do good; dwell in the land and enjoy safe pasture. 4 Delight yourself in the LORD and he will give you the desires of your heart. 5 Commit your way to the LORD; trust in him and he will do this: 6 He will make your righteousness shine like the dawn, the justice of your cause like the noonday sun. 7 Be still before the LORD and wait patiently for him; do not fret when men succeed in their ways, when they carry out their wicked schemes. Psalm 37:3-7

Couple of years ago I felt like you and I know exactly how it feels. But I trusted God and I asked Him and I prayed for her until she came. She changed my life and I feel lucky to found her. There are many men out there waiting for that special one. Trust the Lord like I did, take delight in Him and keep praying and He will choose the perfect one for you. Meanwhile, smile, be in peace everyday and let others see your light.

Be blessed.
 
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BrokenHearted1025 said:
Hey Calmador, I'm planning to move by the end of the year, and I'll try to find a group ministry, and I'm fully aware that ministries are to serve God and not look for a man, lol.

As far as social skills, they're okay but need polishing.
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You need to develop a game plan and stick with it. Look at the daily & current events in your community or city that are draw heavy young male participates. Attend events that draw men that you would like to meet. If you can find a non-competitive girlfriend to attend with you ... all the better. Courting, dating have changed dramatically during the last 50 years and women will need to step up to the plate and let these guys know that they are serious about a relationship & marriage. Too many women send "false & mix" signals that just confuse and anger these men. It is one of many reasons why many men will not pursue a relationship with today's women. There are just to many "head games" being played. Women will need to be more aggressive in their pursue of men if they are to win their knights in shining armor. If she doesn't, then the next woman will.
 
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tourist

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biscuit said:
You need to develop a game plan and stick with it. Look at the daily & current events in your community or city that are draw heavy young male participates. Attend events that draw men that you would like to meet. If you can find a non-competitive girlfriend to attend with you ... all the better. Courting, dating have changed dramatically during the last 50 years and women will need to step up to the plate and let these guys know that they are serious about a relationship & marriage. Too many women send "false & mix" signals that just confuse and anger these men. It is one of many reasons why many men will not pursue a relationship with today's women. There are just to many "head games" being played. Women will need to be more aggressive in their pursue of men if they are to win their knights in shining armor. If she doesn't, then the next woman will.
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You are a man with a plan. I have a Rules of Engagement thread along these same lines but your post was outstanding.
 
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tourist said:
You are a man with a plan. I have a Rules of Engagement thread along these same lines but your post was outstanding.
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Thank you very much for your kind comment.
 
mailmandan

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Hang in there BrokenHearted. Mr. Right may be right around the corner! I will be praying for you. :)
 
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Here's one piece of advice.
Try it for a month =)

Smile at everyone you meet. One month exercise.
I talked to a counselor once, and he told me that to draw people in you have to smile.
If you do this, tell us the results =)
 
BrokenHearted1025

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I would bring a non competitive friend with me but here's the thing... I don't have any friends where I live.
 
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