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eeb017

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I want to be united with a women in my life. I pray for discernment in all my decision making moments. Jesus teaches the persistence in prayer to be heard. Am I misreading situations and missing God's blessings when there is an obvious attraction with a women and I don't pursue her? Am I being too open about my lack of confidence engaging with the opposite sex? I have an idea in my mind of what I want in a potential life partner. Are my standards too high for myself and the discombobulation of my mind seconds prior to speaking to them cause for avoidance or a lesson to work through to learn charisma?
I'm in my mid 30s, single, learning Christianity and searching for a better relationship with God. I have what I consider less than ideal situations in my past that I allowed to condemn me that I learn to live with on a daily basis. I have many inadequacies that I'm aware of that I work on on a regular basis. Some days are more dedicated than others. I enjoy life and am looking for a potential life partner with like views. Here's a disclaimer. I'm *unemployed, some **college, a problem with ***alcohol, ****cigarettes, *****homelessness, ******issues when 'Christians' tell me about God's plan.
*I search for work on a regular basis.
**I am enrolled to attend class in Spring
***I have 115 days of sobriety.
****I have 28 days without cigarettes.
*****I live in a sober living.
******I attend a worship service weekly and am learning 'God's Word.'
Im thankful for every breath, it is a reminder for all God has done for me and the chance at opportunity to do more.
 
Gary

Gary

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I think you should work on your discombobulation and go from there.
 
Jenizona

Jenizona

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Congratulations on the sobriety and giving up cigs! Wow!! And yes, when there is an obvious attraction, you should pursue her. :)
 
Dino246

Dino246

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Welcome, eeb017!
It sounds like you are working through a lot at this time. I'd suggest that you would do well to keep walking with Jesus, put your desire for a female companion in His hands completely, and let Him work on you.

You may have seen the movie, "28 Days" with Sandra Bullock. The advice given to the recovering addicts at the end of the program was to focus on very simple relationships (in that case, a plant) for the first year. I'm not suggesting that, exactly, but I would suggest that you spend at least a year alone with Jesus. Otherwise, you may start leaning on her for strength instead of on Him. Only when you are solidly established in Him are you ready for another relationship.
 
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eeb017

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I haven't seen 28 days, I do understand the reasoning behind the building up to a relationship.
 
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eeb017

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I agree. If I see this particular women again I'm definitely going to.
 
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