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Markum1972

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rachelsedge said:
It's not just the fact that this isn't a dating website; the attitude is a bit off putting. "I know this isn't what it is but I don't care and you won't change my mind."

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Agreed Rachel. I think that Ammi is upset. It can be difficult at times to be alone when you have a great desire to love and be loved. Hang in there, Ammi. Draw even closer to the Lord in your time of need. Remember... first seek the kingdom of God and His righteousness... then these other things will be added to you. He shall provide. Trust Him. :)

Oh... by the way... how rude of me.
AmmiAmmiel... meet Jen2013. Jen2013... meet AmmiAmmiel.
I can be so bad with introductions sometimes. Sheesh. LOL
 
Elizabeth619

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RoboOp said:
Okay I understand you're referring to Christian singles sites, and not our site here, as this site is free, but as a Christian webmaster who is overworked and grossly underpaid, I must say it's a little odd that people want such service -- even for the most important thing in their life, finding a lifetime partner -- and don't want to chip in one dime for all the hard work and real expense that any very active Christian site would have.

And I would think that finding your lifetime partner would be well worth a few dollars, and that SHE would be well worth thousands of times that to you, and I would think that being willing to shell out a few dollars would be a better sign of financial preparedness for marriage and willingness to shower that special one with your money and your life, not to mention showing appreciation for the hard work of people devoting their lives to helping you find that person, and help with their real expenses.

Just speaking as a Christian webmaster and site owner, even though I know your comments were not about our site.
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Is this kinda like asking a girl to dinner then refusing to pay for the meal? ;)
 
RoboOp

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Elizabeth619 said:
Is this kinda like asking a girl to dinner then refusing to pay for the meal? ;)
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Yes Elizabeth, they shouldn't have to pay for the girl's meal. :D Or even their own meal. They're entitled. They shouldn't have to pay for such privileges. ;) :D

And I know every girl wants a man like that.

[Not sure if I should post this or not, but I can't resist.] :D
 
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Elizabeth619

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RoboOp said:
Yes Elizabeth, they shouldn't have to pay for the girl's meal. :D Or even their own meal. They're entitled. They shouldn't have to pay for such privileges. ;) :D

And I know every girl wants a man like that.

Man should I have posted this? :D
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I went on a date with a guy who took me to a gas station for a hot dog. I should have known then that something wasn't right.

This particular guy is Wesley's father too. :/
I guess he had me at "would you like ketchup or mustard?"
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I now have an idea for a thread. Stay tuned.
 
RoboOp

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Elizabeth619 said:
I went on a date with a guy who took me to a gas station for a hot dog. I should have known then that something wasn't right.

This particular guy is Wesley's father too. :/
I guess he had me at "would you like ketchup or mustard?"
Dum de dummmm



I now have an idea for a thread. Stay tuned.
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Man I'm feeling convicted now. Before we married, I took my wife on a McDonald's soft serve ice cream date.

And another time we went on a "Bangkok city tour" date. 3.5 baht (about 12 cents) each on a crowded city bus (which left us stranded and totally lost on the other site of the city when it parked in the bus garage -- I wrongly assumed it would come back to where it started).

Then when we married I just took her to the magistrate. No money for a white wedding.

But hey, the local (American) pastor there said that the best dates he and his wife had when they were courting were those simple McDonald's soft serve dates.... so ....... and even getting stranded on the other side of the city was fun adventure. ;) Am I redeeming myself now? :)

And who needs a white wedding? My friend had a big white wedding and the girl left him -- with their baby!

P.S. Yes I did buy a gold ring, for what it's worth. And a big teddy bear.

P.S. Again: And I did always pay for everything :D
 
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It's the moment that counts.
- The moment, and the food.
Yea, you just happened to come up short on that bus ride.
- - Robo......you sly dog.
 
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I think it's the quality of the time spent together.. not the price of the date. I have more respect for a guy who knows he has a budget and plans the date accordingly, than one who sets his sights on a big pricey "This is sure to impress" date. You know what impresses me? Thriftiness. :)
 
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Bridget_Left_China said:
I think it's the quality of the time spent together.. not the price of the date. I have more respect for a guy who knows he has a budget and plans the date accordingly, than one who sets his sights on a big pricey "This is sure to impress" date. You know what impresses me? Thriftiness. :)
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Thrifty.
Yeah... the keyword for my next day will be thrifty...

"Where am I taking you tonight?
I"m taking you to the beach, and I'm going to get you a big handful of fresh sparkly sand.
Sand is awesome. God made it you know.
You can have all you want."

: )
 
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Why does one need to receive presents for it to be a successful date? I, personally, am not on a date to see what prizes I can win, but to get to know the man I am with a little better each time. That can be done at a taco truck just as easily as at an expensive restaurant. :D I would treasure the sand! I would bring it home and place it in a cute glass container so I could remember the date always. Maybe I am too sentimental though.
 
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DuchessAimee

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I'd gather some sand to keep too. Maybe a seashell if I found one. Some of my best dates were going for walks or drives. Money is nice and all, but it comes and goes. I've been well off and I've been dirt poor. Either way, life goes on.

Quality time and good conversation is my personal cup of tea.
 
seoulsearch

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AmmiAmmiel said:
I'm not yet convinced I should have to pay for such privileges,..
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Salvation wasn't free.

Why is it that many Christians seem to think everything else should be?

I have yet to figure that out.
 
DuchessAimee

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seoulsearch said:
Salvation wasn't free.

Why is it that many Christians seem to think everything else should be?

I have yet to figure that out.
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Sometimes we forget how much it cost Christ to purchase our salvation. I marvel at the love and grace and sacrifice he made. Honestly I don't understand why hung on that cross for me. I can't quite wrap my mind around it. But I'm often reminded that I don't have to understand his love. I just have to accept it.
 
Elizabeth619

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Bridget_Left_China said:
I think it's the quality of the time spent together.. not the price of the date. I have more respect for a guy who knows he has a budget and plans the date accordingly, than one who sets his sights on a big pricey "This is sure to impress" date. You know what impresses me? Thriftiness. :)
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In my case the hot dog date may have been a sign.
This is Wesley's dad I'm talking about who is also $20,000 behind in child support.
 
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Bridget_Left_China said:
I think it's the quality of the time spent together.. not the price of the date.
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Indeed. The US Treasury Dept. has not yet printed enough dollars for a man to buy my heart neither has my integrity ever been for sale. :D

I rather be in the presence of godly company with a fellow who consistently protects my integrity with his honor, than to be showered with expensive gifts.
 
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AmmiAmmiel said:
I'm looking for a True Christian partner who is Calvinistic in her beliefs... So if you are interested, message me instead of commenting here.
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Pardon me, but godly girls are not in the habit of seeking out the brothers. That's your job to seek out the sister who interests you; therefore, it's not proper for a brother to place the burden on the sister to "message" you. ...just sayin' :D
 
RoboOp

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Theygaveutheirworst said:
I like what this thread turned into...
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Well that's one reason why I don't want to make a rule against these "singles ad" type threads: they always turn out to be very entertaining ;) :D
 
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BananaPie said:
Indeed. The US Treasury Dept. has not yet printed enough dollars for a man to buy my heart neither has my integrity ever been for sale. :D

I rather be in the presence of godly company with a fellow who consistently protects my integrity with his honor, than to be showered with expensive gifts.
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BananaPie has anyone ever told you that you have a BEAUTIFUL....... font? ;)
 
Elizabeth619

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BananaPie said:
Pardon me, but godly girls are not in the habit of seeking out the brothers. That's your job to seek out the sister who interests you; therefore, it's not proper for a brother to place the burden on the sister to "message" you. ...just sayin' :D
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Then there a people like me who prefer for a man to NOT message me. I don't come too CC to find a potential mate(well, I already have one) but I have been outright harassed by some who don't understand NO.
 
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