I'm worried that I have the gift of celbusy. Is there anyway to know if I have it?
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Well it says some of us are called to be celibate for God's Kingdom. Here's an example: Jesus replied, "Not everyone can accept this word, but only those to whom it has been given. 12For some are eunuchs because they were born that way; others were made that way by men; and others have renounced marriage[a]because of the kingdom of heaven. The one who can accept this should accept it." (Matthew 19:11-12) Which is God appointed some of us to be celibate for his kingdom, and some us chose to be celibate (forever) for his kingdom.
And some of use chose to be celibate, here's an example: I am saying this for your own good, not to restrict you, but that you may live in a right way in undivided devotion to the Lord. (1 Corinthians 7:35) Paul is talking about it being the "undivided devotion to the Lord" which means we chose to that, we devote ourselves to the Lord and no one else.
Hope this helps.
And some of use chose to be celibate, here's an example: I am saying this for your own good, not to restrict you, but that you may live in a right way in undivided devotion to the Lord. (1 Corinthians 7:35) Paul is talking about it being the "undivided devotion to the Lord" which means we chose to that, we devote ourselves to the Lord and no one else.
Hope this helps.
Can I be truly honest?? I wonder..... and I stand corrected maybe, whether the question you are asking isnt the real issue here. To me, your question speaks of someone who places high priority on having a significant other and feeling inadequate because you havent/dont. Are we talking more about your own sense of self worth or esteem in that?
Hey, look at my age.....Im not married.....I've had one real relationship which ended 16 years ago.....I know what its like!
However, unless I find my contentment in all circumstances through my relationship with Jesus Christ, I will only find myself being needy of affirmation in a relationship and open to being susceptable to placing that person in the position that God should be in my life and if/when that happens everything turns to custard!!! Your 20, stop stressing and just be yourself, get out there with your friends, have fun and above all place your future in the Lords hands...he has great plans for you! Read: Jeremiah 29:11.
God bless
Hey, look at my age.....Im not married.....I've had one real relationship which ended 16 years ago.....I know what its like!
However, unless I find my contentment in all circumstances through my relationship with Jesus Christ, I will only find myself being needy of affirmation in a relationship and open to being susceptable to placing that person in the position that God should be in my life and if/when that happens everything turns to custard!!! Your 20, stop stressing and just be yourself, get out there with your friends, have fun and above all place your future in the Lords hands...he has great plans for you! Read: Jeremiah 29:11.
God bless
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ok so... im 19 right... ive had had 1 serious relationship...
but it Got in the way of my realationship with God...
i know having a companion sounds like the best thing since sliced bread but... it will get it the way weather your both believers or not... unless it is the will of God of course....
no matter how strong we think we are it can pull us down...
its like drawing a line in the sand and saying .. "ok im deff not going near that line... but ok a hug here and a kiss there... thats no where near the line....
but by the time you catch yourself your right there at the line....
now luckily God grabed me b4 i got to the line but i felt sooooo bad for even coimg with in 10 miles of the line...
lolz i just reread this.... i hope it makes sense but thats the only way i know to put it....
God will send a mate and we'll be ready for them but untill then just kick back and let God consume you with His love... and let Him be everything you feel that your in need of....
but it Got in the way of my realationship with God...
i know having a companion sounds like the best thing since sliced bread but... it will get it the way weather your both believers or not... unless it is the will of God of course....
no matter how strong we think we are it can pull us down...
its like drawing a line in the sand and saying .. "ok im deff not going near that line... but ok a hug here and a kiss there... thats no where near the line....
but by the time you catch yourself your right there at the line....
now luckily God grabed me b4 i got to the line but i felt sooooo bad for even coimg with in 10 miles of the line...
lolz i just reread this.... i hope it makes sense but thats the only way i know to put it....
God will send a mate and we'll be ready for them but untill then just kick back and let God consume you with His love... and let Him be everything you feel that your in need of....
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...and you probably will be until you find someone, I would say don't obsess about it but it seems you already are.
The fact is almost 6 years is not very long at all to be without female companionship especially when some of them are your teenage years, you keep saying you have trouble getting to know girls so it seems obvious that you have to work on your social skills, not knowing how you behave around girls makes it impossible to give you any specific advice.
Everyone understands what it's like to be preoccupied with wanting a partner but there is no way to just fix it, just going on about it will not make any difference, consider that it may not be you but the girls you are around may just not be your type, at 26 I'm past 10 years of looking and it isn't anything I've done, the fact is the general culture in my area is very different from what I enjoy doing so I can't relate to many young women, it's just a fact of life, so maybe it isn't all about what can you do, maybe there's nothing you can do but be patient and stop seeing it as a problem to be solved.
The fact is almost 6 years is not very long at all to be without female companionship especially when some of them are your teenage years, you keep saying you have trouble getting to know girls so it seems obvious that you have to work on your social skills, not knowing how you behave around girls makes it impossible to give you any specific advice.
Everyone understands what it's like to be preoccupied with wanting a partner but there is no way to just fix it, just going on about it will not make any difference, consider that it may not be you but the girls you are around may just not be your type, at 26 I'm past 10 years of looking and it isn't anything I've done, the fact is the general culture in my area is very different from what I enjoy doing so I can't relate to many young women, it's just a fact of life, so maybe it isn't all about what can you do, maybe there's nothing you can do but be patient and stop seeing it as a problem to be solved.
I am almost 24 and more or less in the same situation as you. I don't think I'm going to be celibate. I plan on getting married some day. I am just waiting until girls grow up mentally to my level.
20 is too young to start worrying about it as much as you are doing. Society and especially Hollywood is trying to force it down our throats that if you didn't get STD's by 19 you arnt a person. Don't conform to society man. The carnal world is not of God.
And yea, I gotta speak the truth for your own good. You are kind of obsessed with this topic. I think you started like 4 threads about it already. I understand you completely man, but being obsessed with it like that is not a good thing.
As I said in all your other threads, what you need is self confidence. You are in serious lack of it. As weird as it sounds, you have to not care about girls in order to get girls. You have to be an independent person and have self respect. And you don't do it for the girls, but for yourself. It took me a while to learn this.
20 is too young to start worrying about it as much as you are doing. Society and especially Hollywood is trying to force it down our throats that if you didn't get STD's by 19 you arnt a person. Don't conform to society man. The carnal world is not of God.
And yea, I gotta speak the truth for your own good. You are kind of obsessed with this topic. I think you started like 4 threads about it already. I understand you completely man, but being obsessed with it like that is not a good thing.
As I said in all your other threads, what you need is self confidence. You are in serious lack of it. As weird as it sounds, you have to not care about girls in order to get girls. You have to be an independent person and have self respect. And you don't do it for the girls, but for yourself. It took me a while to learn this.
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Then be very happy, because once you meet the right one, this will all be even much much more special. I never had any real boyfriend myself before meeting my husband, he was the one I experienced my first kiss with, romantic hugs, and well, everything that there is in a relationship, and now also in marriage. I wanted everything to become more special when meeting the Right One for me, and it sure was. 
My husband said that he didn't felt like many girls liked him either, but still, God made him meet me. The right girl for you will certainly like you a lot, and why care about all the others when she will come by sometime and then become all yours? In the Right Timing, you will both meet, so just keep on holding on to God, and keep that faith up, because God will provide!
My husband said that he didn't felt like many girls liked him either, but still, God made him meet me.
The right girl for you will certainly like you a lot, and why care about all the others when she will come by sometime and then become all yours? In the Right Timing, you will both meet, so just keep on holding on to God, and keep that faith up, because God will provide!